Tag: purpose

Beyond your circle ⭕️

Published February 12, 2022 by V

What are you moving towards?

Dear Fool,

If there was ever a life philosophy that had nearly universal benefits to each individual who practiced it– it’d be movement.

We need to be moving towards something, otherwise– we expire (not die, but you know– complacency, boredom, pain and misery, resentment, all the hello-darkness-my-old-friend stuff).

They say you can’t outrun your problems, — and this must be the greatest lie ever told.

You literally can.

Problems only hold you when you’re still.

If you keep moving, you’ll make a way.

This raises the question: What are you moving towards right now?

A lot of us are stuck running circles. Wake up, force shit down out mouths– out our bowls, out the door, and back through it. Then you say you have anxiety and wonder why…

…

Call that living?

It doesn’t matter what your beliefs, you can see it as purpose, imagine it as destiny, attract it as a universal law– just don’t get hung up on the alphabet soup of it.

Jesus rewards do-ers.

Whatever your religion, edit movement into it.

Now, some of you may be thinking, “that’s great, but where the hell am I going?”

And to that I’d say– it MATTERS NOT.

You can go wherever, you’re not supposed to “know” exactly where. Just start moving, and you’ll discover side routes that attract you.

And that becomes the path.

Movement is living.

Sincerely,

— Future You (who is more successful and better looking) 🙂

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Re-learning to Live

Published July 11, 2021 by V

Hey Fool.

I finally get that our dreams, hopes, and achievements don’t actually change our lives– not in the way we think they would.

We might hope for a grand reset through moving to a different state, changing careers, building a new friend group and these things might initiate a little momentum.

But it doesn’t last because change doesn’t come from addition, it comes from revision.

I was always focused on my calling, finding my purpose– I was so tunnel vision on these things I didn’t understand that I was the wrong person to create them.

Overly focused on why I was born, I missed every opportunity to fully enjoy all that the human experience had to offer.

And as I did succeed and inch towards all the things I wanted, I was the same discontented individual.

Then I finally came to understand it, I never re-learned how to live. In my youth I found survival mode.

I was ultra-skeptical, discerning, critical, closed-off, I was mentally distant from the world– because it served me to be. A lot of us enter these phases, but it’s a mistake to let them alter your character and perspective- which I did.

I became someone who was numb to pain… and as a result– numb to joy.

I chased highs to feel something, rather than drugs my choice was risk. Danger made me feel closer to my youth.

But it was always temporary and as soon as the adrenaline wore off, I was me again.

It was made obvious no amount of external anything can change you, regardless of what it was. How lazy and pathetic of me to tie my fulfillment to temporary aspirations.

This isn’t some complain-y post where I drone on about the mysteries of unhappiness and how some of us are just built serious. Nay.

This entire post is about the great re-set. A super underrated ability every single human being possess, gifted to us by mother nature.

YOU CAN REINVENT YOURSELF AT ANY MOMENT.

I’ve always wanted purpose but what I failed to understand back then, purpose is not found it’s created.

I wanted my life to be full of awesome experiences, well those come from a shift in approach to the world, and that comes from an entirely new perspective.

So what caused all this misery?

A cynical attitude, perspective, and focus on negativity.

—So THAT is exactly where you need to start.

Rarely did I stop and appreciate what I had, and I had a lot. The whole, “it’s not enough” is just a garbage attitude that is easily changeable.

This is our superpower.

You don’t need to change who you are, you need to change how you are.

AND that’s entirely within your control.

To begin, you’ll want to shift your focus. Each day, start from a winning mindset. Focus on all you have, be thankful for where you are, and move forward positively– embracing what’s currently before you.

This isn’t easy. Your brain will want to revert and to stay the course you have to have some vision that excites you, about what your life could be. Write it down, feel it, look at it multiple times a day.

With this combination of gratitude and moving towards a new way of life, you will re-find what it means to live fully.

#StayFoolish

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Lessons From Inside The Ring

Published June 18, 2021 by V

They say to journal your fights afterwards to learn all you can from them. Well, it looks like my instincts are jumpy, overreactive, and ultimately unproductive.

Muay Thai is by far the best thing I’ve ever done in my life.

It’s hard, physically demanding, technical, and demands a high level of skill.

The key takeaway here is not to lose your composure. Most people are jumpy in defense, strangely my default mode is attack… but its like a wild animal, and for a skilled fighter– easy to tame.

We make errors we normally wouldn’t when we “anticipate”.

In fighting, presence is everything while fortune telling, well… that’s a punch to the face (which I collected).

A friend and sparring partner did give me good advice, which I’m now going to put into practice next round.

“Take the shots.”

Don’t just blast people, stay composed, feel your opponent out, let them hit you a few times (while still defending), and let your mind be absorbed in the movements.

The relevant thing from this post is this: We fuck up our lives being overreactive. We create obstacles where there otherwise weren’t any, we drain our own gas-tanks “anticipating” what’s going to happen, and finally we’re knocked out (by life, an opponent, or whatever).

So, my takeaway from inside the ring.

Stay calm, stay composed.

#StayFoolish

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Pic-Pocket Watch-Selling Entrepreneurs

Published June 17, 2021 by V

Hey Fool.

Last night I had dinner with a friend and we were talking about the entrepreneurial bug–nowadays, it seems like every millennial’s been bitten by it.

Being two, young and ultra ambitious individuals, we were both trying to get to the core of what made us stop pursuing delusion.

By nature, creatives are delusional.

Yeah, sometimes it serves them and makes for excellence… but have a look around, I’m not seeing anything other than mostly mediocre art.

Everyone wants their candy.

Who wants skills? Mastery? That isn’t fun, it isn’t very interesting, and it can be kinda lonely– since your entire social circle will mostly chase bullshit.

But unless you were actually the lemonade stand kid, played guitar and wrote poetry, lived for what you’re chasing, unless you were into these things for the sake of being into them– what you’re chasing is most likely NOT for you.

Most of the things I tried didn’t fulfill me. In fact, I hated them. Eating ramen and hustling 24/7? Fuck that.

I value health and activity.

Working on projects and ending the day with Muay Thai is more my speed. It’s not cool, but it’s fulfilling.

That’s the point.

Who sold you that cheap dream you’re chasing? Is it really something you want? Are you happy?

It’s funny, even now I’m occasionally struck by the pangs of entrepreneurial envy… wanting what the “greats” have.

But then I return to reality, I’m running my own race. I’m choosing skills, mastery, and building my life to be something more than just sacrifice.

While others depress themselves with delusion, you can find me patiently building.

Cheers,

–AnotherFool

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Why You Don’t Need To Change

Published June 15, 2021 by V

Because you can’t.

Hey Fool.

If you’re anything like me, you desire an upgraded version of yourself. Thanks to our guru culture, it definitely feels like we’re supposed to pursue evolution… in a way, it almost feels like we’re failures if we’re not constantly chasing it.

Between the cold showers, meditation, trendy diets, speed reading courses, and morning routines– how could you possibly stay the same?

Well, what the spiritual, course-selling entrepreneurs never mention is NONE of that is necessary. It may help you a tiny bit, but if it does it’ll be indirectly.

People don’t change.

We come into this world as already something– with inclinations, traits, random dispositions, etc.

To build a fulfilling life, you need to really get to know who you are to the core, not try to baptize it away with cold showers.

Just because someone is a millionaire or successful, doesn’t mean they’re not an idiot.

When it comes to psychology and human nature… most gurus are straight idiots. Not only do you not need to change, because you really can’t, BUT the only YOU DO NEED is SKILLS.

That’s the only secret sauce to life.

You should choose to learn and pursue skills you’re interested in, and by being interested in them, that alone is a sign of your individuality… since it’s you who chose them.

You’ll level up. You’ll upgrade yourself through learning. You’ll get better without making yourself miserable doing all those bullshit routines.

So, which skill would you want to learn?

#FoolMeOnce

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Get Tough On Goal Setting

Published June 13, 2021 by V

When you aren’t obstructing your own progress by feeling sorry for yourself, you’ll be able to achieve your goals with much less resistance.

Most of us don’t have goals, we have aims… not even that, we’ve got ideas.

We’ve got some vague illusion for what we want out of life floating around in our minds, but no actual way to measure, define, or act on it.

These ideas are where you’re delusional. We all have blind spots, and it’s different for each of us– but to see them you’ll have to become far more objective.

When it comes to creation, I easily default to delusion. Whether that be starting a business, working on a project, creating content… it doesn’t matter. My love for grandiose ideas, blinds any potential progress.

I learned to combat this by chasing problems, problems I want to SOLVE.

Practicality.

For me not to get lost in the idea phase, I always choose the quickest action and move on it immediately.

I know I’m going to sound like some flat, uninteresting, 2-dimensional robot, but dreams never got me anywhere- GOALS did.

If you want to go somewhere knew, you’ll need to change your approach.

Specific – What is the direction and meaning of the goal I’m pursuing?
Measurable – Will the goal be able to be measured?
Attainable – Is the goal realistic?
Relevant – Does the goal align with my inner self?
Time-Bound – When will the goal need to be met?

#StayFoolish

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How To Play The Unwinnable Game

Published June 12, 2021 by V

IT isn’t passion, so what did these gurus leave out of their gawdawful courses?

Skills.

There isn’t a subject, niche, career, or activity that when found gets rid of all your problems. It doesn’t work like that.

Without knowing it, most of us are really after the same thing.

We all want a fulfilling life, but being emotionally overdrawn and spiritually bankrupt– we end up convinced that a bad idea is our only way out.

I’m not some fan of the good ol’ days. I never understood that saying, who gives a shit about simpler times?

You need hobbies, side quests, interests… you need these right NOW. Passion- meh, calling, don’t know.

IT’s the interests and little side quests that ironically lead to what you’re looking for.

So instead of staying on route… leave.

#StayFoolish

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Around the Block & Back…with a New Bike

Published April 17, 2021 by V

What’s up fool,

How goes it?

It’s 3:30 in the morning right now and I can’t sleep because I’m too excited. I want to articulate this message as best as I can, but I’m having a hard time because I don’t fully understand it.

So I guess I’ll think out loud, and hopefully we can both work out the meaning.

For myself, it really started in my senior year of college- this is where I tasted what I wanted my life to be.

I didn’t know it at the time, but I was playing with the very fire I was made of: this was passion.

THEN I left.

Yeah, why? Because I was 18, cocky AF, and too full of myself to think the world didn’t bend to my will.

I left it all behind, initially it was to pursue that passion, but I got distracted, and I chased advertising.

You can only “fake it” so much. After a year and a half of “running on E” I returned, but I wasn’t the same. Having failed, in theory, I was accompanied by mania. I guess I didn’t realize that I was angry about what I’d done, or rather didn’t do. I cheated what I set out to do, with trendy ideas of success.

This left me with deep resentment, but as a hard-headed individual, I carried on.

I went through an aggressive trial phase- a sort of self apprenticeship, minus the learning. I spent time going through various “ideas” of what to do with my life- all of them grandiose and having nothing to do with what actually brought me joy.

I chased random “success” and so I never got it.

I did this for years, and in doing it, lost what made me come alive. I hit an all new low, and knew I needed to intervene. After years of sinking, I pulled myself out. I moved, made more bad decisions and hit an even lower low. #Lowrider

At this point, I started to wonder- is my superpower surviving underwater, because no matter how much I drowned- I couldn’t die.

For whatever reason, I never went out peacefully? Oh, I’m depressed? – Then read. Oh, I feel like shit? Then Play. I never stood still, movement became my answer.

This restlessness saved me.

At bottom, I returned again… jeez, how many times can you circle the same block? Idk. But here we go.

This time, it was barely different, but it was different enough.

I needed to write, I needed to understand why, what, and how- so I wrote. I had one rule- SHOW UP and write everyday.

And I did.

This dumb, small, seemingly insignifcant habit, led me to getting a career that suited me, which led me to refinding my passion from my youth, the one I tasted senior year.

It was always here and it was always this, but I kept biking around it, totally missing it.

Finally, after the 100th circle around, I saw it, and stopped there.

You know what you want, but you over-thought it, over-shot it, and overlook it regularly.

But it’s always there, waiting for you to pick it up.

Do what you have to, but don’t every stop moving.

#StayFoolish

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