Tag: self development

“Whatever one has within oneself but does not live, grows against one”

If you aren’t happy with your life or don’t feel so great about yourself, it can be traced back to this gap.

The gap between what you present and what you actually do/are like when no ones watching.

If you look dramatically different on the inside from the out– this gap is huge, and you need to close it.

The only way to do that is by ACTING on the things you say you value/do/believe.

So, if you want real change. Make a list of what you value and then see how much of that you actually live– or go against by living how you currently are.

Start there, start doing things in accordance with what you admire and respect and DON’T try to rationalize it.

You don’t have a choice— either live these out or suffer in hell, stuck hating the poster of yourself you pretend to be.

-fool

Fools–

In searching for your truth, you’ll be tempted to listen to others, especially those who seemingly reached a destination you desire.

You have to reject this.

You have to rebel.

Most people are fragmented selves of themselves.

They’re not whole, so they feel unengaged, empty, sad, and they’re easier to influence.

To become whole, you need to let everything surface. I record video blogs to myself when in different mental states– this allows me to better see and understand what’s inside.

I recommend writing/ and video as best methods for doing this.

Shed light on pain to relieve it.

-Fool

On the one hand, I want to listen and learn from so many different people… but on the other, I know I can’t without being negatively influenced.

Even if the advice you’re listening to is good, it’s not YOU.

You need to sit in truth. You need to know what would make a compelling life and how YOU, being who you are– strengths, weaknesses, and character, how does that person achieve their desire?

We’re adaptable but not necessarily changeable.

Understanding the core of your character is how you can hack life and win.

When you listen to others, gurus/mentors, you risk ignoring your truth to adopt theirs. If they achieved what you’re genuinely after (meaning you were already pursuing that goal before you found them), then fine. Maybe hear what they have to say.

Otherwise the best thing to do is stop feeding your ad- vice, and make your own way.

-Fool

“If you would stop, really stop, damning yourself, others, and unkind conditions, you would find it almost impossible to upset yourself emotionally — about anything. Yes, anything.” Albert Ellis

Recently, I’ve made the decision to pursue my skills/craft rather than goals. My focus is now on being the best that I can be in the field I’m in.

But as I’m diving in deeper, I find that most of it surrounds how we err in thinking. Our minds are unreliable, especially if left to their natural default settings.

And those settings are?

The reason you give away your power— every. single. day.

Each time you blame something (you are deciding to give that thing control and power over your life). Whether that’s empowering circumstances, others, or yourself.

Take the power back by choosing to accept that you are the reason for everything, and with that, you’re one decision away from an entirely different life.

-Fool

When it comes to reaching the top— most billionaires will say they got really good at one thing and that’s how they did it.

Most of us wear too many hats, and if you can’t commit to a single hat or cap-less free flowing hair, you need to at least balance your physique.

Train the weaknesses that are stopping you from moving forward.

If you lack discipline, learn habit setting.

If you lack focus, learn how to sit and study.

Forget your strengths and train this way and you’ll naturally be able to use more of what you’re good at it to do more in life.

-Fool

Whatever you do, do it well.

I used to give things the bare minimum effort and that created a weird habitual practice where I’d learn to get by doing this, but for everything.

After awhile— and years of channel skipping, not committing, you learn a major lesson.

Real pleasure, the kind people find fulfilling, that comes from commitment and commitment comes from choice.

What if for the next year, you cared? What if you gave the chapter you’re on, your ALL.

I bet most of your problems would magically disappear and the only thing standing would be you on top of a mountain of achievement.

Do it WELL.

-Fool

You wouldn’t throw the day away just because it suddenly rained so why do you expect the weather of your mind to be sunny with a chance of 24/7 shine?

It’s our own meanings and labels that decide things.

We suffer because we think we should– as sick as that sounds its true. And a lot of energy is wasted on emotional and unproductive thinking.

If I’m in a fall season, I’ll slow down and catch up on studying, reading, recharging— whatever.

What I’m never doing is being “down” that’s a choice.

If you want change, change for the better.

-Fool

Yeah, yeah– no one should want an easy life, I know that– so before you hit me with that, “you should hope to get stronger” quote or whatever bullshit, here’s what I mean by the title.

Most things are easy, we over complicate them by dragging them on with years of indecision and over thinking.

If you wanted as close a path as possible to the up and up, the straight line to whatever goal you’re after, make it about the activities not the achievement.

If you wanted to be a doctor, you wouldn’t buy that medical coat first and start waltzing around looking for patients to practice on. You’d first start where an actual doctor did, LEARNING.

Same for business, same for dreams, and same for your goals.

Stop all the motivation, you’re good. It’s irrelevant anyway.

Figure out what daily thing those people work on, and start doing that.

-Fool

A lot of people dream too much— and that’s exactly how they derail their own lives.

It’s easy to get lost considering all your options and opportunities, theres a lot to choose from.

But the only way to change your life is to pick and stick to ONE.

And I have this problem.

The way I go about solving it is reminding myself how I’ve failed in the past chasing fantasy, I only consider my patterns before making decisions– and this has been the greatest tool for keeping me on the right path.

You need a way to be objective, rational, and to a certain degree, detached.

It’s with this view that you can think clearest and make the right decisions. And the best tool in my opinion? Don’t delete the history….

-Fool

Nearly everyone craves improvement– to be an upgraded version of themselves.

What you’re willing to sacrifice to make that a reality is what separates those that do from those that don’t.

But not all sacrifice is equal.

I thought I could role play my way there. I thought if I “acted as if” or “played the part” I’d manifest that life. But that’s not how you become what you’re called to do here.

If you want to answer your call and fulfill your potential, you don’t “act” at all. Sure, you need an open mind and attitude towards your own journey, but who you are— you need to UNLEASH not revise.

Reject outside influence.

-Fool

We’re all so hungry for success–we do the most human thing possible:

Open ourselves to another’s influence.

You see this with banned influencers or ultra serious go-getter entrepreneurs; their following is made up of people who look and sound like them, but it didn’t start that way.

It’s hard not to let them in—they have what you want, they achieved what you’re after.

The problem with this is when you enmesh their personalities into yours– you give up your own uniqueness and godhood– you give up your individuality.

You go from the potential of being your own sun (self sufficient) to orbiting theirs.

And that’s why you should draw lines and be careful where you allow their influence in. The real goal is to become yourself, the one and only. You can’t do that copying another.

-Fool

People who suffer from shame, suffer from secret stories.

They built up an internal story around the thing they’re ashamed of— and now, they live in fear from something that no one other than themselves gives a shit about.

Suffering thrives on YOU giving something importance– YOU giving it meaning.

Wanna know how to get rid of shame? REVEAL it. Admit it. Show it. Share it. The second you do and do so with a casual, “it is what it is” attitude, your mind will free you of the thing you fear.

Suffering, like shame, only thrives if we feed it.

Stop trying to change the meaning of things– instead, deem it meaningless by not paying attention to it.

Next time it comes up, just respond: “So?”

And it’ll fade away— allowing you to direct your attention to something that can build you rather than break.

-Fool

You’ll always find what you look for but what you find wasn’t always worth the search.

Here’s a backwards law that’s always true: Harp on something or keep giving it attention and your mind will blow it out of proportion.

If you want to fix something in your life– STOP watering your problems with your attention. Next time your brain tells you that you suck or can’t do something just respond:

AND?

It’s not important. Shedding light on shame eliminates it. Recognize your brain is bringing up a nonissue, then dismiss it.

A year of this and the problem won’t be the problem.

-Fool