Tag: SelfHelp

Bridge burning isn’t always a bad thing, a lot of you need forced change– and you’re the hand that needs to force it.

Fate supports the bold not the balanced.

The cost of being “safe and practical” is years added between now and you achieving what you’re after.

You can be uncertain, but never unmoving.

I’ll keep it short.

Save some gas for after the bridge, the same thing that burns also runs— and will get you MOVING forward.

-Fool

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You shot your shot, then realized it’s a goal for the other team… now what?

Running back and forth and kicking the ball around with no results is part of the game but if after scoring, those results aren’t something that directly benefit you— take a time out and bench your player.

The things you fantasize about– what you’d like to happen, that’s what you MUST embrace in order to get ahead.

If you’re “winning” but not advancing, not learning, not growing, then you’re not playing for your team— you’re just kicking a ball around.

Be your own hero.

If this ain’t your game, leave and do it immediately.

Only you can score for yourself.

-Fool

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Every single one of us is born with access to a borrowed intelligence. A unique area where, not only do we get easy returns, but we’re effortlessly skilled here.

The way to first figure out what this is for you is to look at the things you do easily, the things you’re good at but couldn’t teach others.

You don’t know how you know, but you know.

You don’t have ego here, you just do it.

You won’t care about it. That’s a major tell— it’s the thing you almost don’t even respect because you’re so indifferent.

This is your infinite intelligence. For myself, I always knew how to present and frame things, for a family member, it’s connecting with people and helping them get unstuck within a single conversation, and for a friend it’s analyzing minds and making quick decisions off that.

Everyone has this access, but because we’re so indifferent to it we often don’t care or want to use it. That’s the mistake. Using this will enrich your life and lead to the one you want.

Start tapping in and embracing it.

-Fool

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Book stores are like therapists, the goal is to get you to keep coming.

There’s so much knowledge out there.

From all the books, courses, people you follow, and youtube videos you watch– you could easily waste away thinking you’re doing something just by “learning”.

People lose years doing it. Some their entire lives.

The problem with this is it creates the wrong dynamic.

Gets you in the habit of consuming, when you need to be producing.

The only true way to learn, and to get what you want, isn’t to read more.

It’s to try as many things as possible.

Stop refilling your order. You’re supposed to be lost so that you can explore, and then figure it out as you go– that’s the game. Not find the right mentor, therapist, school, passion, and whatever the fuck you think you’re lacking.

-Fool

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Everyone has skeletons in their closet and ghosts of their past, but if you refuse to move out of your haunted house you’ll continue to suffer.

Here’s a strange and counterintuitive way to suffer less:

Leave it alone.

Stop focusing on the thing. The pain, unhappiness, sore spot on your insides— let it heal by leaving it.

Wanna know the cure for your chaos?

Go do something that focuses your energy outward and gets you outside of yourself. The truest words I’ve ever heard spoken were, “Theres no difference between thinking about yourself and suffering.”

More you analyze yourself, more ya suffer.

We’re not meant to be all up in our own business, too self aware means too uninvolved in life— which usually equals people looking for therapists.

Find something to lose yourself in and commit to that, because the more you pour into it the less you’ll suffer.

-Fool

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Hey Uggo, 

For the sake of earning quick trust and rapport, I’m going to talk to you in a voice you recognize, your own.  

You put yourself dead last every day of the week, then pretend to be offended when someone says something kinda negative or politically incorrect? 

Good try, but we know you hate yourself. 

What gave it away? 

It wasn’t that you know about every show that’s EVER been out and have somehow watched all of them.    

It wasn’t that your idea of fun is you being a slob under the influence of who and whatever is influencing.  

It wasn’t that you have no real friends, no hobbies, and no life outside of your lifeless 9-to-5. 

It wasn’t any of these things, though they don’t help your score. 

Wanna know what it is? 

You ooze 2 energy. 

You don’t go after your dreams, fuck it, you don’t even dream. 

Start there– you giver uper. 

You let your job stress you, knowing you mean nothing to them. Knowing they’d fire you at the drop of a— if they just feel like it. 

You SLEEP awake then wonder why life keeps taking a disgusting dump all over you? Maybe don’t sleep tail side under the elephant in your room.

We make ourselves in this life.

No one is going to give you permission.

No one is going to push you.

You don’t need to be anything, you don’t even need to do more. You just need to decide you’re going to accept the invite. 

-Fool

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It’s easy to get stuck.

You do the same thing day in, day out, and do it for long enough– you forget it’s completely within your power to change whatever you don’t like.

I’ve neglected sleep, my goals, my habits, rituals, everything but constant erratic movement.

So for the next 3 months starting today, I’m resetting my system, through discipline. The restraints you choose should be specific to your weaknesses, but the point is you should do this.

If for 3 months you got rid of what’s holding you back, how many YEARS ahead could you be?

I invite you to find out.

Doesn’t have to be extreme either. For me it’s having set work hours, set rise and sleep hours, and set training hours.

I’m maxing time and productivity since that’s where I lose most.

See you on the other side.

-Fool

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A lot of people suffer from what they say is “being too mentally active”, at least they think that’s the problem if you ask them.

Every time you chat or hear them out, it’s some version of: “I coulda woulda shoulda— do all these things but don’t because, ya know, this big ole’ brain won’t focus.“

Losers talk like this.

Overthinking doesn’t make you bright or exceptional, it just means you can’t control yourself and that’s a major part of the game to achievement.

A friend of mine put it best, your dreams have to die to free you up for living life.

Nothing kills fantasy like reality.

Reach for what’s immediate. Do what you can, today, right now.

The cure to your rebellious mind is action.

Act.

-Fool

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The professional world is a tough place my friend.

It’s a place where you’ll often need to collab with the opps and do so cordially, to make whatever it is you’re being asked to make.

MAKING, the act of bringing something to life– whether that be a video, a blog, a product, whatever—making is the key to all success.

I’ve noticed losers cling onto one thing, and since they can’t make anything, don’t produce shit, and are full of that which they can’t produce, they fight to be…….

…..heard.

And for what?

“They have IDEAS.”

Get one thing in your head. Ideas DON’T belong to you, me, or anyone.

IDEAS are universal, free, cheap, and easy.

If you’re bragging about your ideas, unless you’re some ahead of your time visionary (which probably not, since you live in present time), you’re a loser.

Forget the fact that you, like everyone else, have a voice in your head. We all have one of those genius.

Instead– focus on making and see what that idea do then.

-Fool

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What could you possibly be planning?

You? Who can’t see their future– let alone “the” future.

You? Who is often confused about what you’re doing and why.

You? Who dreams of more, without knowing what takes or gives to your own life.

There is no planning for you, and if you drop the concept you can focus on what’s left— the action.

The daily, simplified and easy, action.

Do what’s visible. Do what’s immediate. Do what’s right in front of you.

Leave everything else to the mystical forces of time, nature, and destiny.

-FOOL

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Your wishes and goals don’t just come true– and your hard work and struggle don’t make you anymore deserving.

For a long time I used to wonder what separated those that made it from those that didn’t. Was it clarity, focus, a better work ethic?

Turns out it was none of those things.

Goals are no different from new years resolutions, for the most part, bullshit.

The people who achieve the things they aimed for use systems.

If you decide on starting a business, your day needs to involve daily activity around running a business— and you’ll succeed. But it has to be daily and the ball has to stay in your court, focus on your effort.

Make it daily, what action do you need to take?

-Fool

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We’ve all searched weird things online, and if you’re equipped with a dirtier mind– maybe you’re way beyond weird and into…. other stuff.

But when it comes to “figuring out” your life, your goals, and which direction you’d like to move in the next year, the answers can be found in your embarrassing history.

Before you go on a clean slate deleting spree, take a look at where you’ve been dumping your time.

Betting on your patterns is how you succeed.

Before I was a writer, I was everything else (and bad at it). Looking at my history is how I figured out that my options were actually limited.

You think you can do it all because you look at it from the perspective of what’s out there. Truth is, if you look at it from your history– you’re left with one to two things, and that’s where you should get started.

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Whatever you’ve got to do, want to do, or are about to do— do it like you’re the best in the world at it.

Do it like it’s absolute play for you.

Do it with confidence.

We’re brought up to criticize ourselves, to keep ourselves down, to be humble (not actually, but they use this word to keep you away from practicing the mindset you need in order to do anything special with your life).

You have one life.

It’s not about ready or not, it’s not about faking it or not.

It’s about choice. Choose to show up and show out and your life will change so dramatically, you’ll be surprised by how much joy you find in it.

-Fool

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If you’re done with this chapter, don’t finish it, just put the book down and go pickup another.

We get stuck because we think there’s some process we’re supposed to follow, that somehow this way of doing the same thing day in and day out will lead to something better.

Maybe that is the case.

Maybe it’s not.

But the new year started and with it, I’m clearing out the old.

If you’re lucky enough to at least know what you DON’T want, start there.

-FOOL

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Do you have something you want right now?

Something you’re after?

For me, I’ve always wanted self employment and I thought it’d hit way harder and be way more fulfilling having it.

But you know what?

I just barely started and all things considered, this entrepreneur thing is basically another job.

Only now, your client is the boss.

(Insert feelings of apathy and detachment).

This is how it goes for me.

When the dream comes true and you wake to it, you’ll find all the things left out of the exciting movie trailer are the boring scenes you have to shoot.

And this is where it’s most important you know how to see. I got what I wanted and here I am, looking for greener grass. For us, the way is forward.

Wherever you’ve gotten wins– whether it be some hobby you don’t care about, a skill you possess, whatever— you need to go all in on that. Double, triple, quadruple, on that.

Where does life invite you to do more? Where do you nearly always win?

Go there, practice seeing what life is showing you and you’ll reach it.

-FOOL

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They say when you’re entering a new field, find someone who’s already accomplished what you’re seeking to do and copy them.

“Don’t reinvent the wheel”

they say.

Thing is, a lot of what goes into finding the way, is making the way.

The people who carve out successful lives did so after they followed their own instincts. The path that’ll work for you is the one that is your own idea.

You have to unplug from the influence of others and follow yourself. You have to figure out what you’re being called to do right now, and where you must go to advance?

You have to hear the call, then answer it.

Success and fulfillment are highly individualistic.

Be an individual to individuate.

-FOOL

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Instead of applying your entertainment prescriptions directly to your eyes, pay attention to what your body is signaling to you.

Words are important, so think about what it means to feel dis-ease.

You’re disconnected.

Either you’re not living your values, you’re worried about something, or you’re not taking action when you know you should be.

Like most problems, it starts inside.

Cure the inside first to solve for the out.

–FOOL

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I always imagined these “wins” a little different, but that was because I never looked at them beyond scoring.

After you score a win, it leaves the work.

Regular, good ole’ “time to deliver on your promises” work…

Don’t get me wrong, those dreams you hold onto are worth it, but building them up into something beyond a repeatable and actionable system isn’t.

Fact is, everything becomes normal, eventually.

Especially your dreams.

If you want something so badly– you signal to your brain that it’s out of your league (figuratively).

Instead, desire it not as a dream, but as a next step and then you’ll have it–because only as a practical next step is it small enough for you to achieve.

-FOOL

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We love them for their values, not their golden retriever innocence.

At some point you might have wondered, why are most of these overpowered protectors of Earth dumb af?

But if the “hero” thought about the returns for saving random strangers… I don’t know that they’d continue to do it.

There is such a thing as being TOO self aware. Like the “suffering artist” archetype. That trope has a lot of truth to it— sit there and reflect and suddenly the motivation to love thy neighbor disappears.

Heroes are like batteries, always on, always going, no reflecting.

They have to be like that.

If you can see reality (and be objective) but still balance a delusional amount of self confidence, you’ll win at whatever the hell you decide to pursue.

That’s the “success” formula books hardly ever teach you.

Confidence isn’t about faking awesomeness or showing P.D.A. (public displays of affection) to your own image…

…it’s about choice.

Choosing to sit in discomfort and being okay with the fact that you could fail, and failure, in the end tally’s to living a full life.

Let’s not think about it. Let’s not worry. Just show up, see what’s there needing your attention and face it.

–FOOL

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Not sure what you’re doing?

There’s really only one good antidote for that…

Get involved, get overly involved.

You get nervous when you start thinking about performance, more specifically, how you’ll fail. Switch that and instead think exclusively how to solve the challenge before you.

You don’t need expertise, you need creativity. Worry murders the minds creative reserves, so don’t bother.

Instead, open yourself to the present.

Make solving the problem your only existence and you will.

If you waste energy and catastrophize, prophesize, then materialize your worries, you add on to whatever thing you’re facing, and that is how you fail.

Failure needs participation, it is impossible to fail without the failures attention and engagement.

Refuse to surrender to it and you won’t fail.

Today, rise.

–FOOL

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