Tag: #findingyourwhy

What you hide, hides from you.

You can’t be afraid to show yourself.

You have to surface.

The consequences of hiding– whether it be keeping yourself physically locked away or mentally and emotionally deceptive, never sharing your true views and outlooks, has one price and you will pay it:

Your soul.

You’ll lose contact with who you are and then you’ll spend the rest of your life never knowing yourself.

You’ll follow others.

You’ll wander aimlessly.

You’ll never become anything or do anything.

To avoid this fate, you have to STOP hiding.

Fuck being shy, insecure, FUCK being small.

You feel weak? Show up anyway.

You feel worthless? Who gives a shit.

Learn to silence your emotions by MOVING FORWARD anyway.

The action you need to take is whatever attacks that voice.

FACE YOURSELF to face the world.

-Fool

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On the other side of your worst nightmare, is who you’re supposed to become.

You’re allowed to feel fear.

You’re allowed to be afraid.

But you can’t believe it.

You have to see destruction as part of your salvation.

You have to get angry–

and then, rather than wasting that anger on others or circumstances, you have to be selfish with it.

You have to keep it all for yourself, and USE IT.

You have to make the choice to love your own suffering.

Real power doesn’t come from affirmations or feel good quotes.

It comes from staying in the ring, letting yourself get hit and rather than retreating, learning to bleed— because you’re better for it.

You’re already dying, don’t fool yourself into thinking you’ve got something to lose.

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How things look, don’t make them what they are.

The illusions we cast are powerful– and you’ll be tempted to do it.

Lying can get you a job, it can open any door, start new relationships, even get you in some exciting adventures.

But you will never fool yourself.

The more you lie, the more you drown the person who was supposed to live your life- YOU.

Become a lie, and no one can reach you.

You’ll be permanently isolated within your own mind and body, alone, stuck in the fake world you created— and there, no one will be able to save you.

If you want a fulfilling life, that comes from none other than the truth.

See where truth takes you.

I did this.

I was a liar.

It was how I fought, how I survived, and how I got ahead.

But it made me miss out on real life— because illusions can never replace what is real, and no matter how close to the real thing an imitation is, it can never substitute the truth.

The experiences that come from living with your life on the line— vulnerable, authentic, that is your destiny.

Don’t rob yourself of your life from fear of being yourself.

Pull deep within, face it all, embrace it. Sit in the dark until your eyes adjust, and become your own light.

-Fool

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Every belief we hold onto, adds a layer over our perception.

When you consume content from people you’re open to, it’s like putting eye drops in— but these drops slowly change your eye color to theirs.

You start to view the world as they do.

You start to see the way they see.

The problem with this is— for starters, they might be wrong.

They might not be what you need for your path.

They might remove you from developing in ways only you were supposed to.

Don’t take others prescriptions.

You can learn from all, but don’t become them.

-Fool

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It took 10 years for me to cook.

10 years to learn who I am,

who I’m not,

what I want,

what I don’t.

10 years to learn “HERE” was the only place I needed to be.

Adopt the mindset of “Forward Regardless”

I’ve had the lowest of lows, the euphoric of highs, but the road of my life doesn’t change– despite how many times I do.

The road goes one way, forward.

You’re here to be HERE.

LIVE.

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The dream you keep circling back to,

most likely– it IS for you.

But not right now, because you’re unworthy.

If you weren’t, you’d have already started walking the path.

You have to stop failing the same way.

I used to always cut people off, start over, “rebirth” is what I called it.

I thought that was my strength…

Or what would lead to my success.

Ironic—

since it was the ONLY thing delaying me from having everything I ever wanted.

ONLY when I stopped doing that, and instead EMBRACED my life— then my head stopped spinning.

The fog cleared, and I could finally walk towards my desires.

You must do the same.

That thing you keep doing over and over— it’s probably not a quirk, but a test you have yet to pass.

Rather than focusing on what you want, try to pass your test, and the wants grant themselves.

You can trust your instincts, but you shouldn’t follow them into the void.

-Fool

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Without a past, YOU can’t have a future.

If you don’t know where you come from, you can never know who you are or where to go.

Real success comes from embracing YOUR story.

That means EMBRACING your name.

You need roots to grow upward.

Denying your history won’t erase it.

Only disempower you by robbing you of the strengths that person possessed to endure it.

Embrace your myth and complete your story.

-Fool

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When’s the last time you sat with yourself?

Just sat and talked to yourself.

No social media, no people, no noise.

Just you and the dialogue with your self.

We water relationships with others and never think to do the same with ourselves.

The only person you can ever fully know is you, and most won’t ever do that.

But to change your life, you’ve got to know what’s good for you and what’s not.

You’ve got to listen.

And to listen, you’ve got to speak.

-Fool

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Feeling worthless?

The trick isn’t to search inward or practice affirmations.

Nope.

It’s actually so much easier than what you’re considering.

All you have to do is forget.

Forget yourself.

I know, I tricked you… boohoo.

But the worst thing you can do is “try to feel better.”

You don’t have the answers, you haven’t figured it out, and now you feel like you’re out of time.

Good.

That means all upside, since you literally can go anywhere from here.

So, what do you do when you’re lost?

Solve someone else’s problem.

This is the EASIEST way out and most won’t try it.

Wanna cut the time you spend stuck in depression-feeling-shitty-about-yourself-LAND?

Find a person who has a problem you know how to solve, and solve it.

Forget yourself and your life.

Let someone speak without you complaining and listen to them, you’ll hear something that compels you to speak to them.

Grab that opportunity, because that’s your rope out.

This one small and seemingly charitable action is what will open the next door.

This is how you find the next step.

Open yourself.

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There’s this concept in psychology, where each person, in order to develop themselves on their own hero’s journey, must submit themselves to something.

This something isn’t what you love.

Most times you hate it.

And it isn’t yours to choose, you were born to it.

But it’s the thing deep down you know is yours to do.

To find it, start with the people you know around you, look at their lives– I’m sure you’ll see their themes.

For some of your friends or family, their life is a constant battle– always fighting with others, for them, saying what needs to be said, etc.

For others, it’s a show.

Always getting themselves into new things and then having to find a way out— maybe that’s an adventure, idk.

Point is, each of us has a theme— and hidden in the same old problems we have, is the call. The thing we’re here to do— the karma we need to cleanse, so to speak.

This is your ruler.

For me, I always jump around. I always chase new things, never settle, run around. My ruler is to submit myself to the present– to build where I am.

When I do that, my karma turns fortunate and my life improves.

When do you get ahead in life? It’s likely related to your call— follow the ruler to rule.

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Your biggest challenge will be knowing what’s real.

You’ll think you do, but that’s just how you see it.

That’s important, but not enough.

To finish serving your sentence, you have to see reality— otherwise, you’re stuck living your circle of hell, whatever that be.

And inward isn’t always the answer.

Where you look is just as important as that you look.

We’re not supposed to look directly into the abyss, do that, and there are parts of you that can never be recovered.

Sanity is like innocence, experience can take it.

You must move outwards.

You have to find a way to share yourself with the world because that’s the only way to escape purgatory.

You have 2 options: Join a circle and move towards the divine, or forever run inside yours…

-Fool

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It’s hard to trust a wavering mind, especially when it’s not allowed to stop.

How do you know you can trust what you want?

How do you know it’s good for you?

We could overthink ourselves into indecision or bad decision, but questions don’t lead to answers if the answers stop you from filling in the blank (you have to take action).

We’re not supposed to observe our paths.

If what you want is authentic, you’d naturally move towards it.

Think about it, the discovery process for most artists, creatives, musicians, etc. —the people who found the thing they do well, those people moved towards their call from instinct.

They didn’t analysis paralysis their plans to eventually become that thing.

Fact is, if you’re doing this, you need to recalibrate.

SLOW DOWN YOUR THINKING.

Stop trying to move, and let instinct lead the way.

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Do you look but never find?

You’ll spend a lot of time “looking”

…for the right role, person, opportunity, dream…

most of life is looking.

Some people never stop looking, others don’t do it enough, but where you look is far more important than how you look.

The adventure of your life, meaning the life unique to you– that you are supposed to live, that only unfolds ONE way.

And that’s from acting on your own authentic ideas.

If your own inner voice didn’t narrate to you that you should start a Shopify store or some dumbass ecommerce business, then it probably isn’t your path.

It definitely wasn’t your idea, those come from inside-out, not youtube algorithm in.

And this is the danger of today, not getting sucked in by all the other voices of the world.

There’s nothing wrong with learning from others, but most people drown out their own voice from all the other inputs they’re inviting in.

Before you can decide how to spend your life or what you want in the short time you’re on this rock, you have detox.

Everything you watch, the people you like, you start to imitate and parrot their ideas.

Not because you want to, but because you can’t not— you’re human.

You have to drain yourself of society’s voice in order to live.

Only then can you hear your own ideas, and what your voice instructs might seem small or trivial, but you’ll know to obey it because it’s calling you to your path.

So, don’t follow the leader— follow the whisper, follow your voice.

Don’t parrot, speak.

-Fool

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Hi Friendo, feeling manic?

People lose their heads considering all the options available to them, and how do you not?

There’s AI taking over, goo roos telling you how to supposedly not be screwed from it, the ever present fear of missing out, and all this fighting for your attention while you, sit there wondering WTF should you be doing with your life?

Well, that was me for the last 3 months, and now I’m making my way back.

The people that do make it out, meaning live fuller lives they can smile on death beds with, those people figured out one thing, and it isn’t some law of attraction formula or how to make millions from technology.

Notice the same people gossiping about impending doom and innovation are all ultimately unsuccessful.

The people that “make it” they don’t pay attention to commercials.

This is the ultimate lesson:

STOP LOOKING TO AND AT EVERYBODY ELSE.

Your answer is yours alone. Copy someone else’s path and you’ll find more than failure, you’ll find misery.

Keeping up with the kardashians of business, technology, or whatever space you obsess over won’t do anything for you.

That’s not how anyone wins.

You know when I’m the happiest? When I have a ladder to climb.

That’s right. I actually hate entrepreneurship, business, and even entertainment.

All the things I thought I loved, I despise.

I actually love working at an agency, with creatives, coming up with concepts and dominating my space. I only learned that when I finally stopped listening to others.

Have the courage to have faith.

Walk your path blindly and courageously.

It’s yours to walk.

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The games of life aren’t for every person— but every person has their game. Find yours and you’ll live out your own hero’s journey. 

Not everyone can do everything, and even those naturally multi talented people shouldn’t.

Our time is limited, what you should aspire for is finding your game and going all in on that.

This is why we have all these zombie loser self improvers teaching wake up drills and pre-work jerk off mindset practices. 

LOST. 

Winners don’t do ANY of that. 

Talking about sleep optimization with grocery bags under your eyes, stfu. 

The people who actually play their game just wake up and play. They don’t  have to “deliberately practice” because they are always doing the thing. 

Understand? 

Step foot on another’s road and you murder the parts of you that don’t align with them—- which is nearly all, since your road was made uniquely for you and no one else. 

Most of us aren’t depressed or anxious, we’re DEAD. 

You killed your soul— the inner voice that used to guide you, imprisoned your inner self living out this pathetic character and you have the nerve to say you’re depressed? 

That’s cowardly. 

I can say that, I did it too. 

We all forget eventually…

…we forget why we put the masks on

…we forget who the mask is vs the person behind it, AND worst of all— we forget to take it off. 

Only when you STOP following others, flip em’ off, even the people you like. Only when you kill the need to copy, will you then naturally gravitate towards truth— the path meant for you. 

There, you’ll become one of the people you admire, but not them, because there’s only one you.

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You’ve gone as far as you’re going to go but not as far as you can go…

what in the mind fu—-?

You’ve got to make new mistakes and to do that, you gotta let Jesus take the wheel, not baby, white, or black Jesus.

YOUR Jesus, YOUR inner God.

YOUR ideal.

To do that, imagine the main character you’d enjoy playing in a movie. What traits do they have and how do they live.

Then, through forbidden alchemy, by the hidden laws of the elites, you’ll pretend your life is that movie and you are that character.

Give them one day a week, feed them by dressing and acting as them.

You’ll find an untapped power that will FREE you from your own suffering and grant every wish you’ve ever had……

Or you just won’t be miserable anymore.

Either way, win-win.

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Going nowhere,

Or are you now here?

I don’t know you.

I don’t know what keeps you up at night, the regrets you have, fears you run from, or the life you wish you could live.

But I do know that thinking is an outside sport.

We have to get outside of ourselves.

You can’t keep hiding yourself, holding back, staying indoors— keeping yourself from the world.

The only way to go somewhere, to stop being lost in nowhere, is to be NOW HERE.

Whatever bridge extends itself to you, cross it.

Cross it like your life depends on it, because it probably does.

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They tell you to ask for help, but don’t have tears in your eyes when you do it… no one likes you when you’re needy.

I’ve been trying to work out what’s next for me.

See, I been stuck in this weird “what now?” phase and haven’t the slightest clue what to do with it.

I thought about moving, making a lateral career change, dating around, changing my appearance, taking on a new hobby, and even starting an only fans brand— it’d be PG, but ya know, just looking for change.

After thrashing about headlessly I came to realize something.

Only ONE thing removes you from living the life you’re supposed to be living, and it isn’t making the wrong decisions or wasting time repeating mistakes.

Nope.

That don’t matter at all friendo.

In fact, the only thing that can truly DERAIL your life is you following others.

Wanna break free of whatever you’re stuck on?

Do it YOUR OWN way.

It’s that easy.

YOUR way is what gets you the lessons you need, experiences unique to you, and the adventure of your life that you’ve only tasted taking recreational drugs (or not… I’m a D.A.R.E. grad too).

Point is, YOUR WAY unlocks all of it.

But that’s not what most of us will do.

When we’re depresso, we don’t trust ourselves. So we delegate “deciding” to other people, people we think know better for us.

And honestly, I can’t think of a better way for you to suicide your own soul and condemn yourself to whatever circle of hell you fit into.

You CAN’T use other people to solve your problems. 

I tried.

If you wanna gain new information to weigh out your options- go for it. But when it comes to what to do with your life, only you can figure that out, and theres really only one way to do it. 

Overcome your socialized self.

You’ve been disconnected from your instincts via society controlling you, don’t worry, it’s not a conspiracy, just part of the game.

We don’t know what we want, what’s right, what’s best for us, what to do…. 

We don’t know anymore because we spent so much time trying to be what we needed to be to survive.

But there is a little cheat code out of this paradise lost then found, and it works for each individual. 

Here’s what you’ll do to recalibrate yourself and get back on the course that is supposed to be your life: 

Invent a character. 

No, 

You’re not going to hop on stage and role play, but you are going to write down how this person is different from you? 

Where do they live, what do they do for fun, how do they carry themselves.

Roman generals used to invoke muses during battle, wiser people than themselves, spirit guides, to help them overcome their reality.

We can do the same.

Write down who you’d wanna play? What is this person capable of?

Start writing letters to them, your mind will fill in the gaps and the best part? The right path will come from whatever you create, because you can’t make anything that doesn’t come from the purest parts of your soul.

What we create, creates us.

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Our minds are wired to “wait and see.”

We don’t want to change or give something all of our effort and risk looking stupid, unless we’re sure it’ll lead to what we want.

AND that’s why most people never get anything.

If you want more than you have, you’ve got to be more.

You have to act like you already got the thing, because that person knows what steps to take next.

You, as who you are right now, got you this far.

If you want something more, you’ll have to show up and match whatever that next level is.

P.S. Better to overshoot it, than under.

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When I spoke, I spoke truth to others— but lies to myself.

Most of us will think ourselves away from our own life’s answers.

I used to say “get it by any means” like that was my value.

But my actions revealed otherwise.

My actions were that of someone who would never do anything that went against others.

Do you talk about values you don’t actually practice? Almost like you want to be that person…. but you aren’t.

Presenting is not the same as being.

I wasn’t what I presented.

Most of the decisions you make are tied to your values.

YOU ARE ALREADY practicing what you prioritize… the question is, how to optimize in order to live a fulfilling life?

I make regular things hard— like committing, moving, taking on new roles, etc.

And its because I prioritize freedom.

Even when I wanted to prioritize ambition & success— I never actually made decisions that put those values first, rather, I defaulted to protecting freedom and spoke ambitiously, falsely.

And I never stopped to think what’s driving me and my life, why did I automatically do the things I did?

Rather than trying to be more ambitious or successful, I’m now going to prioritize my one true value.

I’m going to become autonomous, as practically as possible.

My advice to you?

Find the value you never cheat on, and build your life around it.

Pay attention to why you do what you do, you’ll find the truth there— and then, you’ll know what steps to take next…

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