Month: March 2021

What’s up fools,

This one’ll be short since I have to go put out a fire I started.

Boredom is a necessary part of everything we do, and the real lesson to learn behind it- is to sit there and practice the ability to focus.

I know that, but I’ve been losing every battle.

I can’t help but wait til the absolute last minute to do something. These blogs are written last minute, my hobbies are done at random, and anytime I have extra time, I spend it all til there is just barely any left.

And I convince myself that I work better with this type of pressure, I always deliver, this is somehow my style of productivity.

But it’s this part right here that sucks.

Waking up in a panic, racing out the door to make it, and accepting that today you might crash and burn in the flames.

I don’t like this feeling.

I hate doing this. It’s annoying and nothing is a big enough deal to act like this for. That said, I’m not going to procrastinate. Can I just will myself to stop?

IDK.

But this type of work style doesn’t work for me.

See you on the other side… on time, hopefully.

#StayFoolish

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Hail Fools,

Yesterday I had one of those days- you know those days when you feel moody, kind of tired, and then you’re visited by “hello, darkness my old friend.”

Laying there, pondering the mysteries of the universe, I couldn’t shut my mind off. All I wanted to do was sleep off that gnawing existential sadness buried from childhood wounds but my f**king mind kept watering my internal garden of bullshit.

So I gave in.

“What then!”

It was like a shower thought, vague, yet full of the right answers to questions you can’t articulate. I realized something, life is so much simpler than you think.

I used to wonder why certain times in my life were ecstasy while others were unbelievably low.

I only ever feel this sadness when alone for too long. I was quick to diagnose this awhile back as some type of depression, but luckily I was way off. It turns out I’m just social. When I go a few days without group activities I get a double shot of depresso-espresso. The wiring of a true extrovert.

When I went through my post high school graduation identity crisis, I was really into personality psychology.

Makes sense, since you’re lacking sense of self. #Bars

I tried out the zodiac thing but that made it worse. My astrological combo was supposedly “conflicting” so I wrote that off as trash gobbledygook and went to mbti.

I didn’t like that either. It tried to tell me I’m unfocused and all over the place, and sure it’s true, but I’m kinda depressed, 18, pimply and haven’t done shit with my life yet, so naturally it’d be true.

Finally I landed on some boring ass big 5 personality test. No validation, no cool things to brag about, just a useful guide for how to build a life around your character.

High extroversion- means I needed to be apart of a team, low agreeable… I need to compete, and never do direct customer service roles.

So what’d I do with this info back then?

Nothing.

Pretended I never saw it and continued to do whatever the f**k I want.

Not so surprisingly, life wasn’t fulfilling breaking the rules of my DNA. And so as the years went by and I tried out careers way outside my wiring, I kept being hit by the lacking sense of self. Deep resentment due to not abiding by your nature.

And then it hit me.

There, laying in the fetal position after eating a bag of Hawaiian BBQ chips, you just need to build your life around your character.

It’s that simple.

I revisited my past for signs of this, was it true? Sure enough, the years where I accidentally honored what I was like, I felt more myself and was happy AF.

So there it is.

Figure out how you’re wired, and rewire your life.

#StayFoolish you handsome motherf**kers.

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As selfish as I am, and believe me, I only think about me first, I’ve always been fairly group oriented. I enjoy working with a team, and yeah, I usually end up leading it and becoming a tad dictatorial, but I DO want everyone to win.

That said, the older I’ve gotten the more I’ve come to see we all have a different place in this world.

You can’t make plans for anyone other than yourself, and you shouldn’t. It isn’t right.

If you have a goal, unless it’s genuinely shared by others- don’t involve them. Have a passion project? Maybe a business you’re launching? Unless your friends are genuinely excited about the goal itself and would do it regardless, sharing it will hurt you both.

I wanted group success.

I wanted everyone around me to want what I want.

I wanted a team to dominate with, friends and family to be a family.

But this isn’t realistic.

You won’t make it “wanting.”

You’ll never get to where you need to go waiting on others. Whatever it is you want, figure out every part of it yourself. Don’t involve friends just because they’re friends.

That’s bad business.

Go it alone. The call is only for those who hear it.

#StayFoolish

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For the life of me, I couldn’t understand why things take either a long time or no time. Maybe it’s nothing, just some trick played by the brain. But it really feels like life is just flying by, as I move towards living it.

Too many of us justify “not” living.

We’ve got bills to pay, responsibilities to honor, things to do and thingamajigs to work on.

So our solution is to say “tomorrow.”

We try to convince ourselves that we’ll get to living. We’ll eventually have the things we want out of life by somehow finding them tomorrow.

Be Benjamin Button.

During my youth, I was possessed by the spirit of a geezer; I was cranky, cynical, and way too worried about things that didn’t matter at all.

As I got older, I let go.

I let go because I realized I wasn’t living. When you practice living for tomorrow, you become good at avoidance, and then suddenly nothing does anything for you at all. You find yourself numb.

Met with shock from learning I had unresolved issues and apparently I couldn’t force the universe to grant my dreams, I learned the most key to life.

It isn’t what you have, it’s who you become.

You may never get the things you want. You might not ever reach your euphoria or whatever goal it is you fantasize about. But that doesn’t matter.

Those things don’t determine the course of your life.

If you want a good life, you need to start embracing every moment of it, and optimistically. You need to see it all, even the shitty parts, as a part of your fate- something to be faced, confronted, and learned from.

Smile at the world, flirt with existence, play through the pain.

Do this, and suddenly in no time, you’ll find yourself in a better movie.

#StayFoolish

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Magnetic, mysterious, with a subtle darkness to them~ all the while, they are incredibly capable and perceptive… guess the sign.

If you guessed dumbass, you may have a future in fortune telling.

Why do people go out of their way to identify themselves with something so two-dimensional?

Wouldn’t you rather be an individual? No, I’m not closed-minded, I’m just a Taurus- and we’re stubborn, we don’t learn.

Every single measure, it’s like we need to use it to justify our faults. It’s not ADHD, its being Inquisitive- I’m an ENTP, you’d know… but you can’t.

“My personality is 3% of the population.” DISGUSTING.

If you talk like that you’re a loser.

People find the dumbest things to take pride in. How’s that any different from someone who takes pride in their skin color? You don’t control that either.

I’m not saying zodiac freaks are racist, I’m saying it’s coming from the same muscle in the brain.

Human nature doesn’t change.

Zodiac signs, personality tests, mbti, enneagram, whatever` your brand of identity- if you’re just using it to self-sooth you’re an idiot.

The only point of those measures would be to actually help gain self-awareness, so you can be less blind to your own character and shape yourself into a better human being.

Yet the people who tattoo this shit on their forehead are the EXACT opposite. They don’t use it to improve, just explain. You feel better because you can point to something in your abstract character and explain away your lunacy.

This is all trendy groupthink. It’s not so different from an occult or religion. Every generation comes with it’s believers and non-believers, but this one has too many believing nonsense.

You call it open minded, everyone else calls it naive.

And the weirdest part about it, if you’re clinging on that tight- you probably don’t have those traits you all-too-proudly proclaim.

The greatest minority is the individual.

A free-thinking, independent, learner- who takes their character into their own hands.

That probably doesn’t sound very interesting, at least not as interesting as I’m a scorpio rising, megatron moon.

I don’t care if you’re a capricorn, dragon, non-nonbinary, or whatever the fuck it is you desire… but trust me, if you actually want a good life instead of pretending, you need to quit lying to yourself and get real.

We’re all born delusional, becoming aware is an attitude.

#StayFoolish

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Of course putting in the work matters. Nothing gets done through sitting and vision-boarding your future if you don’t take action.

But in reality, we’re all built for different things.

If you enjoy riding the struggle bus and making random stops throughout rock bottom- ignore this post.

Sure, you can hold on for dear life to whatever you think your dream is. But if you’re not built for it, you just won’t make it that far.

What is guaranteed is your struggle. And trying to make a false dream a reality is the pinnacle of suffering.

I want a fun life, but fulfillment comes from competency, which means doing something that you get decent returns on.

It took 8 years, but Peter Pan finally realized he doesn’t want Neverland, he wants Wonderland.

I want my life to be stimulating, challenging, and for my work to be intrinsically connected to who I am. I can honestly say, my hard-headed ass is finally moving towards that.

Once I chose a path that was based on my nature, whad’ya know Sherlock, I started seeing success.

Both materially and spiritually.

Wanna succeed? Do what you are. Do work that you’re inclined for.

I used to fantasize about dominating every niche on a whim. I’d be the best in the world director, filmmaker, rockstar, musician, entrepreneur, leader, time magazine’s Man of the year, and an overall icon- in every sense of the word.

But then I woke the fuck up.

I realized that mindset doesn’t lead to success or wealth, but rather delusion and then depression.

With this came one question, what does the pattern of my life reveal for inclinations and career and what am I spending my time on?

This was my way out.

Success is easy. That sounds so wild, but it’s true. If you have self-awareness and a growth mindset, success will accompany you as a byproduct.

But it takes effort to become self-aware.

Do that, and you’ll succeed.

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“An emotional response to a situation is the single greatest barrier to power, a mistake that will cost you a lot more than any temporary satisfaction you might gain by expressing your feelings.” ~Robert Greene

If you’re not moving towards something, you’ll fall backwards.

I don’t want to be like the majority of people, who in their 50s, 60s, and beyond stay the same. They’re just as dumb as in their youth, but with the added feature of age, now more hard-headed and “stuck in their ways.”

I want to constantly evolve, improve, get to know myself, challenge myself, and most of all- I never want to stop playing.

These roles we act out, why take them serious?

At any given moment you can rewrite the script to your life, but most won’t. They surmise that what they are is fixed, and their shitty life is authentic, because it’s what they know.

LUNACY.

We care too much about things that matter too little and when we’re alone, if we allow ourselves this luxury, we realize we don’t understand ourselves.

The human animal is a performer by nature. We do it to be accepted, we do it because it feels good to belong, to show off, to be validated.

However, you’re also a writer, director, and a producer.

If you don’t like how your life is going, change it.

Live out a new movie. The one bad habit most people share is dogmatic thinking. You assume this is it, this is all there is.

What if, for the next 30 days you reset?

Don’t know anything, don’t have assumptions, be new.

Dare to approach the world like a child, drop your bullshit beliefs, and see what happens. If you want a new life- this is really all there is to it.

#StayFoolish

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A lot of us know the answer.

We know what we should do, we just don’t.

If your life is miserable and you find yourself increasingly pissed off at the world, finding your passion isn’t going to help much.

You need to free yourself from yourself, before you can do anything.

Everyone talks about do what you love, but no one ever mentions the order of things. If you’re low, your first task is to get to neutral.

You can’t waltz into wonderland depressed and wondering, they won’t admit you, it just doesn’t work like that.

Thing is, passion isn’t what saves us, mindset is. Your overall approach and attitude is what will inevitably lead you to the life you desire.

You need to go from being a student to a practitioner.

You have to live different. You’re going to feel like a fraud. Being optimistic is a choice, and it’s hard. Deciding to live unapologetically takes courage.

All these cynical people with dry, sarcastic attitudes, they present a cool front to hide insecurity.

Maintaining a childlike spirit might not look cool, but it leads to a better life. Whatever it is you want out of life, first ask yourself what type of person do you need to be to live that life?

What would you need to believe about yourself and the world?

When you answer it, don’t just know it, act it.

#StayFoolish

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The strangest thing about the human being is identity.

It’s crazy that the beliefs you hold and how you see yourself, have the power to change and determine your fate. The quality of your existence is inextricably tied to your self-concept.

I see this on the smallest scale.

When I over-identify with my ego, I become narcissistic, isolated, and overly-focused on looking good rather than learning (I happen to have a demigod Ego). If I over-identify with my emotions, I become them, and lose the ability to distance myself and gain clarity.

Both types of identities lead to a shitty quality of life.

Don’t get me wrong, we need our egos and we need our emotions. But you shouldn’t be defined by them, that’s like those people who over attach to their zodiac sign descriptions and numb any traits that don’t fit into their fortune cookie personalities.

The thing is, how you see yourself is the most important thing in the world.

Crafting a functional identity determines the quality of your life, whether or not you reach your goals, and whether or not you have fulfilling and meaningful relationships.

The way I see it, your only safe bet to achieve a full life and have a functional identity is to base it on potential.

Identify with your higher self.

Start with characteristics you admire, strip the story and get to the core traits you value. Looking at what you despise often reveals core values as well. I despise control, because I value freedom.

As human beings we have the ability to control our narrative.

Who do you want to be in your movie?

#StayFoolish

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I’m going to generalize and really demonstrate my ignorance here, but for the most part, I think theres two types of people–

1. Those who Care too much &
2. Care too little.

I spent this last weekend in Malibu and couldn’t help but admire the latter. I know, appearances aren’t always what they seem and just because people are on the beach surfing and smiling, doesn’t mean they don’t care.

But they damn sure aren’t worried about economy this, world-ending that, pandemic, death, jobs, politics, and taxes….

and that’s what I’m after.

I want to have a good time while I’m here. And this should get you thinking. In 2020, we were all made painfully aware of the fragility of our lives, at any moment, we could lose it all.

Rather than taking this for what’s worth- we blamed others, got paranoid, and maxed out our amazon shopping carts.

For someone who never believed in fate or destiny, I’m starting to see there is some underlying order to things that we really have no control over. That said, here’s the universal order, the answer to the ultimate question and the meaning of life itself:

You’ll get it, when you get it.

#DeeperThanTheOceanBrah

When did you all sign up to serve? And what the hell are you serving anyway?

Everyone talks about duty- “I have to do this, pay bills, fix this, and I can’t have fun or do those things because…. duty, duty, duty”

But then when? When will you live?

I did this too. As a kid, I was ultra serious, refused to have too much fun, because I had a calling to serve. Which, not so surprisingly, I didn’t find. So my attitude, rather than preserve success or build me wealth, led to a miserable life.

The journey is guaranteed, but whatever you’re after isn’t. With that in mind, my priorities are completely reversed.

Happiness and fun come first. Health comes first. Play comes first. Duty….. meh.

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Belief regulates emotion.

The reason you go back and forth between your goals is because of an undefined identity. Maybe you see yourself as being able to do anything or in your mind you’re just super talented.

But this is damaging.

Life by nature involves pain- and most of us choose to distract ourselves from this. If we’re going to take a new direction and change our lives, we have to be purposeful in how we do it.

We’re restless because we abuse imagination.

You allow yourself to suffer comparing yourself to others, choosing goals too far from your present ability, because you don’t know yourself… and it’s arrogant to assume you do.

No one does. We have to get to know ourselves.

I’m always craving escape.

It’s like no matter where I am, this deep internal dissatisfaction finds me and calls to make a jump, start over, chase chimeras and pots of gold at random rainbow ends.

My theory for why this is?

Definition.

Defining ourselves as human is not enough. Your zodiac sign is not enough. Culture, race, background, education, job, all that shit… nothing.

You need to define what you are, what you stand for, and who you want to become- only then is the urge mitigated.

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It’s weird visiting a place you longed for, only to find yourself a stranger. Your dreams should change as you do.

A younger, more naïve, and rather narcissistic me once craved the false worship of the masses, but now I find myself craving escape.

I look back on who I was and I can’t recognize that individual and that’s something I want to always be able to say.

Don’t be afraid to let go, if something doesn’t fit anymore- leave it.

There is such a thing as floating with a purpose. Don’t sit there and try to have it all figured out, level 1 version of you has no business making plans for level 10.

The best thing I ever did was change. I was never afraid to leave whatever I had, not my ideas, goals, ambitions, not anything.

If you stay untethered and open- you’ll carve out a unique path that evolves as you do.

Stay Foolish.

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I used to be a romantic, saving myself for my one and only- her name was success. I’d dream of us spending our lives together, conquering our goals and towering over opposition. In my mind, we made a helluva power couple, one complementing the other.

I was loyal to a fault, I didn’t allow myself to look at other women (being: new experiences, hobbies, activities, friendships, different careers, etc.).

For years I was a no man.

My response to anything not success was a decisive and unwavering “NO”.

In this prearranged marriage, I stayed loyal from youth to my early 20s. But her promises were empty, and as I grew older, hunger pains accompanied every metaphorical meal. Turns out you can’t eat off fantasy, I craved reality,

And she just wasn’t….

No means nothing.

All these wannabe success gurus selling, “No means focus” and don’t do this list of things or you’ll never succeed, it’s all horse shit.

All you’re doing is limiting your life experience and making yourself more miserable. You’re not moving closer to success by not going out and talking to people. You’re not moving at all and the key to success is movement.

You don’t need less on your plate, you need more. By adding various activities, you’ll inevitably gain momentum in some direction and before you realize it, you’ll be somewhere.

My advice, say yes and see what happens… keep moving

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Attention is a currency, and a difficult one to resist becoming a whore for. We’re social animals, validation feels good, it’s how we deem ourselves worthy, in some capacity or another.

Self-awareness isn’t enough.

Everyone thinks themselves an individual, under-influenced, while they mimic everything they consume.

To the core, if you’re human- you’re an actor. Some of you suck, and some excel, but we are all performers nonetheless.

And regardless of what any of us think, we have to ACT.

Even chimpanzees perform for group acceptance. I know, I know… you couldn’t compare us to monkeys? riiiiiiiiiiiiight…..

I hear the word marginalized a lot. When we enter a different group, we have to train ourselves to shape our appearance, in a way that is natural to us and does not raise any alarms. Otherwise that group expels your ass, and you’ll find yourself actually marginalized.

Everyone tells you to be yourself, but even that advice isn’t their own and no one actually lives it.

You can be a part of yourself, but your true self on the other hand, that stays with close friends and loved ones. The world should kiss that synthetic ass of yours as you play the game and whatever role is needed.

We can hate it.

I certainly do.

But the game doesn’t care about your feelings.

You can either play and get ahead in life, or be the authentic broke person- who no one loves.

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If you intend on being here, you should know something about me- I’m a Fool.

I’m not politically correct, I’m ignorant on tons of topics, I enjoy making inappropriate jokes to get a reaction, and while I’m always moving forward and aiming for better character, I refuse to grow up.

We live in the times we live in, so a self-righteous sarcastic attitude seems like a reasonable response. Today, language is policed, everyone online is a saint (offline a predator), and binary definitions are instantly labeled as NON-sense.

Everything and Everyone is split up into tribes, and they want you drafted.

But if you’re a fool, you’re an individual. You don’t belong to a side, you value your own opinion above others, and you refuse to be miserable. You might have every reason to be. But you refuse.

I don’t care about your beliefs. You shouldn’t care about mine.

Your only aim, if you’re here, is to stay foolish.

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Part art, part science, you have to know when it’s a useful technique, otherwise you end up overdoing it… and then you’re just a scumbag.

It’s hard for me to say I regret lying. I’m not saying go lie to your loved ones or in any of your close relationships.

But when it comes to seizing opportunities, lying is the REASON I’ve succeeded.

The whole notion of, “bite off more than you can chew, and learn to chew it after” is really what I’m talking about.

Why be humble about it?

I don’t know about you, but to me, admitting to someone you can’t do something keeps you where you were before meeting them.

That doesn’t sound like an advantageous situation for either of us.

If there is something you want to do, a career or field you want to enter, just go for it. What they don’t tell you is no one starts out qualified.

Everyone lies.

The “science” part behind this advice is you’ll have to deliver. When I entered a field I’d always wanted to, after using the initial art of lie, I did everything I could to figure it out.

Luck follows the bold.

I’m not going to sit here and incriminate myself, but I will tell you-

if you want it, take it.

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There’s nothing existential about your struggle and if you don’t want to deserve anything that’s entirely up to you.

You can live humble, with lack, feeling guilty, and self-preserving.

You can worry about the future and what it will bring, when you’ll have it all figured out, and how long you’ll continue to suffer.

You can live like shit, like you always have, constantly dissatisfied, a stranger to your inner child, uncomfortable with your adult self, and lost in your direction.
OR

You can F**K ALL of that, and choose to take it by the balls.

Who makes these laws? Why be conservative in how you live? Why be humble? Why be shy, insecure, unsure of yourself, uncomfortable with yourself, lame?

We all pop out of an assembly line, live overly cautious lives and keep our heads down, not attracting attention to ourselves, never speaking out of turn, just wobbling around… until finally we die.

And on our death beds, what do we have to look back on?

A life well-lived, or completely avoided?

You’re an expert con-man. You’re a bullshitter. You somehow managed to convince yourself that YOU won’t die, that you’re not dying, that you somehow have time to do it all.

Allow me to enlighten you… you’re already a deadman walking.

So do whatever the f**k you want. There is no such concept of deserve, right, wrong, and all your little pleasantries.

It’s short, you’ll one day find how quickly it all concludes. Until then, I suggest you live by YOUR rules.

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