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Wanna be Free? Find Where To Submit

Published August 5, 2021 by V

Occasionally I’ll still have days where I relapse into my old mindset– that internal voice that assures me I’m better than my responsibilities.

It took me learning one major lesson to finally understand this, I was never going to find freedom.

What I really wanted was freedom from myself and that comes from surrender, total submission to the path itself.

The more you chase freedom (new experiences, relationships, places, careers, etc.) the less you’ll have it. All chasing does is open more doors, and that’s the irony. Those that constantly start anew, never reach it.

Submitting to a practice, being totally engaged in all before you– this is what frees you. When I stopped chasing ideas, I started building my own life and as a result, became more free.

Free of delusion.

It’s not enough to focus on goals, you’ve got to create a different dynamic with your own life. This is as much of an attitude and approach as it is a philosophy. Just yesterday, when I was feeling complain-y because I was randomly assigned a bunch of shit I didn’t want to do, I stopped and reframed.

If I’ve got to do this, I’m going all out.

I bring the play. It doesn’t come to you.

You’re an amateur at the game of life if fun is selective. You bring the fun. This has been a huge game changer for me.

There’s a bunch of things I don’t want to do, but since I’ve got to– might as well go all the way out and embrace it.

LEAN IN.

Freedom is a mindset, an attitude, and an approach– NOT a destination.

If you want to be free, let go.

It was always right in front of you.

#StayIntheNow

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Walking Dead Mirage: If you’re like this, you can’t succeed

Published August 4, 2021 by V

You know what’s unbelievable to me? How little we actually change.

Don’t think so?

Keep a private journal for over a year– and watch. Those thoughts, complaints, desires, they almost never change. Even when you finally are able to pull yourself out of the loop, it’ll always be your soft spot in the brain– one you’ll forever need to guard against.

So this selfish post, not unlike all my others, is a letter/reminder to future me.

The reason you don’t get to pursue that all or nothing passion and desire– is because it doesn’t exist for you (STOP COMPARING YOUR PATH TO OTHERS).

Love never motivated you, so why would passion?

When I read those journals and see where I’m coming from, it’s gross. Destiny, purpose, I need, I want, my calling…. bitchin’ bitchin’ bitchin’.

You threw away every single day whining about some imaginary desire that if you somehow lucked into and got– you wouldn’t know it. What a complete waste of life, and to be fair– you’ve been doing well.

For the last year, you’ve not only managed to pull away from this behavior, but to deepen your relationship with reality.

I immediately saw success when I leaned into the present moment. (LAW #1).

It turns out, mastery fulfills me far more than anything imaginary ever did– and so everything in front of me will receive total commitment.

I’ve lost my need to chase false dreams. It’s just some flaw in my wiring that constantly seeks Neverland.

Being practical, being ruthlessly rational, has cured my life of every detractor– including and especially, me.

This post is a note to self, the most important one knowing my weakness, never walk through the mirage.

When you start dancing with devils, you can’t see what’s important.

Stay Practical, Stay Present, F**k Fantasy.

#FoolForward

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Mind Map: Keeping a compass when it gets murky

Published August 3, 2021 by V

Hey Fool.

You ever look through old photos of yourself and cringe?

Imagine being able to see the thoughts that went along with youthful cringy you, that’s the exact perk of journaling. If you possess that natural, “I’m the shit” attitude, nothing humble-pies you like journaling.

I’ve now crossed the one year mark of writing and publishing every single day. What started out as something with no expectation, has slowly transformed into the best tool for strengthening my relationship with myself and bettering my own mind.

I believe what we’re all after is a better way to live, but we look for this in all the wrong places. You don’t need a role model, you need a mental model.

Without something to track and guide us, we spend our entire lives chasing our own tails. My journals are all the same with the only distinguisher being dated differently, but the “struggle” is repetitive.

Until now….

Only now am I not after what I longed for my entire life, and why? I got better of it when I realized it was delusion, it was just suffering from my imagination, and best of all: It wasn’t real.

You have this. We all have some form of this.

But only you can know where it is, and to do that you have to track yourself. You need to write. Writing is capturing photos of your thoughts– If you want to get ahead, and unstuck from your own loop– you need THIS compass.

There’s no right way to do it. Just start.

I started with letters to myself, where I’d ask questions, write my own feelings, and give myself a space to be openly curious about myself.

That’s all you’re doing with this– allowing yourself to get to know yourself.

It’s the best thing you’ll ever do for your mind.

#Writeitoff

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Illuminate Your Dark Spots: Don’t Get Swept Up

Published August 2, 2021 by V

It’s hard to give good advice here, since most people don’t have a solid support network.

So regardless of how you do it, the advice is this: Don’t get swept up by your own tendencies. The reason I bring up a support network or friends, is because I regularly use them as an easy cheat code to balance my mind.

EVERY SINGLE ONE OF US has blind spots– areas in life where we become aggressive, completely irrational, paranoid, and all around unreasonable.

For whatever reason, this is our own distorted desert– we just aren’t clear when we wonder here.

You see this throughout the pandemic with BOTH sides.

There are those that think the virus is the end of the world and those that think it’s a completely fake disease.

To both of these extreme ends, these feelings and beliefs are real.

This is what I’m talking about. Before I had friends with opposite weaknesses from my own, a little isolation made for a nice paranoid scheming session. If left alone long enough, my critical thinking skills would eat themselves– and I’d start making wild connections that really had nothing to do with anything.

If I didn’t have my journals I wouldn’t believe I did this…. but looking back it’s eye-opening.

And it always makes me wonder what other areas in my life am I so completely delusional in? This isn’t about you being right or wrong– it’s about not suffering from a wildly untamed mind.

See, it’s a double-sided coin.

Through empathy we can experience deep connection with others and the world, but through delusion– we will experience disconnection, dissatisfaction, and the ultimate isolation.

One of my close friends is very clear thinking. He values and practices rationality and ruthless objectivity– and thus, I completely trust him. So when I feel myself participating in my paranoid parade– I meet up with him and we talk about it.

Seeing and hearing rationality is contagious, and I’ve found it to be the ultimate vaccine to my overactive imagination.

Almost instantly, I return to the land of the practical where things make sense.

This is your battle, this is everyones battle. When you get to know someone, you’ll see their dark spots and this is a very real struggle in human nature.

For some, it has to do with their relationships, others it has to do with control or lack of it, but nonetheless we all have them.

Figure out a way to crawl out of these spirals when you get in them.

This will help you level up and it’ll end your constant suffering.

#FoolsGold

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Understanding > Consuming: Why I’m Reading Less

Published July 31, 2021 by V

Hey Fool.

By nature, I’m not a reader.

Sitting alone with nothing but a book to delight me isn’t something I ever wanted to do. But as I got older, I gradually discovered the non-fiction section of the book store.

Suddenly, those once-worthless-paperbacks were now seen as human brain upgrades– the ultimate tool for me to get ahead and strengthen my weaknesses.

Now, I could “hack” my way to success.

And with this seed planted, I became a “reader.” I went through every imaginable self help book, when it comes to approach and niche– none were off limits. It didn’t matter to me if the strategies were proven scientifically– or if they were total spiritual gobbledygook. All I cared about was could I use this immediately to advance towards my goals?

Enter the apprentice phase.

This part of my life is interesting. For years, all I did was consume. Non-stop content on what you should do, how you should think, disciplines to practice, habits to hold, etc.

Reading led to more reading.

It felt like I couldn’t get the information as quickly as needed. But then years passed, and I made very little improvements…. worst of all, I felt disconnected.

YOU DISCOVER YOUR PATH.

There is no book, course, mentor, or whatever that can recommend how to move forward. You need to do it blindly, that’s part of the game and whatever happens, happens.

We’re meant to do it for the first time, to do it on our own. And really, I mean think about– how can someone who isn’t you tell you to live your life?

It doesn’t make sense.

If you can read and apply systems loosely, then it’s worth it. But if you’re struggling like I did with the distance part, and end up intensely worshipping all of it– drop the book.

You can’t read your way there, you need understanding.

Reflecting through journaling will yield more results than just reading one book to the next.

Authenticity is the key to success, which means figuring out yourself and nature and then applying it appropriately.

Input does equal output, so careful what you consume.

#Fool

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Too Adult For The Sandbox

Published July 30, 2021 by V

Hey Fool.

It’s no easy task to live fully, at the same time I liken it to falling asleep– more effort, equates to more difficulty.

The other day I wrote about identity and how carefully crafting yours based on reality will help you achieve fulfillment.

But today the thing most on my mind is playing with the toys you have.

To quote Captain Jack Sparrow, “The problem is not the problem, the problem is your attitude about the problem.

Why do we lose our sense of play? Why do we take ourselves so seriously?

Have you ever noticed how much easier life is when we roll with it? When we’re in a state of play our stiffness is replaced with fluidity, and most of our problems slide rather than stick.

I think it’s a quote from Alan Watts that went something like, “We suffer because we take serious what the Gods made for fun.”

It’s funny. I won’t speak for you, but I think a lot of us somehow got the idea that the ironic and cynical attitude is cool. The cold and aloof person– they somehow possess intelligence and power, when in fact it’s the opposite.

Optimism takes strength, especially today.

It’s easy to be cynical. It’s easy to be a pessimist. It takes ZERO effort and ZERO courage. In a way, it’s a result of having given up on life itself.

The hardest thing in the world is to stay positive surrounded by cheap default negativity. This is what I’ve decided to make my way.

My way and my approach to life will be a willful optimism. I’m naturally skeptical and harsh by nature, I can’t pretend that away.

But I’ll choose to shift my perspective.

Willpower is necessary to start, and I’ll use all of mine to live a fulfilling life.

Wherever you are– play.

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Building Your Human: The Promethean Task of Identity

Published July 29, 2021 by V

The greatest determining factor of what kind of life you’ll live and what you’ll achieve is identity.

A lot of us misinterpret what this actually means.

I mean, we are who we are and we are how we are, so what is there to do? While it’s true that your personality is set, your identity is different.

Identity is made up of values, beliefs, and personality. While you can’t change the last, the first two are very much upgrade-able.

My conflict has always been this– I want to be who I truly am underneath, but I also want to be better than I am. How can you be more and be the same?

Well, I think I’ve got it.

Your nature is unchangeable. I’ve tried everything in the book, all the lessons from all the masters, and can tell you it’s pointless and depressing to attempt to pretend away your core.

It doesn’t work and serves to make you delusional and even worse, disconnected.

The way to evolve is to take that unique core, figure it out as much as possible, study yourself like a scientist and then find areas in life to better channel it.

If I naturally have a highly charged emotional nature, the flip side of that coin might be a creative mind– choose a skill that can better channel this and to ensure you dominate the skill and stay the course start saying I AM THE PERSON WHO…. (fill in the blank).

(Why dominate the skill? Because it takes total commitment to the path for you to fully evolve. I wish it didn’t… but it does).

The catch here, you have to choose something you care about, something you actually want to learn and have an interest in, and once chosen that little I AM statement will ensure you re-configure your identity to constantly embrace that task.

Here are some examples of things I’m learning that I use I AM statements to better build myself and ensure I keep the focus on learning:

I AM A MARTIAL ARTIST.

I AM A WRITER /DIRECTOR.

I AM A STUDENT OF HUMAN BEHAVIOR.

What is the point of doing this? It might seem affirmational, quirky, or law of attraction-y but it isn’t.

This is psychology.

For whatever reason, each of us is bound by social contracts– even to ourselves. The brain upgrades software through consistency, knowing this feature, you can leverage it to your advantage.

So, you should be who you truly are.

That’s what destiny is.

It’s you uncovering what you are to the core, what makes you unique and living that out– AT THE SAME TIME, when you know your uniqueness intimately, you can better channel it to build yourself into something more.

Enjoy re-discovering yourself.

Play, in truth this entire process should be nothing more than play, which is brought about by genuine curiosity.

#PlayFoolish

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Yours Is The Only Path: There are no forks, turns, twists, and dwarfs

Published July 28, 2021 by V

You know, I look back at all these posts and I sound like a broken record player. I guess, each of us just circles our own wounds, tracing the length with our tongues– constantly talking around the same thing.

How I’m not sick of regurgitating the same topics is a mystery to me?

But I guess hurt people hurt… and confused people teach.

Anyways, I want to talk about “The Path.” It’s far more simple than I thought it was but there is a barrier to entry.

For whatever reason, I finally reached a point in my life where it’s about the work. I want to work and I want to do good work.

This might not sound all that revolutionary, but hear me out. The more I dive in, the more engaged I become, the more my mind focuses on everything in front of me, and I find myself fulfilled. The alternative to this– was me constantly comparing myself to others, wanting cheap success (fame and fortune) and being followed closely by an inescapable misery.

The alternative was being possessed by restless imagination, which serves to drive you completely insane running bullshit simulatory dreams on what life should be, robbing the present of meaning and fulfillment.

Play the game of fantasy and you’ll forever be disconnected.

But you know what, in the last year my inescapable shadow has lightened. I might still be a “difficult” person, but I suffer FAR LESS from this false world and I attribute that to the work.

The answer is not to desire nothing, but desire the path you are already on. Don’t wish for changing lanes, wish to drive this out.

It isn’t hokey, it’s fulfilling.

Our path is the only path. There is nothing else, nothing other than where we are and who we are.

Go all in and what’s before you, and you will find yourself living a far greater life.

#FoolsGold

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It’s Not Always What You Love… Passionately Against IT

Published July 26, 2021 by V

Just about every book that I’ve come across talks about doing what inspires you. You’ve got to love it, blah blah blah– because then you can do it long enough to succeed.

Personally, I was never motivated by love so why would that change when it comes to career?

My purpose isn’t spiritual. It’s materialistic BUT this is far more real to me than anything I’ve tried to love.

I don’t know about love, but nothing lights me up more than dependence. I PASSIONATELY CAN’T STAND IT!

So my “why” has become a semi anti-social one, but as authentic as possible. I refuse to be in situations where others decision making impacts me.

I’m after true independence. Independence from the economy, from inconveniences, from friends and family, from it all… this is freedom. I exist for FREEDOM.

For the first time in my life, I’m not trying to convince myself. See, that’s the problem with the human animal. We’re thinking beings– overthinking, convincing ourselves of what we *should love and what we *could do.

Wisdom comes from realizing what type of animal you are, and EMBRACING IT. Instead, we need to make the most of what we are– not pretend to be something we’re not.

I’m not in love with creation, art, and all the beautiful things the world has to offer. You can call me cynical and nihilistic, but to be completely honest— I am underimpressed.

I can’t believe it took me this long to realize, I guess I thought it had to be mystical which I’ll chop up to advertising.

Turns out, my problems and goals are all perfectly interconnected.

I’m after one thing and I’m passionate about solving for one problem– that is all. My advice for you?

Can’t find what you love? Maybe it’s in what you hate….

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Don’t Get Sucked In: Your Blindspots are Blackholes

Published July 25, 2021 by V

Hey Fool.

Is there anything *supposedly* good for you, that makes you feel like shit? If that thing is remotely related to your genetic blind spots, don’t attack it directly.

For most people, having purpose and direction is incredibly important. It’s uplifting and provides a greater resilience…. but for me, who has craved an all consuming reason for existence since my inception, it’s a blackhole.

Blackholes are the areas of our lives that we want more than anything, where we’re delusional, unreasonable, childlike… for whatever reason, we’re always drawn to this area but reality is distorted here.

Everyone has their own blackholes.

Moving towards them directly never leads to any good– you’ll get sucked in and spit out. A lot of us won’t ever learn, we just keep repeating the cycle (think the person who wants to be a singer, but can’t hear how awful they sound– and pursue it forever).

Anytime I’ve chased my delusional dreams– fantasies, the thing I think I want for no apparent reason, my life becomes complete chaos. I lose my progress, stability, and end up having to start over.

The result of you believing in your magic, in these fantasies, is being stuck in a spiral of never getting ahead.

Ruthless practicality is the only way to become a better astronaut.

Once you’re more skilled, then maybe you can see the blackhole for what it is and possibly navigate it, if that’s still the goal.

But all of us share the same first step– we have to see our blindspots and then get better of them.

I suffered from imagination (and still do) and always will. That sounds spiritual, but what it looks like is my mind constantly craving the world, achievement on the biggest stage, accolades and success, and my life to have ZERO dull or boring moments…. is that really a lot to ask for?

What I came to realize is my mind is wrong in this area. When it comes to career and purpose, I don’t trust it. This is how I got ahead.

Knowing that reality is distorted for me here, I instead went practical. I considered my skills, my temperament and natural inclinations, and started there.

That’s how I began a new career, got financially ahead, and started building a life I enjoy.

Don’t get me wrong, it doesn’t resemble the craving blackhole at all. But who cares, now I have a life.

Waiting for those fantasies robs you.

FUCK desire. What can you build?

Stop wanting. Start small.

#FoolForward

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Don’t Cross Your Lines: Finding Fulfillment

Published July 23, 2021 by V

You ever have those realizations, which are obvious but somehow profound when they suddenly hit?

Well a few days ago, I finally had mine. You just sit here unhappy, wondering why we do all the things we do, why can’t we be different, why don’t we do better.

All stupid time wasting things.

It’s self-esteem defeating and this societal process is actually worthless. Let me tell you what I’ve learned that has instantly changed my life for the better.

The gurus tell you to re-define yourself. As if you were the one who wired yourself in the first place– step 1, quit listening to idiots.

Step 2: watch don’t judge. If you asked me to write my values on paper, some you’d see reflected in my daily actions… but unfortunately –some you wouldn’t.

There is what we say and what we do, and the truth is in the “do.”

But this is the best thing you’ll ever learn if you understand it and use it. Wanna find a life of passion, excitement, and fulfillment? First, find your lines.

You live your values every single day, and when you fulfill them life itself is RICHER.

If you’re a business owner who is always putting the customer first, and behind the scenes you profess that you hate it but sure enough, without fail, as soon as there are customers you put them first. Later, you’re talking about how you helped them, what they said, and what happened– WELL, like it or not, that’s YOUR VALUE!!!

YOU VALUE HELPING OTHERS IN THIS WAY.

It’s not an accident you do this. We do what we are, and you SHOULD continue to do this. Looking at others, or saying you don’t like it anymore because you’re tired is stupid.

Sure, there can be a better way of doing things and you should find them, but thinking you can pick something different is like saying you’re going to be someone different……

that will never be possible and even worse, as soon as you stop doing what you are– you’ll be depressed. Depression comes from disconnection, when we live by who we uniquely are– we are fulfilled, when we don’t– we’re medicated and distracted.

I profess how much I HATE dependence and believe me I do. BUT one of my top genetic values is camaraderie and so I always feel fulfilled and engaged when I’m working together with my team. I’m so naturally disagreeable that I’ve tried to wash this trait out of me, but as soon as I work with my team, without fail, I return to a better version of me.

I become fulfilled because I’m becoming myself.

Like it or not, I need this to feel alive.

This is what you need to find, and to find it record your day before you go to bed. How did you act? What did you do? How much of those things do you regularly do? What days were good days? What days were bad days?

We’re not looking for the thing itself, we’re looking for the values behind them.

If you live out what you naturally value and stop judging it, you’ll find fulfillment and success (how you define it).

This is the secret. No stupid universal laws, no self improvement books, no dumbass gurus courses.

These values are unique to you, all you have to do is uncover them and then LIVE them.

#FoolForward

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Happiness Cheat Code: Stop Fantasizing

Published July 22, 2021 by V

Stoicism comes from understanding, happiness comes from peace, and fulfillment comes from presence– and yet we chase stoicism through chapters, happiness through experiences, and fulfillment with distraction.

We’ve turned our greatest intelligence, the ability to create, inward. Now, we’ve got an entire generation suffering from restless imagination syndrome– dressed up as anxiety, depression, and overall discontent.

You’re not looking for answers, you’re looking for your values.

As it turns out, life is far more simple than we make it. If I focused each day on only living out my values, I’d naturally feel fulfilled– and that’s all fulfillment is, engaging with your true self.

As children we were helpless, but we understood the concept of play. We could toy with beliefs and values, because back then — we knew they weren’t real. The only thing that was real was our dedication to make believe.

At some point, we became the environment that discouraged us.

Imagine taking all this serious? Complaining and hating life, for what? Even if it sucks and you want to drive around in a lambo, beating yourself up will only move you even further away.

I’ve finally come to terms with the fact that dreams beget misery.

We should have goals, but focusing on what you don’t have is poison. It creates a habit of depressive thinking, small-mindedness, and distorts our perceptions of the world– coloring everything negatively.

Your attitude is the genre of your movie.

I think on a universal scale, we all really just want one thing: A good time while we’re here. That’s why the self-improvement industry is so hot, influencers are a thing, and social media addicting.

We’re looking for it, instead of living it.

Happiness comes from peace, but peace isn’t found. You can’t go somewhere and suddenly have it, because you can’t outrun your own discontented nature.

Peace from mind is happiness.

It’s understanding.

It’s knowing all you have to do is stop searching, fantasizing, complaining– all you really have to do is let go and be here.

Decide what it is that matters most, and prioritize living that out accordingly.

#FoolForward

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The Easiest Way To Achieve Your Dreams: Wake Up

Published July 19, 2021 by V

Why is it that the more we build something up in our minds, the farther away we move from it?

We’re all masters of illusion.

We convince ourselves of what we want, who we are, where we’ll go and why we’re here. Everything in our lives is a result of some myth we play in the back of our mind, while we autopilot our way through our environment.

Years go by like this, we’ve got that dream…some desire, it’s always been there and it’s completely unchanged.

It’s the “meaning” in your otherwise meaninglessness.

And yet… it isn’t real.

The reason most people never reach their dreams is because they try to dream their way to achievement.

The more I wanted something, the harder it became to start. I was less practical and having built the thing up in my mind, I felt overwhelmed by it– which ended with my failure to launch.

You have to wake up.

The only way to build a life for yourself that you measure a success, is to be ruthlessly practical.

The smallest advancements came from me “waking up.”

Being honest with myself, seeing my actual faults and where I needed work is what led me to starting a suitable career and finally making progress in my life.

Dreams take you back, reality launches you forward.

In reality, you might not be suitable for the things you’re chasing. I used to think I wanted to be a movie director… the idea just lived in my head without me ever doing it, learning about, or practicing it.

Not only did it not suit me at all (being impulsive, short tempered, quick, production oriented, results driven, and never caring about art in my life) but I didn’t even like it.

I just had it in my head, and never scrutinized the idea itself.

When I go back to dreaming about the rockstar life, because I still do– I just remind myself all the things my dreams got me.

Unemployed, depressed, isolated, skill-less, and broke.

And then without fail, I return to practicality which has always helped me achieve– BECAUSE it’s real!

If you want progress and a life of fulfillment, stop chasing happiness.

What are you inclined for? What are you naturally good at? What type of intelligence do you possess?

Take that and start exploring niches you might be interest in, and start there.

The process of achievement is really the process of waking up, and I never really put this together until my typing it right here– but that’s why I’m so against those spiritual practices surrounding goal setting.

Because for me personally, they’ve only moved me away from my goals.

Take inventory of yourself.

Figure out what you’re like, and find where that’ll suit you.

#FoolForward

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Your Unfair Advantage

Published July 5, 2021 by V

Today, in our social justice world– we’re all concerned with equity, equality, this, that, and the other thing.

But when we’re job-hunting without the aide of our “Greek translation bachelors degree” we naturally might wonder, what the hell should we do for a living?

There’s plenty of ways to approach this. Some will go the “top hits” route and do what others recommend.

This might look like you becoming a real estate agent, having never studied or looked into the markets, having ZERO interest, and being a complete novice when it comes to sales.

But you landed here, because it’s trendy right now.

This is the opposite of the unfair advantage, instead it’s the quickest way to live a mediocre ass life.

And it’s what most will do.

To be fair, you weren’t dealt the absolute best education. We’re all taught the importance of following the pack in order to survive…. but what happens when the pack doesn’t?

Solo dolo time.

Anyways, back to the point of this post.

We all have things we are inclined for, yet it never occurs to any of us to look into these. I’m not talking about passion, only skill. If you’re good at it, you should monetize it.

Fact is, everyone’s got something.

Well, this is the key to your success.

Where do you add massive value? What haven’t you been taught that you excel at? Why do others go to you?

These are the important questions, not what’s your star sign? Or soul’s mission?

A lot of us are buying into bullshit. You’re literally resorting to toddler level thinking from desperation, which is giving rise to scammers, gurus, and a bunch of vampiric parasites who will suck you dry and leave you worthless.

But you always have an alternative.

Take it from someone who survived that route, and successfully made a comeback– GET practical.

Seriously.

Come back down to earth and pay attention to the NOW.

What skills do I naturally have? Where do I get high returns for my efforts?

Figure out your unfair advantage, and go all in on that. This is what gives birth to purpose and meaning, which is what’ll help remedy depression. In the end, the only way to have a fulfilling life is NOT to law of attract it, it’s to BUILD IT.

Stop being so spiritual, and start being practical.

#FoolAround

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Licking Wounds: Listen to what you’re saying…

Published July 4, 2021 by V

It feels like it was another lifetime ago, but I once had a professor who said we all reeked of who we were.

For a long time, I didn’t see this but now having my thoughts documented throughout the years… that, and a little more self awareness– it’s obvious.

What I’ve noticed is your tongue naturally moves towards your wounds. During a conversation, assuming the two parties are close, both will start to talk about what’s on their mind.

AND IT NEVER CHANGES.

You are what you are. Since my toddler-trodding days, as a child who didn’t know shit about anything– even then, the only thing I ever cared about was my passion and purpose.

And today? Yup. In blogs, journals, and conversations– the thing I’m working out while I speak– my f**king passion, help me understand UNIVERSE!!!

It’s always the same. It’s the same for me, you, and every human being on the planet. We lick our wounds too.

The key to you understanding yourself on the deepest level, and upgrading yourself and your life, is this: Pay attention to what you keep talking about.

For some it’ll be relationships, for others things, but everyone does it.

To finally be able to see and hear yourself is a superpower. In doing so, you can cut the self-improvement crap, and immediately work on what’s actually bothering you.

What’s my obsession with purpose, calling, and passion?

I lacked meaning. I wanted something to dedicate my life to. When I realized this, I made progress.

For you it’ll likely be totally different.

No need to read about it or wonder, as you talk to people throughout the day… as soon as you end that day- reflect.

Where did my tongue go?

Do this, and gain the thing you’re looking for.

#FoolAround

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Wake Up: What I finally came to understand about Chasing Dreams…

Published July 3, 2021 by V

Hey Fool.

There’s always a lot of selling going on.

Ideas, products, courses, beliefs, pretty much everything we’ve got we were sold, either by someone else or ourselves.

What I’ve come to finally realize is my idea of success was TOXIC. No clue how it took me this long to see it, but it’s crystal clear to me now.

Chasing dreams is a bad idea.

We should also define this before I end up sounding like Mr. Scrooge.

By chasing dreams, I mean the individual who only a few years ago realized they love singing, but never practice, sound like an elephant giving birth, and isn’t studying the craft or trying to get better.

We laugh at them on reality shows, but in truth… we’re not so different.

How is you wanting to be a millionaire unalike? Are you working 24/7 on a side business? Are you studying the greats in your free time. A lot of you haven’t made $10 side hustling and you’re talking about smoking Elon.

I’m not saying it isn’t doable, I’m saying chasing dreams leads to a nightmare life.

We have to be practical.

All fulfillment comes from skills, actual skills… learned skills…

This is what led to my life becoming awesome. No manifestation, law of “it comes to me because I am a creator”, none of that.

I became the person I wanted to be, by DEDICATING TO IT.

I didn’t dream it up, I chased skills, discipline, and gradually strengthened myself. Dreams are like sugar highs– maybe fun in the moment, but you will crash.

I recommend pursuing goals. Goals are actionable, practical, and will level you TF up when pursued properly.

But what do I know?

#StayFoolish

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The Game of Momentum: Why your goals should be smaller

Published July 2, 2021 by V

It only takes a little to change a lot.

Looking at my life, it’s weird to see that the biggest life altering results came from incredibly small adjustments. Starting a blog led to a new career as a copywriter, training in muay thai led to a new social life, confidence, passion, and improved focus. Listening to one 30 minute video on keeping a positive mindset each morning– would lead to me performing better in my role and embracing life’s challenges.

I used to “All-or-Nothing” my life… and that’s why nothing always happened.

Life is the sum total of these little moments. It’s a game of momentum.

If you crave change, start as SMALL as possible. Instead of wondering what you’ll do? Where you’ll go, or what’s the next BIG thing for you… ask yourself, what tiny thing can I do today to move in that direction?

And JUST do that, don’t concern yourself with anything else. If you don’t know the answer or what you need to do– JUST PICK. You don’t have to love it, just be interested enough to learn.

Want to lose weight? Don’t even focus on training, cut out snacks or walk for an extra 5 minutes.

Want to find a new career? Hold off on quitting entirely, and find a small and easy hobby you can do in your free time.

The answer is always small… that’s why we initially miss it. You’re looking for lightning to strike, for what? All you need is a tiny baby step towards something… you don’t even have to know what it is. That’s the best part about this law.

When I started my blog, it wasn’t this site by the way– I had no intention of becoming a writer, I didn’t have a clue where it would lead.

I did it just to stick to something, and it had HUGE results.

That’s all any of us need to do. We just need small things incorporated into our daily lives and without fail, they will change.

If you’re stuck, lost, or unsure of yourself, before you deem yourself hopeless– ADD one small thing (something new) to your daily ritual for 30 days.

See where it leads, infallibly so, it will lead you somewhere…

#FoolAround

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Get Tough On Goal Setting

Published June 13, 2021 by V

When you aren’t obstructing your own progress by feeling sorry for yourself, you’ll be able to achieve your goals with much less resistance.

Most of us don’t have goals, we have aims… not even that, we’ve got ideas.

We’ve got some vague illusion for what we want out of life floating around in our minds, but no actual way to measure, define, or act on it.

These ideas are where you’re delusional. We all have blind spots, and it’s different for each of us– but to see them you’ll have to become far more objective.

When it comes to creation, I easily default to delusion. Whether that be starting a business, working on a project, creating content… it doesn’t matter. My love for grandiose ideas, blinds any potential progress.

I learned to combat this by chasing problems, problems I want to SOLVE.

Practicality.

For me not to get lost in the idea phase, I always choose the quickest action and move on it immediately.

I know I’m going to sound like some flat, uninteresting, 2-dimensional robot, but dreams never got me anywhere- GOALS did.

If you want to go somewhere knew, you’ll need to change your approach.

  • Specific – What is the direction and meaning of the goal I’m pursuing?
  • Measurable – Will the goal be able to be measured?
  • Attainable – Is the goal realistic?
  • Relevant – Does the goal align with my inner self?
  • Time-Bound – When will the goal need to be met?

#StayFoolish

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