Tag: #startingover

Too often, we assume somethings wrong with us.

We should be happy, but instead you feel a tinge of resentment towards your own circle. It’s subtle.

Maybe now, you’re looking at recreational drugs, distractions with weekend getaways, casual sex with strangers, etc. You wanna fill the hole.

But we don’t ever think it’s just this level, you’ve reached its end and now you need to move on.

A lot of our desires disappear when we’re facing anything new. Throw yourself in uncharted territory and a lot of your own demons disappear too.

Theres no such thing as stuck.

You don’t have to be here.

Most of my problems are summed up by this– I stop progressing and I immediately feel all the bad shit that comes with it.

If you need to switch careers, do it. Move states, do it. Take on new hobbies, dew– it.

Life rewards momentum and punishes stillness.

Don’t overthink it.

If you feel off, it’s data– you need to change the scenery.

#FOOLON

I should never have free time.

A conversation with a friend finally simplified and made tangible my spiritual problem– I can’t be bored.

I do very stupid things out of restlessness, and those urges only ever pop up when I’m not engaged with my own work and life.

So, rather than follow the focus-preneurs who teach the art of tripling down on one thing, I’m going the opposite direction.

Multiple hats in a day.

I NEED variety.

It’s my only tether to the present.

My advice for you is this: Watch yourself. Study yourself. Observe like a scientist.

You have to understand what makes you do the things you do, you have to know your triggers– it’s the only way to get ahead.

I know given any extra time, my mind looks to push eject out of monotony and send me into some fantastical delusion.

AND That’s where pain and failure lives– divorced from reality.

You can’t wish away your wiring, but you can change the environment to reward it.

#FOOLFWD

It’s hard as shit for me to not grass-is-greener my life.

I know if I stay fully committed to the things in front of me, success is guaranteed– might not be what you imagined, but you’ll go far.

Reality usually finds you sitting on a park bench, and that’s where you realize:

I don’t have any real problems.

I’m lucky.

I get to pursue my dreams, goals, and aspirations.

I get to be dissatisfied and wanting more.

I preach attitude a lot, because with it you’ll create opportunity out of the mundane, and everything eventually becomes mundane.

This post is a reminder to self– that idea that something out there is more exciting is a false one. You bring the excitement with your approach. There is no place to go to and just randomly live a cocaine fueled choose your own adventure movie.

Also, I’m kinda starting to hate the concept of life being a movie, I’ll switch to game.

In a game, you play and need to level up.

In a movie, you need an exciting story…. and building isn’t.

The point here?

Whatever you have, you make more out of it by embracing it and leaning in– not looking over at others, or escaping.

How do you make what you have better?

#FOOLFWD

When you finally understand the unchangeable aspects of who you are– it’s laughable looking back at what you thought you could do.

First, let me start with this:

If you’re looking for something, (new career, move, friend groups, whatever) start with the process of elimination NOT addition.

What’s in your life right now, that if removed, would dramatically improve your everyday experiences?

The NON- successful negotiate what wasn’t up for debate and don’t the things that don’t matter.

There ought to be a book for this, fine… I’ll write it in the future.

For now, you have to understand your character is responsible for everything in your life. If your life is maximizing your character, you’ll win. If not, you’ll lose.

It sounds so simple you probably think you’re doing this.

But it has to account for everything, free of guilt. You are who you are, and you need to channel it into your every day.

I used to see myself as ultra adaptable. Smooth. Charming. An overall pleasure to be around. I’m not joking either, BUT journaling and documenting myself throughout the years, along with having real friends– has outlined my reality.

The truth is I’m aggressive, blunt, overly competitive, despise rules and procedures, put myself first, and think that I always have the best solutions.

So how the phuck did I think I could go and play industry games as a writer or producer?

I didn’t know myself enough.

But now, it’s a different story.

Since I have a cancel-able face, I’m building my OWN brand and multiple income streams. That’s the only real option for how the hell I am.

And this is your task.

Where would your character thrive?

What are things you do every single day, that are not being used? This is 🔑

It’s what you can’t help but do, that needs to be brought to the surface and built around.

Wanna succeed in every aspect? Embrace yourself, become your number 1 fan, and be ruthless with what you allow for your life.

#FOOLFWD

I get excited too easily.

That might not sound like a problem, but it’s influenced me in making unwise short term decisions.

I used to say yes to every opportunity just to get more juice out of every squeeze, then later, I’d wonder why I had the strongest urge to cut everything off.

In truth, I never cared about most things.

Not in a cool stoic way either.

More in a very irrational sense.

I don’t care about changing my mind in seconds, burning money for nothing, turning down work I just agreed to, and NOW I don’t care about showing/leading with my disagreeable nature.

There was a time I could play the game, but what kinda game is that?

Authenticity erases competition, so really– theres only one game, being you. Learning this has changed everything for how I choose to play and with who.

Our work shapes us.

You can hate it all you want, but that’s how it is. And mine has definitely shaped me– I’m very lucky. It’s brought out more of me to the surface, and yes, this is from me learning and developing myself too, but I’ve become WAY MORE OF WHAT I AM.

With that, I started taking on client work.

Realizing I want to explore and develop myself, I thought side hustling would produce nice cash flow and potentially my own agency. But through the client work I realized something else…

… No.

I don’t like it. And not only do I NEVER try to make it work, I divorce immediately.

What has turning down clients taught me?

Sometimes what you really love is just the idea, not the actual desire and that’s okay– but then don’t hold onto it knowing that.

I want to enjoy my life, every second.

I won’t work with individuals unlike me, and I mean that in the big picture sense. If you get hung up on details, fight with store employees, or waste your time yelling at someone to “make things right”— I never want anything to do with you.

That shit is disgusting to me.

And you do you, but in my life I’m ruthless with what I allow.

You should be too.

Lead your own life, #FOOLFWD

Life IS what you make it, but your mind isn’t a friend to you.

This is probably the best and most important way of thinking about the brain. When we overreact, or “grow” paranoid, it’s us allowing the mind to lead us— and the mind is a shitty leader.

“Instinct” has to be one of the worst excuses for not knowing why you do or don’t do some things.

We automatically trust our mind, and that’s a mistake.

I use mbti to overcome delusion, you can use whatever you want– the only catch is it has to work during the moment. Here’s what I mean:

I’m an entp.

And Ne (leader function of the brain) SUX.

Ne loves different– it likes it so much that even when my life is awesome it plays the internal movie of me moving to another state, partying, closing big money deals, and living my movie devoid of any buffering or commercial breaks.

Following Ne has only led to failure.

Because I need to BUILD to get ahead in life, which I’m doing, and every single time I’ve done that– I get ahead.

So, when I catch myself doing the, “I need to move” “I need excitement” “this aint living” — I remind myself:

Dipshit, that’s Ne overreacting again, don’t fall for it.

And I’m free of it in that moment. Even if the movie still plays it, it has no hold over me.

This is key for all of us.

You need a way to step outside of your minds hold. Understanding it and having clear cut terms is the best way I know how.

By knowing that it’s Ne playing me, and not me, I’m able to overcome it.

Understanding where your mind does this is key.

Don’t believe everything you feel, that’s the first step. Also– if personality types and psychology has more demand, I’ll explore that for you all here.

Til next time, #FOOLFWD

When you approach the sword unworthy, even if you’re tomorrows chosen one, you’ll fail to pull it from the stone— today.

I stay away from ginormous goals.

They’re empty, and yes I still want them.

–But I’m not there so moving towards them prematurely would throw away my progress.

You want the low hanging fruit, initially.

The thing I’m doing differently now is building where I am, as I am. If you lose connection with reality, you lose connection to success.

And anything not in reach is hard to create.

You already know what’s missing in your life– adding in that thing will be what makes the difference. I want fluidity, less anxiety and rushing, more play and skill.

That’s what I mean by unifying.

It’s like those times you could do a trick in a particular sport, you don’t know how you know to do it and when someone asks you to teach them– suddenly you forget to do it. But when you’re flowing– the body moves free of the mind.

That’s what I’m after.

Fluidity.

You may not have this, maybe for you it’s the mind and considering things first– we all lean one way or the other.

But becoming a unified individual is what will bring us fulfillment and individual power.

How do you do this?

Move towards the opposite direction.

Day by Day.

#FOOLFWD