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Time Travel To Break Free

If you could go back in time to any given moment and start life from that point on, would you change anything?

I used to think the things that’d bring me true joy were my own victories, accomplishments, and desires but luckily I was able to wake up… and did so just in time to make the rest of my life awesome.

My life sucked because I never lived it.

It’s ironic. I wanted more life, richness, fulfilling experiences, but I resisted life at every moment.

Yesterday, I realized the thing I truly wanted out of my own life was in front of me all this time and I just hadn’t seen it.

It was at my muay thai class, I saw this friend group, comprised of kids, who are always doing dorky fun kid stuff while there.

It took me back to what I was like as a kid: Lame.

I was the all-too-serious serious, Light Yagami type kid– who, while popular, was too concerned with his own destiny to deeply connect with anyone else.

I guess I thought I was above ordinary things– but the truth is, you’re human. The ordinary things are what make life rich.

On our death beds, we won’t be thinking about our individual accomplishments, we’ll be thinking about our journey– the people we’ve met, played the game with, and memories we’ve created.

That’s the funny part. If I went back– the only thing I’d have changed is my own attitude towards the game and how I played.

I’d tell younger me to ease up, enjoy every moment, be a kid and quit taking yourself so seriously dammit.

And this is important because moving forward with the rest of my life, this is still the advice.

You don’t need to move anywhere, or be special, or discover whatever… you just need to embrace your own path by leaning in.

And that’s what I’ll do every single day of my life.

I’ll connect with others, connect with the present, and live now.

Worrying about purpose, calling, destiny, and achievements is a supreme waste of time and spitting in the face of life itself.

I’m not saying don’t create, I’m saying quit thinking about it.

No one advances dreaming about dreaming.

Creation is play. Life is play.

So, what advice could younger you give future you?

You’ve got the answers you’re looking for.

#TimeTravler

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Good Paranoia, Bad Instincts: Trust your Brain not your Gut

We’ve all got that one friend… maybe today, it’s more than one.

You know, the friend that goes down every rabbit hole and comes up with expertise on why the world is ending and how “they” are trying to get you.

Even with context, this friend usually sounds a little nutty, but today— a lot of us are that friend.

It’s hard to escape the madness. We’re all hurting for moderates but it seems like no one wants to be in the middle about anything.

Either you’re anti something or pro it, an enforcer or freedom fighter.

We’ve all arrived to a point where everything is up for debate, and most can’t meet in the middle on anything.

How do you know when it’s paranoia? How do you know when your gut feeling is right?

For a long time, I trusted my gut over everything. I’m not going to tell you I was wrong either, because I wasn’t.

That said, my gut isn’t good at critical thinking.

It’s good at raising alarms.

If your instincts are shooting through the roof right now, than they’re doing their job.

Unfortunately, a lot of us stop here. The gut says this political party is evil and wants mass control, no research needed… and that’s where it stops.

If you want to go off-grid camping, and never come back– that’s fine. But I want a good life, and that requires moderation.

“The truth is in the middle” comes to mind here.

Neither party is right, and your friends blindly following one side or the other are just as dumb. A party is groupthink by definition. That doesn’t mean the science is wrong or they get everything right or wrong, it means you shouldn’t be so easily influenced.

People stay “informed” by being told what to do and believe.

There are too many LAZY thinkers.

The only way to know how to move forward in life, is to see for yourself. The challenge here, people find the information they secretly want to– unknowingly.

Social media makes it even harder.

There are people I want to follow for topics unrelated, but today these same people have become experts in science… at least, so they think.

My only word of advice?

Dig for yourself.

Nothing is personal, even when they’re personally trying to tell you what to do. Everyone lives out their own delusions, whether they are right or wrong they do this.

It’s human nature.

If we’re going to make the right choice for ourselves, we need to find the uninfluenced, un-politized data.

#AlwaysThinkforYourself

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Follow Your Genuine Curiosity

Human beings are all too good at rationalizing, and as we get older– we become even better at it.

This doesn’t make us any more rational, just explaining machines.

The problem with it is we don’t always know why we’re doing the things we do, and we often get caught in our own mind loops– doing this, to get that, to then go here….

….we get stuck chasing/doing things we never really wanted.

When true fulfillment and success come from a different attitude, and it isn’t one of explaining. It’s asking questions, because you’re genuinely curious.

Being a learner is fulfilling. Dedicating yourself to a craft, subject, or field– because you genuinely enjoy it is worth everything.

The human mind thrives on this, and yet most of us shy away from this type of commitment, myself included.

Ironic.

You’re putting off living in hopes of something one day intervening and bringing life into your life… it doesn’t work like that.

You have to bring the fun to everything you do, and with such a fluid approach, you’ll be able to pivot through different interests until you settle on one or few.

To be curious, you’ll have to go back to your childlike approach– where you actually gave a shit to even ask the question. The problem is, when we hit 30 (some even sooner), we default to the attitude of “knowing what we need to.”

It’s a miserable existence to have to be right, to take life seriously, to not play.

There is no wisdom or coolness behind that approach, it’s just a pathetic way of hiding deeply seated fears and insecurities.

That’s coming from the once “cool and aloof” kid.

You’re looking for “that thing” –we all are. A book won’t point you there, a mentor can’t advise you, this is only found through exploration.

Something we were all born to do, but haven’t been conditioned to practice.

Want to fight old age, live longer, happier and healthier, while enjoying every bit of life? Let’s return to our roots, quit trying to be right and be curious.

#play

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Reach Peak Success through Authenticity

Oftentimes, it’s the overused “timeless” phrases that actually hold the answers you’re looking for.

Unfortunately we’re so familiar with them, that we don’t really consider it– at least not on any meaningful level.

Know Thyself.

We’ve all heard the expression– and when you tell someone this, they immediately nod back and flash a peace sign, “wurd.”

The vast majority seem to think they’re born knowing themselves. They never question why they do what they do, or why they believe the things they do, but somehow– they’re experts in the field of their wiring??

I think people live shit lives because they DON’T know themselves, and they’re too willfully ignorant to uncover more.

Knowing yourself is a developed skill, not a born trait. It takes time, it’s hard, and it should be uncomfortable.

….in truth, you probably suck. Sure, there are things that are awesome too, but all of us suck to some degree.

Everyone wants to be special in their own story.

I guess growth is when you lose that need to maintain your own delusion. Today, I see myself as far less “chosen” and far more just here figuring it out and that doesn’t hurt me.

I’m free of myself, because I know myself. I spent my entire life not knowing– so I chased random ideas, businesses, paths, none of which fit me or my character.

But thanks to my relentless pursuit for truth, I found myself in the end. That led to a life that suited me, and as I continue to strengthen my relationship with who I am, my life continues to improve in every way.

If you want to keep losing at the game of life, then continue taking yourself seriously. Before you can ever succeed, you need the right attitude… which most people can’t even get to this step.

Being afraid to introspect, not being able to laugh at yourself, that’s a super shitty life. When you can accept everything about you– the good and the bad, then you can start to fully live.

Until then, you insecurely chafe against the world and put yourself in depressive experiences because you think it all means more than it does.

Sit for a second, imagine you’ll lose everyone you love… what if you got that call today? Was acting all serious and stuck up worth it?

Did it matter in the end?

We’re all dying and nothing clears the mind like death.

If you want to succeed, which I define as living life in a fulfilling way unique to you, you need to get real…. get real and let go.

#FoolAround

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Compounding Character

The other day I found myself thinking new for the first time.

No anger, no emotional turmoil, no delusional dreaming— just pure acceptance for everything in my life.

This is different for me, very different.

I used to be someone who wanted to change everything, and all the time. I’d drive myself miserable seeing the worst in people, comparing myself to others, and constantly wishing to be something else.

But lately, I haven’t been thinking like that.

For someone who has always been emotionally intense, yesterday I felt strength for the first time.

The storm came like it always does, but this time it did not move me.

All those years of experimenting, of constantly learning and trying to be more, failing and starting over– none were wasted. It compounded, and that’s what I wanted to pass onto you.

Don’t ever stop. Even if it looks like nothing is helping you, it will in the long run.

Back then, I wondered how I’d use all the useless shit I learned. I read, I practiced new disciplines, but still I’d fall back into my own weak-habits. The difference for me was I never stopped. I never wrote myself off– despite how much I failed, I just kept moving.

One day you’ll see it.

Everything you’re doing will all of a sudden compound, and you’ll be far better for it. You’ll be stronger, composed, wiser, and more fulfilled.

It’s not like I have everything figured out all of a sudden, but this feeling, where I am right now, is worth everything to me.

This isn’t temporary happiness, this isn’t circumstantial.

This is character.

Compounded from trial and failure.

For the first time, I’ve let go of my own prison. All the things that used to have a hold on me– don’t.

Through understanding, we end suffering.

I didn’t until now.

Wherever you are and whatever you are doing, continue no matter what. Push forward, and endure.

You’ll eventually meet your own potential.

#AlwaysForward

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Sharing Single Player Games

Forget goal setting.

As an ex-miserable setter, I used to live for my future desires which ironically meant, putting off to live til I achieved them.

I’m living now more than I ever have, seeing success, and I’m honestly enjoying my life.

There isn’t anything to complain about and that’s from the compound interest of me refusing to accept the defaults of my mind and constantly seeking to maximize my environment.

There’s some value in that “make yourself at home.”

Not in the sense of comfort, but more so not being afraid to move things around to better suit you.

This is key to life and should be applied to everything.

The mindset I’m constantly forcing myself to practice is this: There are a ton of things I don’t like and don’t want to do, but since I have to do it– F**K IT, I’ll go all out and bring the fun.

Play brings success.

Life is largely a single player game, and you’re responsible for your own happiness. But most of us are shit at this.

We tie our fulfillment to future destinations that may or may not happen, that we may or may not want, and then find ourselves feeling uninspired to move towards those very things because each day feels lifeless.

Maximize the game itself or rather, “make yourself at home.”

Too often, we’re mentally cheating reality to dream up some dumb world where we’re inspired and fulfilled 24/7. What in life actually works like that?

Even the things you enjoy took developing.

The more you do something, the more you find joy in doing it.

I’m not saying don’t dream and don’t aspire for more– rather, practice being happily dissatisfied.

No matter what, I’ll play this game while still being ambitious and moving towards more.

The difference here is I’m not waiting or fantasizing, just maximizing what I can.

Live today.

#FoolsGold

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Wanna be Free? Find Where To Submit

Occasionally I’ll still have days where I relapse into my old mindset– that internal voice that assures me I’m better than my responsibilities.

It took me learning one major lesson to finally understand this, I was never going to find freedom.

What I really wanted was freedom from myself and that comes from surrender, total submission to the path itself.

The more you chase freedom (new experiences, relationships, places, careers, etc.) the less you’ll have it. All chasing does is open more doors, and that’s the irony. Those that constantly start anew, never reach it.

Submitting to a practice, being totally engaged in all before you– this is what frees you. When I stopped chasing ideas, I started building my own life and as a result, became more free.

Free of delusion.

It’s not enough to focus on goals, you’ve got to create a different dynamic with your own life. This is as much of an attitude and approach as it is a philosophy. Just yesterday, when I was feeling complain-y because I was randomly assigned a bunch of shit I didn’t want to do, I stopped and reframed.

If I’ve got to do this, I’m going all out.

I bring the play. It doesn’t come to you.

You’re an amateur at the game of life if fun is selective. You bring the fun. This has been a huge game changer for me.

There’s a bunch of things I don’t want to do, but since I’ve got to– might as well go all the way out and embrace it.

LEAN IN.

Freedom is a mindset, an attitude, and an approach– NOT a destination.

If you want to be free, let go.

It was always right in front of you.

#StayIntheNow

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Walking Dead Mirage: If you’re like this, you can’t succeed

You know what’s unbelievable to me? How little we actually change.

Don’t think so?

Keep a private journal for over a year– and watch. Those thoughts, complaints, desires, they almost never change. Even when you finally are able to pull yourself out of the loop, it’ll always be your soft spot in the brain– one you’ll forever need to guard against.

So this selfish post, not unlike all my others, is a letter/reminder to future me.

The reason you don’t get to pursue that all or nothing passion and desire– is because it doesn’t exist for you (STOP COMPARING YOUR PATH TO OTHERS).

Love never motivated you, so why would passion?

When I read those journals and see where I’m coming from, it’s gross. Destiny, purpose, I need, I want, my calling…. bitchin’ bitchin’ bitchin’.

You threw away every single day whining about some imaginary desire that if you somehow lucked into and got– you wouldn’t know it. What a complete waste of life, and to be fair– you’ve been doing well.

For the last year, you’ve not only managed to pull away from this behavior, but to deepen your relationship with reality.

I immediately saw success when I leaned into the present moment. (LAW #1).

It turns out, mastery fulfills me far more than anything imaginary ever did– and so everything in front of me will receive total commitment.

I’ve lost my need to chase false dreams. It’s just some flaw in my wiring that constantly seeks Neverland.

Being practical, being ruthlessly rational, has cured my life of every detractor– including and especially, me.

This post is a note to self, the most important one knowing my weakness, never walk through the mirage.

When you start dancing with devils, you can’t see what’s important.

Stay Practical, Stay Present, F**k Fantasy.

#FoolForward

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Mind Map: Keeping a compass when it gets murky

Hey Fool.

You ever look through old photos of yourself and cringe?

Imagine being able to see the thoughts that went along with youthful cringy you, that’s the exact perk of journaling. If you possess that natural, “I’m the shit” attitude, nothing humble-pies you like journaling.

I’ve now crossed the one year mark of writing and publishing every single day. What started out as something with no expectation, has slowly transformed into the best tool for strengthening my relationship with myself and bettering my own mind.

I believe what we’re all after is a better way to live, but we look for this in all the wrong places. You don’t need a role model, you need a mental model.

Without something to track and guide us, we spend our entire lives chasing our own tails. My journals are all the same with the only distinguisher being dated differently, but the “struggle” is repetitive.

Until now….

Only now am I not after what I longed for my entire life, and why? I got better of it when I realized it was delusion, it was just suffering from my imagination, and best of all: It wasn’t real.

You have this. We all have some form of this.

But only you can know where it is, and to do that you have to track yourself. You need to write. Writing is capturing photos of your thoughts– If you want to get ahead, and unstuck from your own loop– you need THIS compass.

There’s no right way to do it. Just start.

I started with letters to myself, where I’d ask questions, write my own feelings, and give myself a space to be openly curious about myself.

That’s all you’re doing with this– allowing yourself to get to know yourself.

It’s the best thing you’ll ever do for your mind.

#Writeitoff

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Illuminate Your Dark Spots: Don’t Get Swept Up

It’s hard to give good advice here, since most people don’t have a solid support network.

So regardless of how you do it, the advice is this: Don’t get swept up by your own tendencies. The reason I bring up a support network or friends, is because I regularly use them as an easy cheat code to balance my mind.

EVERY SINGLE ONE OF US has blind spots– areas in life where we become aggressive, completely irrational, paranoid, and all around unreasonable.

For whatever reason, this is our own distorted desert– we just aren’t clear when we wonder here.

You see this throughout the pandemic with BOTH sides.

There are those that think the virus is the end of the world and those that think it’s a completely fake disease.

To both of these extreme ends, these feelings and beliefs are real.

This is what I’m talking about. Before I had friends with opposite weaknesses from my own, a little isolation made for a nice paranoid scheming session. If left alone long enough, my critical thinking skills would eat themselves– and I’d start making wild connections that really had nothing to do with anything.

If I didn’t have my journals I wouldn’t believe I did this…. but looking back it’s eye-opening.

And it always makes me wonder what other areas in my life am I so completely delusional in? This isn’t about you being right or wrong– it’s about not suffering from a wildly untamed mind.

See, it’s a double-sided coin.

Through empathy we can experience deep connection with others and the world, but through delusion– we will experience disconnection, dissatisfaction, and the ultimate isolation.

One of my close friends is very clear thinking. He values and practices rationality and ruthless objectivity– and thus, I completely trust him. So when I feel myself participating in my paranoid parade– I meet up with him and we talk about it.

Seeing and hearing rationality is contagious, and I’ve found it to be the ultimate vaccine to my overactive imagination.

Almost instantly, I return to the land of the practical where things make sense.

This is your battle, this is everyones battle. When you get to know someone, you’ll see their dark spots and this is a very real struggle in human nature.

For some, it has to do with their relationships, others it has to do with control or lack of it, but nonetheless we all have them.

Figure out a way to crawl out of these spirals when you get in them.

This will help you level up and it’ll end your constant suffering.

#FoolsGold

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24/7 Recruiting: You’re Nothing But a Number to a Group

Everyone thinks themselves independent.

They proclaim they’ve done their research and so that’s why they stand where they do, cozying up against the comforts of back-up, surrounded by the same individuals with the exact same opinions.

Every single person today is an expert.

And if you’re not an expert, you’re supposed to blindly trust them– as if they’ve never been wrong.

As if society actually gives a shit about you one way or the other.

People go wild within groups. They can express repressed emotions, let out feelings they’re normally unfamiliar with, are easier influenced, and lose their touch with rationality.

There is no such thing as the “GOOD GROUP.”

If you’re a part of a group, you give up your individuality to conform– to join, that is the nature of the collective. It doesn’t matter what color your team is: blue, red, green, no one cares.

So why do it anyway?

Because a lot of people are cowards.

They’ve never faced themselves, spent their entire lifetime avoiding conflict, avoiding introspection, avoiding thinking– and to be apart of a group and finally be able to vent the pain that comes from repression, it feels good…. in the short term.

But it doesn’t change what’s going on. These are not the people you should be listening to or following or even giving the time of day.

They say learn from everyone, sure. I can agree with that, but not what they say– rather observe their actions.

Where does this individual become irrational?

Where are they hypocritical?

It’s amazing to me that faced with a global threat, rather than come together– we split up the haves and have-nots, or the vax and anti-vaxed. Each side naming the other “the problem,” which is lazy and pathetic and completely untrue.

But you if your research comes from your team and only your team, your voice isn’t worth listening to.

You don’t even know what you’re saying.

This is true for most people.

My only point for this post is to speak to the individuals– those who’ve decided to stand alone and not run to a group offering free candy, don’t pick.

Stay Alone.

You’re right to be independent, you’re right to not trust either. Do your own research and make your own mind on these things.

The hard part is to not get consumed by either side, but as an individual you’ll odds are great.

Don’t listen to actual FOOLS.

#MindYourself

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Understanding > Consuming: Why I’m Reading Less

Hey Fool.

By nature, I’m not a reader.

Sitting alone with nothing but a book to delight me isn’t something I ever wanted to do. But as I got older, I gradually discovered the non-fiction section of the book store.

Suddenly, those once-worthless-paperbacks were now seen as human brain upgrades– the ultimate tool for me to get ahead and strengthen my weaknesses.

Now, I could “hack” my way to success.

And with this seed planted, I became a “reader.” I went through every imaginable self help book, when it comes to approach and niche– none were off limits. It didn’t matter to me if the strategies were proven scientifically– or if they were total spiritual gobbledygook. All I cared about was could I use this immediately to advance towards my goals?

Enter the apprentice phase.

This part of my life is interesting. For years, all I did was consume. Non-stop content on what you should do, how you should think, disciplines to practice, habits to hold, etc.

Reading led to more reading.

It felt like I couldn’t get the information as quickly as needed. But then years passed, and I made very little improvements…. worst of all, I felt disconnected.

YOU DISCOVER YOUR PATH.

There is no book, course, mentor, or whatever that can recommend how to move forward. You need to do it blindly, that’s part of the game and whatever happens, happens.

We’re meant to do it for the first time, to do it on our own. And really, I mean think about– how can someone who isn’t you tell you to live your life?

It doesn’t make sense.

If you can read and apply systems loosely, then it’s worth it. But if you’re struggling like I did with the distance part, and end up intensely worshipping all of it– drop the book.

You can’t read your way there, you need understanding.

Reflecting through journaling will yield more results than just reading one book to the next.

Authenticity is the key to success, which means figuring out yourself and nature and then applying it appropriately.

Input does equal output, so careful what you consume.

#Fool

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Too Adult For The Sandbox

Hey Fool.

It’s no easy task to live fully, at the same time I liken it to falling asleep– more effort, equates to more difficulty.

The other day I wrote about identity and how carefully crafting yours based on reality will help you achieve fulfillment.

But today the thing most on my mind is playing with the toys you have.

To quote Captain Jack Sparrow, “The problem is not the problem, the problem is your attitude about the problem.

Why do we lose our sense of play? Why do we take ourselves so seriously?

Have you ever noticed how much easier life is when we roll with it? When we’re in a state of play our stiffness is replaced with fluidity, and most of our problems slide rather than stick.

I think it’s a quote from Alan Watts that went something like, “We suffer because we take serious what the Gods made for fun.”

It’s funny. I won’t speak for you, but I think a lot of us somehow got the idea that the ironic and cynical attitude is cool. The cold and aloof person– they somehow possess intelligence and power, when in fact it’s the opposite.

Optimism takes strength, especially today.

It’s easy to be cynical. It’s easy to be a pessimist. It takes ZERO effort and ZERO courage. In a way, it’s a result of having given up on life itself.

The hardest thing in the world is to stay positive surrounded by cheap default negativity. This is what I’ve decided to make my way.

My way and my approach to life will be a willful optimism. I’m naturally skeptical and harsh by nature, I can’t pretend that away.

But I’ll choose to shift my perspective.

Willpower is necessary to start, and I’ll use all of mine to live a fulfilling life.

Wherever you are– play.

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Building Your Human: The Promethean Task of Identity

The greatest determining factor of what kind of life you’ll live and what you’ll achieve is identity.

A lot of us misinterpret what this actually means.

I mean, we are who we are and we are how we are, so what is there to do? While it’s true that your personality is set, your identity is different.

Identity is made up of values, beliefs, and personality. While you can’t change the last, the first two are very much upgrade-able.

My conflict has always been this– I want to be who I truly am underneath, but I also want to be better than I am. How can you be more and be the same?

Well, I think I’ve got it.

Your nature is unchangeable. I’ve tried everything in the book, all the lessons from all the masters, and can tell you it’s pointless and depressing to attempt to pretend away your core.

It doesn’t work and serves to make you delusional and even worse, disconnected.

The way to evolve is to take that unique core, figure it out as much as possible, study yourself like a scientist and then find areas in life to better channel it.

If I naturally have a highly charged emotional nature, the flip side of that coin might be a creative mind– choose a skill that can better channel this and to ensure you dominate the skill and stay the course start saying I AM THE PERSON WHO…. (fill in the blank).

(Why dominate the skill? Because it takes total commitment to the path for you to fully evolve. I wish it didn’t… but it does).

The catch here, you have to choose something you care about, something you actually want to learn and have an interest in, and once chosen that little I AM statement will ensure you re-configure your identity to constantly embrace that task.

Here are some examples of things I’m learning that I use I AM statements to better build myself and ensure I keep the focus on learning:

I AM A MARTIAL ARTIST.

I AM A WRITER /DIRECTOR.

I AM A STUDENT OF HUMAN BEHAVIOR.

What is the point of doing this? It might seem affirmational, quirky, or law of attraction-y but it isn’t.

This is psychology.

For whatever reason, each of us is bound by social contracts– even to ourselves. The brain upgrades software through consistency, knowing this feature, you can leverage it to your advantage.

So, you should be who you truly are.

That’s what destiny is.

It’s you uncovering what you are to the core, what makes you unique and living that out– AT THE SAME TIME, when you know your uniqueness intimately, you can better channel it to build yourself into something more.

Enjoy re-discovering yourself.

Play, in truth this entire process should be nothing more than play, which is brought about by genuine curiosity.

#PlayFoolish

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Yours Is The Only Path: There are no forks, turns, twists, and dwarfs

You know, I look back at all these posts and I sound like a broken record player. I guess, each of us just circles our own wounds, tracing the length with our tongues– constantly talking around the same thing.

How I’m not sick of regurgitating the same topics is a mystery to me?

But I guess hurt people hurt… and confused people teach.

Anyways, I want to talk about “The Path.” It’s far more simple than I thought it was but there is a barrier to entry.

For whatever reason, I finally reached a point in my life where it’s about the work. I want to work and I want to do good work.

This might not sound all that revolutionary, but hear me out. The more I dive in, the more engaged I become, the more my mind focuses on everything in front of me, and I find myself fulfilled. The alternative to this– was me constantly comparing myself to others, wanting cheap success (fame and fortune) and being followed closely by an inescapable misery.

The alternative was being possessed by restless imagination, which serves to drive you completely insane running bullshit simulatory dreams on what life should be, robbing the present of meaning and fulfillment.

Play the game of fantasy and you’ll forever be disconnected.

But you know what, in the last year my inescapable shadow has lightened. I might still be a “difficult” person, but I suffer FAR LESS from this false world and I attribute that to the work.

The answer is not to desire nothing, but desire the path you are already on. Don’t wish for changing lanes, wish to drive this out.

It isn’t hokey, it’s fulfilling.

Our path is the only path. There is nothing else, nothing other than where we are and who we are.

Go all in and what’s before you, and you will find yourself living a far greater life.

#FoolsGold

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One Focus Will Get You There

You can want the world, you can have all these desires, but you can’t pursue them at the same time– not if you actually intend on accomplishing anything.

My longing for some type of purpose is long gone, for the first time, I’m Free.

Everything we choose, do, or ever will do is an extension of who we are– with that very fact, whatever purpose we create will be the right one. You’ll always end on you.

My advice to anyone who struggles with this is to let go. Your suffering is ceaseless and your energy enslaved, through an over-dedication to some spiritual path (that’s probably bullshit anyway).

That said, all I want to do is see where it all leads, we create our own purpose. Mine is to succeed as I am, living out who I am.

I’m choosing to be unbothered. I’m choosing to laugh at chaos, reject weak thoughts, and remain at peace regardless of my circumstances.

It really doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter what you do or don’t do, because in the end we’re not competing with each other. We’re up against death and time… and we all know we’ll lose.

So, choose what kind of life you want to live.

Where we err is we imagine there needs to be some intervening event, something that alters the course of our lives……. that rarely happens.

If you wait for it… time and death will knock before this guest ever does.

This is a very bizarre part of my life. I have an abundance of opportunity and I’m not looking left and right. What’s in front of me is the goal, I’m not worrying about where, when, how.

I guess that’s why I’m not suffering.

#FoolsGold

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It’s Not Always What You Love… Passionately Against IT

Just about every book that I’ve come across talks about doing what inspires you. You’ve got to love it, blah blah blah– because then you can do it long enough to succeed.

Personally, I was never motivated by love so why would that change when it comes to career?

My purpose isn’t spiritual. It’s materialistic BUT this is far more real to me than anything I’ve tried to love.

I don’t know about love, but nothing lights me up more than dependence. I PASSIONATELY CAN’T STAND IT!

So my “why” has become a semi anti-social one, but as authentic as possible. I refuse to be in situations where others decision making impacts me.

I’m after true independence. Independence from the economy, from inconveniences, from friends and family, from it all… this is freedom. I exist for FREEDOM.

For the first time in my life, I’m not trying to convince myself. See, that’s the problem with the human animal. We’re thinking beings– overthinking, convincing ourselves of what we *should love and what we *could do.

Wisdom comes from realizing what type of animal you are, and EMBRACING IT. Instead, we need to make the most of what we are– not pretend to be something we’re not.

I’m not in love with creation, art, and all the beautiful things the world has to offer. You can call me cynical and nihilistic, but to be completely honest— I am underimpressed.

I can’t believe it took me this long to realize, I guess I thought it had to be mystical which I’ll chop up to advertising.

Turns out, my problems and goals are all perfectly interconnected.

I’m after one thing and I’m passionate about solving for one problem– that is all. My advice for you?

Can’t find what you love? Maybe it’s in what you hate….

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Don’t Get Sucked In: Your Blindspots are Blackholes

Hey Fool.

Is there anything *supposedly* good for you, that makes you feel like shit? If that thing is remotely related to your genetic blind spots, don’t attack it directly.

For most people, having purpose and direction is incredibly important. It’s uplifting and provides a greater resilience…. but for me, who has craved an all consuming reason for existence since my inception, it’s a blackhole.

Blackholes are the areas of our lives that we want more than anything, where we’re delusional, unreasonable, childlike… for whatever reason, we’re always drawn to this area but reality is distorted here.

Everyone has their own blackholes.

Moving towards them directly never leads to any good– you’ll get sucked in and spit out. A lot of us won’t ever learn, we just keep repeating the cycle (think the person who wants to be a singer, but can’t hear how awful they sound– and pursue it forever).

Anytime I’ve chased my delusional dreams– fantasies, the thing I think I want for no apparent reason, my life becomes complete chaos. I lose my progress, stability, and end up having to start over.

The result of you believing in your magic, in these fantasies, is being stuck in a spiral of never getting ahead.

Ruthless practicality is the only way to become a better astronaut.

Once you’re more skilled, then maybe you can see the blackhole for what it is and possibly navigate it, if that’s still the goal.

But all of us share the same first step– we have to see our blindspots and then get better of them.

I suffered from imagination (and still do) and always will. That sounds spiritual, but what it looks like is my mind constantly craving the world, achievement on the biggest stage, accolades and success, and my life to have ZERO dull or boring moments…. is that really a lot to ask for?

What I came to realize is my mind is wrong in this area. When it comes to career and purpose, I don’t trust it. This is how I got ahead.

Knowing that reality is distorted for me here, I instead went practical. I considered my skills, my temperament and natural inclinations, and started there.

That’s how I began a new career, got financially ahead, and started building a life I enjoy.

Don’t get me wrong, it doesn’t resemble the craving blackhole at all. But who cares, now I have a life.

Waiting for those fantasies robs you.

FUCK desire. What can you build?

Stop wanting. Start small.

#FoolForward

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Beyond The Storm: Brief Moments of Clarity

For the very few days the switch is turned off, I can finally see –and it’s on these days I wonder what the hell I was suffering from anyway.

The best realization you can have is understanding that there isn’t anything else. There is no place to go, no “thing” to do, because everything you were looking for is right here.

That’s why they say “GO ALL IN.”

I used to laugh at that with friends. I’d hear certain entrepreneurs offer advice like, “no matter what your current position, do it fully… and you’ll see, things will change for the better.”

My immediate thought was this is by far the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard. How does going in on something you don’t care about, with limited opportunities in the field itself, change your circumstances?

I mean, change comes from change– not more work. Their advice seemed like something to keep you stuck, something an insecure and overly competitive person might offer up to lesson the competition.

But I misunderstood.

The idea wasn’t that going all in would solve your career aspirations, but rather it would improve your attitude towards work itself, and then life– because the two are actually closely related.

I’ve written so many posts on attitude and haven’t fully comprehended why it’s so important. In fact, there’s nothing more important.

If you know anyone who is strangely optimistic, almost naively so, they’re the person to model for the next 30 days.

We can’t be something we’re not, but every single one of us can change our approach.

This should be your only goal, because changing this leads to success in every other area, but even more important– it makes you the person who enjoys the life you live.

That’s all I’m after.

So for now, my only task is right before me. I will go ALL IN.

And embrace everything.

#StayFoolish

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Don’t Cross Your Lines: Finding Fulfillment

You ever have those realizations, which are obvious but somehow profound when they suddenly hit?

Well a few days ago, I finally had mine. You just sit here unhappy, wondering why we do all the things we do, why can’t we be different, why don’t we do better.

All stupid time wasting things.

It’s self-esteem defeating and this societal process is actually worthless. Let me tell you what I’ve learned that has instantly changed my life for the better.

The gurus tell you to re-define yourself. As if you were the one who wired yourself in the first place– step 1, quit listening to idiots.

Step 2: watch don’t judge. If you asked me to write my values on paper, some you’d see reflected in my daily actions… but unfortunately –some you wouldn’t.

There is what we say and what we do, and the truth is in the “do.”

But this is the best thing you’ll ever learn if you understand it and use it. Wanna find a life of passion, excitement, and fulfillment? First, find your lines.

You live your values every single day, and when you fulfill them life itself is RICHER.

If you’re a business owner who is always putting the customer first, and behind the scenes you profess that you hate it but sure enough, without fail, as soon as there are customers you put them first. Later, you’re talking about how you helped them, what they said, and what happened– WELL, like it or not, that’s YOUR VALUE!!!

YOU VALUE HELPING OTHERS IN THIS WAY.

It’s not an accident you do this. We do what we are, and you SHOULD continue to do this. Looking at others, or saying you don’t like it anymore because you’re tired is stupid.

Sure, there can be a better way of doing things and you should find them, but thinking you can pick something different is like saying you’re going to be someone different……

that will never be possible and even worse, as soon as you stop doing what you are– you’ll be depressed. Depression comes from disconnection, when we live by who we uniquely are– we are fulfilled, when we don’t– we’re medicated and distracted.

I profess how much I HATE dependence and believe me I do. BUT one of my top genetic values is camaraderie and so I always feel fulfilled and engaged when I’m working together with my team. I’m so naturally disagreeable that I’ve tried to wash this trait out of me, but as soon as I work with my team, without fail, I return to a better version of me.

I become fulfilled because I’m becoming myself.

Like it or not, I need this to feel alive.

This is what you need to find, and to find it record your day before you go to bed. How did you act? What did you do? How much of those things do you regularly do? What days were good days? What days were bad days?

We’re not looking for the thing itself, we’re looking for the values behind them.

If you live out what you naturally value and stop judging it, you’ll find fulfillment and success (how you define it).

This is the secret. No stupid universal laws, no self improvement books, no dumbass gurus courses.

These values are unique to you, all you have to do is uncover them and then LIVE them.

#FoolForward

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