Tag: #startingover

Some of us are too good at limiting ourselves.

We use language like, “that’s not me” or “I can’t” —and I’m not one of those people who will tell you anything is possible.

That’s bullshit, and yeah– not everything is for everyone, that’s why you have to know thyself.

But when it comes to career, friends, important decision-making like where you live, that’s pretty simple.

Want to be your best self or your favorite?

Let me rephrase from where I stand: Phuck “best self”.

It isn’t real.

That’s the voice of childhood conditioning floating in your head, judging you and keeping you in mediocrity.

Play however you want to play, play as your favorite.

To me– this means NEVER allowing myself to feel bad over everyday stresses.

All of this is for nothing, we’re the ones who make it worth what it is. When I’m laying on my deathbed, I want to look back and see a full life. That’s my call, you chase what does it for you.

Get going, #FOOLFWD

I’m more myself than I’ve ever been, and that came from embracing what I’m in.

Hello MF.

I probably sound like a broken record player on this site, because every post is the same lesson repackaged.

The good news for you is– there is actually just one thing, that when done, improves every aspect of your life.

If you’re a reader, you know that thing is attitude.

Quick note: Be happy, is not an attitude. That’s cheap bumper sticker advice that doesn’t mean anything.

I mean attitude as in your daily approach to experiences.

Something happens to us when we decide to embrace it all. When we finally give up all the paranoid thinking and just lean into what we have.

The movie limitless comes to mind.

If you can manufacture excitement, and play throughout each moment, there is no way you don’t create opportunities out of thin air. It is a guaranteed law of the universe and I don’t mean that in a spiritual sense.

Dreams move us away from living.

It’s good to have dreams, but most people can’t balance them. I couldn’t… til recently.

Here’s where you start: Pretend this is all you have– seriously. Imagine that theres a giant invisible clock ticking above you (because there is) and let that inform how you respond to situations.

In the face of death, nothing matters.

Your dream life is right in front of you– but you have to go all out to reach it.

Trick yourself, fake excitement, don’t lose your inner child.

These are the things that make it all worth it.

chat soon, #FOOLFWD

If you come with a bag of issues and no resolution in sight, you’re probably a writer.

At the very least, you have the potential to be one of the greats.

And theres the problem with writing, for me…

… my issues aren’t as real.

I don’t have deep sadness from the worlds suffering, I’m not unhappy with myself, I’m also lacking in butt power (the ability to sit for long periods of time in order to connect with your work on some weirdly spiritual level).

I am none of these things.

Writing is just play, so rather than try to make myself into one of you artists, I’m carving it out to suit myself.

I like scripts, I’ll lead with that.

I like bold, snappy, and quick content (long form is boring).

A lot of us feel guilt for not belonging, don’t. Your task is to uncover your own unique lane and you can’t do that when you’re following the paths of others.

Why’d I make this post and how the hell does it help you?

Don’t stay on one thing if it’s missing something. Only you’ll know when it’s time to either add something new, subtract the old, or adapt the approach.

Change as needed.

Til next time, stay moving.

#FOOLFWD

Look, we’ll all have to do things we might not completely love– but no one has to hate anything.

There is a way to avoid misery on your journey to fulfillment.

And this hack is dependent on you knowing what makes you tick.

But first an example: During my high school years I learned that not only was I excellent with groups, but that was what fulfilled me (collabing, creating, building together, etc.). I became a better me around my own team. When you understand psychology and personality types, you learn nature plays a big role in what fulfills us.

If you’re high extrovert— WITHDRAWING to go build on your own is the dumbest move possible!

But thats what I did, and so I fell from grace.

After enough self analysis and understanding, I’ve since changed my approach to suit me, and surprise-surprise, life is phucking awesome again!

This is the ultimate success hack. This is all you need to know.

Fulfilled by helping others? Put yourself in those environments first, then worry about what and how you’ll do as a career.

The nature part comes first.

Success follows us leveraging our DNA.

Everything I build will be based on my strengths– and if you want to win, but more importantly enjoy your life, you’ll need to do the same.

Til next time, #FOOLFWD

If you’re one of those rare individuals who feel the need to constantly throw yourself into various fires and build a stronger player— you should know something.

There is no self improvement practice, at least, not the ones where you do random habits or read a specific amount of books– and somehow unlock phoenix mode? No.

That’s not actually real.

Maybe it helps, but not in the ways you’d like.

Ironically, I’ve developed the most personally while maintaining the least habits, and while nearly reading next to nothing new.

Morning routine is essentially the gym and casually writing these posts. Reading is random, I do it when I feel like it. Diet, it’s just okay–

And yet I’m learning far more about my strengths and weaknesses and developing my character, how?

Through my work.

That’s the answer for all of us. Work develops us. Now, the catch is there has to be some connection to who you are. In my field, there certainly is.

But when I tried to deliberately improve, I oddly became more neurotic and isolated. When I embraced my craft and leaned into what I was doing, I started seeing results. The other day I wondered how I’d convey this idea to my younger self if given the chance…. and I don’t think I ever could.

That idiot was just too big headed.

You have to bump your head until the headache makes you stop.

Embracing your life is the answer. I treat my career like I wish I’d have went through my youth and school. Nothing matters, so play. Quit resisting everything, these little moments are what you’ll look back on in the end.

Improving is human nature.

It will fulfill you, give you more confidence, and make life far more engaging and interesting. But to do it, you have to shift your attitude towards the game.

What are you playing for?

Til next time, #FOOLFWD

Everything comes down to what you’re willing to give.

There is no real concept of imposter syndrome or deserving something. It’s just will you do what you need to– to accomplish the thing.

The things that used to work for me, won’t for the next level.

I recognize that, and so that’s what goes.

I don’t mind, actually theres relief that comes with that.

Most of us likely don’t want to repeat our lives— making the same mistakes and being hung up on the exact same problems.

You have to make a sacrifice and that’s of your own weaknesses.

The old goat.

I used to try to clever my way through things, sometimes at the expense of others. That will never work for where I’m going. I want a good reputation, one that promises authenticity and delivering excellent work.

Keep cleverness in the craft itself.

We’ll get hung up on things like whats next or where to? Those aren’t the questions we need answering.

What you’re looking for is: Who?

Who will you live life as? How will you live? Where do you spend time, what do you do?

Life follows the character, not the other way around.

Develop the character and life molds itself to match.

Focus on who you need to live as to have that dream life, and everything follows.

Til next time, #FOOLFWD

The other day I had a moment of weakness.

I felt overwhelmed, which resurfaced old feelings from my youth– the ones that make me feel like vanishing.

Strategically, I slept it off. And now I’m clear headed.

I’m going back to what brought me here, to the things that gave me results.

I’m going to harden myself and rise to this new chapter of my life. Remember, there is nothing to ever take personally or feel guilty about.

Guilt is society’s voice.

There is only you and what you want.

That said, I’m leveling up.

I have to be a better writer, and better at my own personal self improvement practices (the laws).

Not much of a post today, but there is something here for all of us:

Anchor yourself to something that can never be taken from you. This will become your superpower in times of crisis.

There is one belief you should know this brand will forever encapsulate, and that is: YOU ARE THE CREATOR OF YOUR LIFE.

Reject everyones roles for you, and write your own.

Til we meet again,

#FOOLFWD

Regular action unlocks desire.

Where I am right now, and where this all leads to– is pretty awesome.

I couldn’t have created or manufactured any of this, no matter what I would have done. Things actually turned out far better than anything I could have ever dreamed of. But how the hell did all this start?

I let go.

You have to forget your dreams to achieve them.

When you’re neurotic and death gripping every aspect of reality, something weird happens… opportunities evade you because you’re creepy.

Everything comes from a state of play. We’re excellent problem solvers, fluid, adaptable, and fun to be around– which matters.

Letting go is a crucial first half.

The second– that’d be nonstop action.

Theres an idea in our heads that when we’re chilling or in our down time, we should think about what we’d like to happen next. I have yet to meet one person actually good at sitting and thinking into the future.

You don’t think your way there, you act.

What you build becomes the journey itself. The things you try, people you meet, random applications you send out.

Life is made up of random moments that lead to unimaginable journeys.

Your problem is you want to know, before you go.

It doesn’t work like that.

If you’re ready for something new, do something different. Throw out a bunch of stuff and see what happens.

Chat soon. #FoolOn

Same brain, different mind?

Changing dreams will do that. And that pretty much sums up my journey from where I came from, to where I’m now going.

If you had 5 minutes in a room with 17 year old you– what would you tell them?

This is the only person I compare myself to, and it’s a real eye opener.

My quick advice would be: WORK MORE. Always be working, dreams on their own turn into delusion fast, and delusion rots reality.

You don’t need the books. You don’t need all those freakish habits. It’s okay to enjoy taking a shower.

Just keep building.

Have skills, create, play, do as much as humanely possible. Working is a habit. Once you find your niche, you’ll see– it’s true fulfillment. I’m to the point where weekends are lame distractions.

The weirdest phenomenon is what happens to the brain when we’re removed from reality. Even some of the smartest people fall to this– it’s like everything you touch turns to failure. That’s why you need to be on the pulse.

You have to be in the arena, on the field, you have to be a player.

Otherwise your ideas aren’t based on anything useful.

How do you move out of the fog when you’re stuck in the middle?

By taking the smallest steps.

My mistake was I kept trying to go from nothing– to giant grandiosity. Because I was removed from that niche, market, and what people desired and I only thought about my growing pains– I kept creating useless crap.

Whatever it is you think you’d enjoy or like to build, you can’t go from nothing. You have to first get a feel for the field, you have to understand the players.

Start as small as possible.

Do it casually.

Then you’ll wake up, and to a different life.

Til next time, #FOOLFWD

You suffer because you’re not day-living.

If you looked back on your fondest memories or moments where you deeply enjoyed your life, you know what you wouldn’t find?

All the time you wasted thinking about the future, or putting off living– because you were saving yourself for some goal.

If we don’t love our journey there, then we’re miserably existing– and what’s the point of that?

Prioritize day living.

Bring the excitement to the things you do or suffer the rest of your life.

That’s how you create the momentum needed to change your life. The most important skill is really learning to stay present, and letting go of our wishing-for-better habit.

None of any of it matters. Nothing matters.

That’s a liberating thought.

I suffered when I was a kid. I held on so tightly to my future, everything was a big deal. I was so wound up that everything in front of me was half experienced, if that.

I was too good at self control.

I never let myself relax.

I was never off the hook.

Life sucked.

Vs now.

Now, I don’t care.

The more I play, don’t think about anything, and just move with it– the more momentum and success I see.

The lesson for me was letting go. Pay attention to what’s in front of you. Learn how to be an opportunist when it comes to living.

LIVE.

Quit trying to find reasons for things, or explain away shortcomings or overly intellectualize every situation.

The point is to live. That’s it.

The reason you suffer is because you don’t know how to play and you think different circumstances will change that?

Ironic.

You won’t play just because things are better.

Play is a habit, and yours is one of suffering.

Change now.

Til our next chat,

#FOOLFWD

I’ve settled.

From the moment I started all of this (blog included), I gave everything the bare minimum.

This was my backup plan.

Just something to point to as insurance, should nothing work out– still not a loser.

Since my marriage to this grind, I’ve mentally cheated every single day. Not one moment in this “journey” where I didn’t wish for outside intervention & excitement to intervene and abduct me from normalcy.

But I’ll tell you wholeheartedly, the urges do get more manageable.

Despite my protests, the more I write– the less appealing my original desires become. In short, I’m not leaving my momentum for delusion.

Your career depends on others, regardless of what you choose– that’s a highly vulnerable position.

Skills stand alone.

They’re yours, beyond that– they transform your character.

Intentional self improvement is garbage if it’s not aimed directly at the head of your weaknesses.

Reading books each day. Cold showers. Meditation.

All of it, unnecessary.

I only improved, when I committed to a skill.

Hence the title of this post. As I continue to write, to commit, to lean into becoming better, my animalistic urges lessen.

The mind still craves what it craves, so I’m looking for an outlet– something independent of what I’m doing. But this time it’s not to take over, or in hopes of saving me from mediocrity, this is just an outlet.

I realize the most important decision you can ever make is this: I’m good no matter what.

If you sit there and torture yourself with your endless possibilities and desires, your life will suck on a whole new low.

Do what’s before you, as best you can.

Only playful embrace will lead to your path.

—fool

Hey MF,

If theres anything thats really saved me from my old and mediocre ways, it’s understanding and improving on the art of the start.

See, most of us are lingerers.

When we have an idea, we then linger upon it for weeks, do nothing, leave it, then return to it, research, then do nothing again.

Years pass like this, and then in our own unhappiness we randomly revisit it… maybe this time, we’ll start.

This never works.

And is the result of chasing shores, not the island. We all want change to some extent– some of us want entirely different lives, most of us want small improvements.

But wishing for an opportunity to interrupt your lame zoom call and throw you into adventure is not only impractical, it’s loser shit.

To put this all in perspective, I’ve been craving adventure and with no definition of it. All I know right now is that I want a faster and more exciting life.

How do I take what I’ve got and make it more of what I’m craving?

Travel to foreign lands– figuratively speaking.

Associate with the people already doing it. Reach out to them, connect with them.

You can’t expect something different if you keep doing the same old tired crap. The only real question is what actions lead to this current result? How do I get this new result? What does this look like, and what is this chase?

If you’re going to make this year different, you have to retire your old habits– and start something new.

It isn’t the place you want, it’s what you think is there. Start with that.

#FoolOn

In this game, it’s a very fine line between reality and delusion.

Knowing how to walk that line basically determines your quality of life.

Sometimes, blind ignorance is required (starting a business, launching a new endeavor, picking up a new habit, etc.) and sometimes you need ruthless practicality (all problem solving and obstacle overcoming).

But every single one of us is in our own heads— so we think we’ve got a pretty solid handle on things.

If this were true, you’d be where you wanted to be, and you wouldn’t be reading self help blogs.

So what is the key to getting unstuck and ahead in life?

You need an anchor.

Something objective, rooted in reality, that you can turn to in crisis.

For me, it’s The Laws.

The Laws are behind every success in my own life. They’ve made me more rational, objective, empathic, and most importantly– more myself.

I live by the laws of human nature (Robert Greene).

And that’s important. You’re creating your own way of life here, a code, so it shouldn’t be something that isn’t connected to you. Greene’s materials speak to me deeply, so I’ve molded them to suit my circumstances.

You need to create your own.

You might think it’s unimportant but without something outside of yourself– what will keep you progressing? Your emotional mind? That’s the reason people quit, waste time, jump around from thing to thing, they’re all over the place. I was and by nature still am, like this.

My anchor is the reason I’ve progressed.

You need rules in your life.

You need self imposed structure.

Whether it be a morning routine or some north star that guides your every action, without a code to guide us– everyone drifts.

Stayfoolish

What’s up MF.

I change my mind shamelessly.

What you call flip-flops, I call new information.

Reading all the previous posts here are cringy… you’ll notice just how much I pivot from one idea to the next. And up until recently, it was hard to settle down on my own path.

The reason for this was simple: I didn’t understand my why behind the paths I chose. I knew why I wanted to win, and reach my destination. But I undervalued the specific vehicles for getting there.

Until I realized something:

Everything you make is for you.

If the thing you chose doesn’t bring you some unusual amount of peace, joy, and connection– it ain’t “your thing.”

I’m not saying drop it either, maybe it’s your thing for getting bread, but it isn’t the thing that will bring you spiritual wholeness.

I can’t not want money and fame. It’s just in me, always was and will be. And though I know it’s an empty pursuit, it’s one I’ll fulfill— life’s short and I’ve wanted it for quite some time.

However, I have my soul food too.

So, while I’m securing bread and trying to grow my personal stock to high demand– I’m writing, for me.

I have my soul food, but the junk food tastes good too.

I don’t all or nothing.

I don’t say yes to mastery, but no to fun.

I want it all.

If I had to choose, I’d choose wrong– by most peoples standards. Luckily, I don’t.

There is no right or wrong way to exist here. Find what brings you peace, do that.

Til next time,

FOOLON.

Think you can do whatever you set your mind to?

… Then you don’t know yourself one lickity-bit.

People don’t change at all. Funny how you think your different habits or opinions make you a new character in this game.

I used to think the past (mine, yours, ours) was something dead. But with the right tools, all the answers you ever needed are right there.

Well… a few days ago it happened.

Swept up by some night sweat, laying there–just trying to stay alive, my mind stepped into the time machine that is memory lane. Instead of my life flashing before my eyes, I saw specific, seemingly insignificant moments, all leading to now.

It was meta to say the least.

But what I saw was pure individuality, not only in myself, but in my friends as well.

I saw our uniqueness, and instead of judging whos better or worse, I only saw it as different characters each playing different games.

Why. is this important?

Because these characters thrive in different environments, and you have to know them to know where.

If you’re darting around different options and having a hard time settling on a path, here’s the solution.

Take a trip.

Lay in bed and trying it.

Objectively view what this nature is, and where you might. be rewarded in life for it?

Til next time,

#FOOLON

My goals are filing for divorce from my career.

In short, the ol’ ball and chain has kept me loveless. It’s boring being overly-ambitious. That whole gotta-get-it, always thinking about what’s next, how to hit it big, success, etc. it’s lame. What’s underrated is casual exploration.

I’m not saying be a loser and don’t pursue your goals, but sometimes it’s better to let things unfold.

You’re not always supposed to know… otherwise you wouldn’t do anything unordinary and that’s where the meaningful things happen.

You already know this, and this isn’t the high value content you’ve so generously committed your attention span to unearthing.

My goals have little to do with my career. I have life goals–

–A financial number that I make, the crib I want, the lifestyle and cars, but as for the how this all comes about? That I don’t care about.

For now, I think the skill/thing is writing… but I’m open to change.

For whatever reason, restlessness will find us and we’ll try to blueprint our lives after some walmart version celebrity.

That’s usually where I phuck up the plan.

There is a point to this: and that cigarette smoking drama student might have had it right, nothing really matters.

Wanna jump ship? Start swimming.

Wanna see it through? Start steering.

It really doesn’t matter what you do, as long as you do what you can and you stay doing something.

#FoolForward