Tag: passion

Hello MF.

I really do feel like I’m aging in reverse, because it’s hard for me to take any of my own obstacles seriously.

All the compound interest finally caught up with me, now all I see is facts of nature– and what needs to be done as insurance around that.

With that said, here’s a wisdombite: If you can’t do it on your own, assume it’ll never get done.

Everything good in my life came from sitting my ass down and doing the work. Easier said than done for a lot of us.

You likely don’t know where to start, especially if you have a new goal or want something you’ve never done before.

Yesterday I realized how ruthlessly impartial time is. It’ll pass by whether you use it or not, and waiting for an answer is something Father Time is disgusted by. Do that, and you’ll certainly age to the end of life as the same person.

So I asked myself the most important question: Knowing my goal, what could I do everyday, by myself, that would lead to its accomplishment?

And the brain being the remarkable organ it is, gave me the answer.

Now my goal is something I control. I have something I can measure, and move towards all the while getting better.

This is how you advance.

If you’re wondering why nothings happened, it’s because you’re waiting.

Pick any goal, and then ask the very same question above. Like this, you will certainly move forward.

Self Transformation comes through your work– so who do you want to be?

I don’t know if you’ve ever noticed, but most people claim the most common traits among us all as unique to them, and don’t dare claim their own weirdness.

You being a kinda good speaker is meaningless, so are all extroverts. You people watching and taking on the traits of others as an actor, to then try to work into their minds, thats more what we’re looking for.

See, you’ve been tricked and lied to.

Convinced that the things that make you weird are a bad thing, something to hide. But now, at this point in your life– those are the very traits you’ll have to bring out to the surface if you want to succeed.

Deep down all of us crave ourselves.

We crave the parts of us we repressed growing up– every single one of us. That’s how you explain why some people date total opposites, or have strong obsessions with certain shows and characters.

The human being is a projector– and our world is a reflection of our mind.

We say we want to get better, we say we need to find ourselves.

Truth is, it was there the whole time.

And if you want to transform, you want to become what you truly are, you need to stop judging yourself, screw the culture, and bring it out.

Here’s the strangest part of it all. By bringing the inside out, you end up fulfilling the other aspects of life by proxy.

We transform through authenticity not cold showers and morning routines. We transform the more connected our individuality is to the things we do.

I FINALLY understand this.

And now the thing I’ve wanted my entire life is within my grasp. I always valued a fulfilling career– but in my youth, I wanted success by any means, more. Chasing others paths led me to straying from my own uniqueness.

Comparison is not only the thief of joy, but the thief of self.

If you explore your own weirdness, traits you once rejected, you’ll not only open all these facets of untapped creativity– you’ll find what it is you’re looking for.

My career was always going to be what it is. The signs were there. But I could have never landed here, without embracing myself.

Want a life of ecstasy?

Start with you.

Find Your Weird.

Fools Gold

What’s up MF,

The other day I came across a high value youtube channel– from an entrepreneur, talking about “what it takes.”

This content is gold, especially today in our unemployable status seeking times.

One of his videos was on belief, and suddenly the light hearted jokey vibes turned dark, and he went from relatable to 1% achiever… in a good way.

He doesn’t play with “I AM” statements.

Like he wouldn’t even repeat what a group of friends said about themselves at dinner, because those particular beliefs don’t serve him.

His only I AM statements were beliefs that could help to reach his goals, if they don’t do that in any capacity– he throws that shit out and never says it again. Watching this, of course I was even more interested.

My old ways of thinking tempted me to copy this asap.

I used to try out anything I learned, something like this would have been right up my alley to immediately adopt.

But I’m passed that and that’s not what this post is. What this is about is landing on you.

You’ll land on you– eventually.

Everyone succeeds doing it their own way– authenticity is what beats competition. Don’t throw out your path to do it someone elses way, even when you’re low– it won’t bring you success.

The alternative doesn’t mean you have to sit there and be a loser.

Listen to yourself and pursue your own inclinations, that’s how you win and discover your own potential.

You’re drawn to the tools and people that are for you, just don’t get swallowed by it.

Follow yourself.

Hi MF.

Do you have weak ass goals?

Everyone’s taught the importance of goals– but sometimes the reason you don’t stick has nothing to do with how hard you worky-work or your lack of discipline. Sometimes you fall out of love– and I don’t see this talked about enough.

The measure of a goal has nothing to do with how bad you say you want it, but whether or not it actually motivates you?

And for a while mine didn’t, don’t, and kept failing. Sure. You’re always motivated in the beginning because change is exciting.

But then you keep seeing shiny objects everywhere, maybe your thing isn’t the thing. My solution for us bright lookers is this: Don’t chase the means, but the end.

I always want to try a new path. Always.

I’m realizing my mind’s default is to fall in love with the idea of something entirely new, but this makes it hard as shit not to cheat on my current path. The solution?

What don’t you change on?

The end.

I’ve always wanted a very specific lifestyle and that’s never changed. So the daily reminder to myself is to move towards that lifestyle, and every decision will be held in contrast to that goal.

Does this action move me towards this life that I really wanna?

You have to bank on your weaknesses, and tbh your goals should act as an insurance policy around them.

All the successes that I have had came when I not only considered my bad habits– but counted on them. I got into writing because I knew no matter what, I could stick with it– despite being moody and all over the place.

Even with all the internet turds selling goal setting (#barsAF) –goals are still highly underrated. The right goal will improve just about every aspect of your life.

We’re human beings– we need to move towards something, but it has to be the right thing. So if you struggle to stay moving toward one thing, pick a thing you don’t change on.

Pick the end, and then considering where you normally struggle or fail– what would be the best way to reach that end?

IF you’re honest with yourself, this is all it’ll take.

Hi Fool,

It’s been a while since we did one of these.

Last week I had my 1 year anniversary as a writer… tears of joy, but tears are tears. Anyways, it got me thinking as celebrations of life always do– where am I? and more importantly, what’s next?

I came across an idea that spoke to me very deeply, and this has become the primary focus.

Zone of Genius.

This is not my idea, just something I’m sharing. That said,

There are four zones:

1. Zone of Incompetence.
2. Zone of Competence.
3. Zone of Excellence.
4. Zone of Genius.

Zone of Incompetence are the things that other people probably do better than you (ie- fix your car), and therefore you should outsource if they don’t give you joy.

Zone of Competence are the things that you do just fine, but others are as good as you (ie- clean your bathroom) and therefore you should outsource if they don’t give you joy.

Zone of Excellence are the things that you are excellent at (ie- better than others), but don’t love doing.  This is the danger zone.  Many people will want you to keep doing these things (as they gain significant value from you doing them, ie- key functions in your job), but this is the area that you should also look to move away from.  This is the hard one!

Zone of Genius are the things that you are uniquely good at in the world, and that you love to do (so much so that time and space likely disappear when you do them).  This is where you can add most value to the world and yourself.  This is where you should be driving toward spending most, if not all, of your time.

Recruit some outside help to help you find your zone of genius. Send these questions–

In your interactions with me:

• What do I do that you experience as “world-class”?  
• What do I do where I appear to be experiencing fun, peace or joy (if different from above)?
• What do I do that I am good at but that I don’t appear to enjoy?
• What do I do that I am not better than others?
• What do I do that I am actually worse than others?”

Life’s too short to not live out who we are.

Stay Foolish.

You have to be afraid of your way to stop doing it, and why? Because your lame and fluffy cloud-head isn’t moving you forward.

I think society is slowly retiring the word “dreams” — in the future, maybe we only use it when explaining deja vu’s and our untapped psychic powers.

Dreams are cheap.

Besides entertainment value, they contribute next to nothing for our lives. In fact, they may even do more harm than good.

Some of us feel oddly accomplished just by having a dream, it keeps you from feeling like a total loser because theres something to hold onto…. even though it isn’t real. I think the nature of dreams makes us delay all action.

I’ve seen this in everyone I know.

They point to a bigass star– and obviously need a lot of rocket fuel to get there… but they also need a rocket, a rocket license, and a map.

Maybe they plan.

So they “do the google” and find the “how to do this dream of urz breakdown.” And now they know, it takes this much $$ and you’ll need various resources– of which you have none. Years pass, they’re pursuing the having of these resources… and now they’re too old for the dream, so they say.

Have they moved forward and really even tried?

Of course not.

This is what dreams do for most people.

They cloud your head, vision, and life. They make you obsess over something but without working towards it and honestly, they’re completely unnecessary.

Fuck a dream, dream a goal.

Practically set a goal for yourself that’s worth achieving and never stop til you get it. We’re human beings– we need carrots on a stick to chase. It’s better if you don’t totally love it, but just want it for practical reasons. This will keep you level and unemotional– which leads to better strategy and action.

By nature, everyones default is to fall in love with their dream. That’s a failure formula waiting to be concocted.

All you need to do is build something you’re built to build, and you’ll reach a goal. Do this and somehow the universe will miraculously reward your efforts and your life will be better than anything you’ve ever dreamed of.

I love DUNE. I’ve read all the books way before there was ever even talks of a movie, but that movie was fire too.

That said, your only mind killer isn’t fear.

It’s also the wrong attitude.

It’s insane how much this impacts every single aspect of your life.

A negative attitude will just about crush any chance of improvement. It’ll cause you to spit in the face of opportunity and cheat on the rented time allotted to you.

I wouldn’t worry so much about fear. Wasting life is a far more imminent danger– and it’s easy to do nowadays, mix in your shit outlook and you’ve just about done it.

A negative attitude is a life liquidator.

I write a lot about attitude because it’s easily one of the hardest things for me to maintain. Different minds have different wiring, and mine is wired to play compare and contra—st-I-don’t-have-that.

It’s SUPER lame.

It’s not like I’m staring at Lambos crying about my all too present desire for one, it’s more being in love with the idea of fulfillment.

Anyone else relate to that?

You’re in love with the concept of love, but not actual love.

REAL life demands compromise– you can refuse all you want, but then be alone, living off grid, cooking the milk.

I think we’re all guilty of forgetting this.

The Trade.

There is and always will be a pay to play, and if you don’t want to it’s fine, but you can’t complain when you’re instantly disqualified.

We all want our cake and to eat it too.

But it comes down to the game you think is worth playing for— wanna be fulfilled? What game aren’t you playing?

And how can you be entered?

When I tell you I’ve greatly underestimated the value of true friendship, I don’t just mean fun and excitement.

True friendship tests you. It pushes back on your bullshit, but at the same time– it points you in the right direction.

Everything I did on my own was naturally delusional. My introspection was delusional.

I kept leaving what I was naturally inclined for and choosing random paths that I tried to persuade myself were for me.

Reading my journals– who the hell wrote them? How is it possible that you have the right memories with the wrong endings?

Don’t choose what you like or want, choose what you repeatedly do.

Easily the greatest gift from my brotherhood is this— both of us stopped judging ourselves and got REAL. Stop trying to be something you’re not, and go all the way in on what you naturally do.

You’ll know when you interact with the actual thing– when you’re on the real path. It’ll make you feel more yourself, you’ll be freer. Boredom won’t reach you so easily, and something in you will light up.

You’ll have more energy, excitement, and engagement.

Whatever it is you think you want, entertain the fact that you could be completely wrong. Because what’s better than a life of fun is fulfillment.

The person who must have something, the one that is so desperate to get that thing they’ve given up on every other unrelated aspect of life– they never get it.

But that part time casual, the one who is practical and steadily works towards that aim, they end up achieving it.

Desperation is delusions cousin.

As soon as you need something, all-or-nothing need it, do or die type of desire– contrary to popular guru opinion, you don’t get it.

In fact, your mind makes that thing you so desperately want bigger than what it is, it distorts it, and now you’re further removed from it.

You end up being all weird when you have to take action or approach it, and when faced with opportunity, you’ll self sabotage. We all have this– the only question is where are you weird? Ever notice the areas that come so easily to you, you pretty much don’t care about? I have friends who really value having social circles….

…and then theres me, who literally goes hermit, unplugs, and missing for months.

Some think it’s rude, but you know how artists get— we disappear regularly in the name of creativity.

Point is, it’s me who easily gets the social circles out of all the people I know. Easily. I send text, they say yes, we social-vert.

Never understood what was difficult there.

I get weird with creating.

“Oh, we’re making something?” face gets all itchy, I start thinking grandiose, the playfulness wears off, and now it’s all-or-nothing thinking.

The solution? Apply the same method from the areas of life you’re effortless in– but to your desire. To do this, you have to let go.

You have to make it smaller, not bigger than it is.

You have to see it as just another thing, nothing more or less.

Trust that if it’s true to you— to who you are, you’ll return to it. If not, you’ll find what is. Either way, you’ll find what you were really looking for.

…The problem is your attitude of the problem.” –Cap. Jack Sparrow

If you need the commercial breaks during your movie, you’re doing it wrong.

Ever have those days where everything is clear? You feel good, you only see the positive, and even though it doesn’t last, all you feel is gratitude for the life you have?

I wish I could lock these in, keep them on repeat, and live the rest of my life like this.

These never last long, but during– I can see clearly, I’m optimistic, happy to be alive, and filled with gratitude.

During these commercials, I’m in the best possible mood. If I could stay in that mind, I’d have the exact life I’d always wanted.

All moods are temporary, but somehow this one is the commercial break. My movie is the “Everything is fucked” genre.

But I’m changing that.

Yesterday I saw a commercial that stuck with me. Not a literal Ad, but a brief moment of wisdom coming over you as you drive passed the in-n-out burger.

Boredom is a luxury.

And– you have no real problems.

That voice, the actual voice of reason, common sense— finally spoke loud enough for me to hear and I was instantly lifted into a good mood.

The truth is, you practice suffering all the time. You have no chill. Even with all the journaling, and self-recording, you still didn’t see it.

Your mind just creates problems– straw-men. None of which are real.

You’ve practiced misery so much and being unhappy, that now with all this opportunity, you’re not sure how to handle it. Well I’ll tell you– lighten up.

It is that simple.

Feeling excited about life, and playful towards it is how I want to play this game. So, my focus is a positive, playful, and expansive mindset. Real success is keeping the right frame of mind, that’s what I’ll be doing.

That’s my challenge to you– can you play where you are?

If you don’t have passion, find your interests.

We always skip ahead to what comes after the equals sign, the solution. You need the equation too– otherwise all you did was breeze passed your entire life.

Interest is a lot easier to track.

And can be found via logging your attention. What type of content do you consume? When you’re not vegging on the couch– what do you do in your free time? What do you read about? What section do you naturally roam towards in the bookstore?

Everything is telling, but not everything is important.

Your brain naturally pulls you towards the tools that will develop you most, but this part is instinctive. In other words, we can intellectualize our way out of it and often do– by copying or listening to others.

But the weirdest thing about the brain is that it already has the instructions it needs. The problem is if you overthink it you’ll miss it.

You have to do this casually.

You have to watch and be curious.

What do you obsess about? Don’t force it, explore it.

A couple of bumper-sticker self help books and a half decent online presence, and suddenly our leaderless generation knights a gurus opinion as “knowledge.”

Do yourself a favor– hop of their bathrobe.

We’re living in this weird information- fetishized time, where having someone to deify and follow is considered self improvement.

Here’s a hard truth: That successful person you look up to is an idiot. The same kind of idiot as the rest of us.

Everyone is guessing.

It’s weird to me, and by weird I mean gross, that our youth thinks Billie Eilish is so deep and profound espousing common sense shit, like: Nothing matters, because we’re all gonna die.

Did you not know that til yesterday?

Man, we’re living in an awesome time but at the same time… yikes. They say we’re in the crysis generation, I could see that.

Nothing against Billie, no one has your answers. Replace her with your favorite writer– Stephen King sounds like a politician on twitter. I didn’t follow him for his horror fantasy opinions about the world.

Everyone has an angle, and if you have any micro-success– your opinion is propelled to some validity.

If I was a successful track star but didn’t believe in a round earth– would you listen? Sounds extreme, but that’s what we’re all doing.

You have authors literally telling you not to know yourself– and why? So we can keep following them and buying their dumbass cheap books.

It’s all true.

Friends, our war is a spiritual one.

And guru’s can only stay relevant if you stay conflicted.

But there is some good news and it’s this: You can and should be your own guru.

Only you can figure out yourself and your life. No one told you, but you’re a one-time genetic phenomenon and your biological cocktail will never happen again. So, it’s up to you to discover yourself.

Take the reins of your life and follow you.

You don’t have to lead the free world or invent new rockets, just get to know yourself.

#EveryoneHasaBathrobe

I’m a firm believer of adapting with the times, and a lot of us have dated dreams.

There are so many crazy awesome opportunities out right now, but we stay focused on our narrow ideas of success.

Change is the law.

If you wanted to be in the entertainment industry back in the day, you’d either move to Hollywood or New York and struggle bus your way into it…. or never make it.

You’d work nights so you could go to auditions during the day, try to get an agent, live in a shitty apartment, and hope it doesn’t take 10 years— after that, the market has spoken.

That was the price, and that’s what you had to do.

But imagine doing the same thing today?

Despite all the tools and unique advantages provided by the times?

In general, there are 3 ways to get “inside” the dream life.

The front line, bribing someone, or the back door (this is not my idea, also I’m paraphrasing it).

The problem with the front line is it’s long as shit, everyone goes there, and your odds of being noticed aren’t great. Even if you make it to the door– you’re just another person in line, nothing impressive. Bribing? Maybe it works, maybe it doesn’t. But do you want to depend on someone being in a good enough mood to help you out?

Then theres the best bet, the backdoor.

This could look like skipping the front, surveying the territory, crawling through a back window to get inside and helping the kitchen staff.

Or for the entertainment industry example, this could look like building an online presence– where your audience doesn’t even really know you because each time you’re showing different sides of yourself (acting). Then having built up a following, that link is shared to old hollyweird.

Idk.

Point is, don’t just go wait in line.

Whatever your dream, use the backdoor.