The greatest determining factor of what kind of life you’ll live and what you’ll achieve is identity.
A lot of us misinterpret what this actually means.
I mean, we are who we are and we are how we are, so what is there to do? While it’s true that your personality is set, your identity is different.
Identity is made up of values, beliefs, and personality. While you can’t change the last, the first two are very much upgrade-able.
My conflict has always been this– I want to be who I truly am underneath, but I also want to be better than I am. How can you be more and be the same?
Well, I think I’ve got it.
Your nature is unchangeable. I’ve tried everything in the book, all the lessons from all the masters, and can tell you it’s pointless and depressing to attempt to pretend away your core.
It doesn’t work and serves to make you delusional and even worse, disconnected.
The way to evolve is to take that unique core, figure it out as much as possible, study yourself like a scientist and then find areas in life to better channel it.
If I naturally have a highly charged emotional nature, the flip side of that coin might be a creative mind– choose a skill that can better channel this and to ensure you dominate the skill and stay the course start saying I AM THE PERSON WHO…. (fill in the blank).
(Why dominate the skill? Because it takes total commitment to the path for you to fully evolve. I wish it didn’t… but it does).
The catch here, you have to choose something you care about, something you actually want to learn and have an interest in, and once chosen that little I AM statement will ensure you re-configure your identity to constantly embrace that task.
Here are some examples of things I’m learning that I use I AM statements to better build myself and ensure I keep the focus on learning:
I AM A MARTIAL ARTIST.
I AM A WRITER /DIRECTOR.
I AM A STUDENT OF HUMAN BEHAVIOR.
What is the point of doing this? It might seem affirmational, quirky, or law of attraction-y but it isn’t.
This is psychology.
For whatever reason, each of us is bound by social contracts– even to ourselves. The brain upgrades software through consistency, knowing this feature, you can leverage it to your advantage.
So, you should be who you truly are.
That’s what destiny is.
It’s you uncovering what you are to the core, what makes you unique and living that out– AT THE SAME TIME, when you know your uniqueness intimately, you can better channel it to build yourself into something more.
Enjoy re-discovering yourself.
Play, in truth this entire process should be nothing more than play, which is brought about by genuine curiosity.
#PlayFoolish
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