Tag: finding passion

Worker Bees Serve Single Missions

Published February 25, 2022 by V

Ambitious type?

If fulfillment comes from waking your dreams and conquering your ambitions– theres something you should keep in mind.

As soon as something is built up to the point of — got to have it, you become a different type of vulnerable.

Desire is a contract, and we down payment our happiness to pursue our dreams.

Theres nothing wrong with it, but there are better ways.

You can’t want the thing AND be engaged in the now, that only works if you love the process. And I don’t mean find a process you love, I mean create a more enjoyable process NOW, before you find your thing.

I never thought anything wrong with delayed happiness and fulfillment.

But people started dropping like flies.

Well, I started noticing.

I used to think life wasn’t worth anything if I couldn’t have what I wanted… dumbass. Since then, I’ve decided to commit to bringing the play into what I’ve got.

It’s all temporary, you don’t need to hear that but you’ll never know it enough.

There is a chance your dream life never happens and there is a chance you DO get what you want… and it destroys you.

Either way, who will you show up as?

I’m not going to “power through” and miss it all.

PHUCK IT.

Regardless of what this choose your own adventure turns out to be, I choose to lean in.

#FOOLFWD

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Busy > Bored… if you’re like this

Published February 23, 2022 by V

I should never have free time.

A conversation with a friend finally simplified and made tangible my spiritual problem– I can’t be bored.

I do very stupid things out of restlessness, and those urges only ever pop up when I’m not engaged with my own work and life.

So, rather than follow the focus-preneurs who teach the art of tripling down on one thing, I’m going the opposite direction.

Multiple hats in a day.

I NEED variety.

It’s my only tether to the present.

My advice for you is this: Watch yourself. Study yourself. Observe like a scientist.

You have to understand what makes you do the things you do, you have to know your triggers– it’s the only way to get ahead.

I know given any extra time, my mind looks to push eject out of monotony and send me into some fantastical delusion.

AND That’s where pain and failure lives– divorced from reality.

You can’t wish away your wiring, but you can change the environment to reward it.

#FOOLFWD

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How Discipline Ruins You & The Better Alternative

Published February 22, 2022 by V

First, it’s important to note– you are wired a specific way and understanding that is the most important thing before committing to anything.

Now, I’m going to share my wired-struggle and how I’m leveraging it into productivity and life.

I hate using my “personality type” because it feels equivalent to saying I’m a Taurus and we’re too stubborn to learn. Often, it’s nothing but an empty and limiting belief you chain yourself up to and end up living out.

But there is truth to understanding REAL quirks in your particular brain.

For example, no matter what I’m doing or where I am, my brain looks for the next BIG thing. That might sound good on paper, but it has a bipolar navigation attached to it.

One day I’m all in on my writing, the next I’m off to try (insert new different cooler better thing).

I sabotage myself regularly, in the name of desire.

Which never lasts and leads to failure.

I can’t watch entrepreneurial videos without wanting to cut my shit off in that same moment and instantly chase that new shiny opportunity. If I see people moving to a hot new state with tons of action– I’m instantly tempted to move on a whim and quit everything I have going on.

I do this so fast, I don’t notice til I’ve paid the price of impulsivity.

My brain is the little brother, who wants whatever cooler thing big brother does.

And I ALWAYS FAIL WHEN I CHASE THIS IMPULSE.

But what can I do?

Buckle down and resist– that just leads to an explosion down the line and probably and even bigger one, thanks to storing and building up energy.

Instead, you have to channel whatever curse you’re born to.

If my little brother brain can’t stop doing this scan and go thing, I need to funnel it into some craft, and by draining it, it’ll have less hold over me in my life.

THAT’S WHAT NO ONE TELLS YOU ABOUT LIFE.

The only real “mentors” you can follow are those that won YOUR same war. Otherwise, you’ll die in battle as another pawn.

Rather than disciplining and saying “no” to a muscle or quirk that has so much control over you, leverage it into something like your craft or career. Find things that rely on what you have, otherwise you’ll always start over at the mercy of your own brain.

What you resist persists, so embrace it and use it.

#FOOLFWD

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Even Now, I still do the thing…

Published February 21, 2022 by V

It’s hard as shit for me to not grass-is-greener my life.

I know if I stay fully committed to the things in front of me, success is guaranteed– might not be what you imagined, but you’ll go far.

Reality usually finds you sitting on a park bench, and that’s where you realize:

I don’t have any real problems.

I’m lucky.

I get to pursue my dreams, goals, and aspirations.

I get to be dissatisfied and wanting more.

I preach attitude a lot, because with it you’ll create opportunity out of the mundane, and everything eventually becomes mundane.

This post is a reminder to self– that idea that something out there is more exciting is a false one. You bring the excitement with your approach. There is no place to go to and just randomly live a cocaine fueled choose your own adventure movie.

Also, I’m kinda starting to hate the concept of life being a movie, I’ll switch to game.

In a game, you play and need to level up.

In a movie, you need an exciting story…. and building isn’t.

The point here?

Whatever you have, you make more out of it by embracing it and leaning in– not looking over at others, or escaping.

How do you make what you have better?

#FOOLFWD

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Why You Will or Won’t Succeed… (not about definitions) ?

Published February 20, 2022 by V

When you finally understand the unchangeable aspects of who you are– it’s laughable looking back at what you thought you could do.

First, let me start with this:

If you’re looking for something, (new career, move, friend groups, whatever) start with the process of elimination NOT addition.

What’s in your life right now, that if removed, would dramatically improve your everyday experiences?

The NON- successful negotiate what wasn’t up for debate and don’t the things that don’t matter.

There ought to be a book for this, fine… I’ll write it in the future.

For now, you have to understand your character is responsible for everything in your life. If your life is maximizing your character, you’ll win. If not, you’ll lose.

It sounds so simple you probably think you’re doing this.

But it has to account for everything, free of guilt. You are who you are, and you need to channel it into your every day.

I used to see myself as ultra adaptable. Smooth. Charming. An overall pleasure to be around. I’m not joking either, BUT journaling and documenting myself throughout the years, along with having real friends– has outlined my reality.

The truth is I’m aggressive, blunt, overly competitive, despise rules and procedures, put myself first, and think that I always have the best solutions.

So how the phuck did I think I could go and play industry games as a writer or producer?

I didn’t know myself enough.

But now, it’s a different story.

Since I have a cancel-able face, I’m building my OWN brand and multiple income streams. That’s the only real option for how the hell I am.

And this is your task.

Where would your character thrive?

What are things you do every single day, that are not being used? This is 🔑

It’s what you can’t help but do, that needs to be brought to the surface and built around.

Wanna succeed in every aspect? Embrace yourself, become your number 1 fan, and be ruthless with what you allow for your life.

#FOOLFWD

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What turning down clients has taught me about non-negotiation

Published February 19, 2022 by V

I get excited too easily.

That might not sound like a problem, but it’s influenced me in making unwise short term decisions.

I used to say yes to every opportunity just to get more juice out of every squeeze, then later, I’d wonder why I had the strongest urge to cut everything off.

In truth, I never cared about most things.

Not in a cool stoic way either.

The New World Order: Guilt is for society, I play how I want

Published February 17, 2022 by V

You don’t have to love everything you do, I’ll concede to that.

But when it comes to your business– it should be toddler like when you reject the broccoli train forcefully invading your lips.

It’s going to be hard and the only way to sustain your efforts is to enjoy the process itself.

Which is why I don’t have guilt.

I try things out, don’t like them– then cut them out and never think about them ever again.

Others will shame you. Try to tell you it’s wrong, and stick longer, but why? Just because it takes you less time to figure out you don’t like it, doesn’t mean you might have fallen in love tomorrow had you stuck it out.

In reality, you’re at an advantage.

At least you won’t be stuck rat racing and tail chasing for 50 years to suddenly have a surprise crash followed by a fun identity crisis.

The game is a simple one and if we didn’t complicate ourselves and how important we think everything is, it’d be easy too.

We have to do things we don’t love, cool. I get that. So, take a job that at least covers some of your values– i.e. the company culture matches your personality. Now, it’ll be easier to have better days.

On the side, whatever you choose to build, that’s treated different.

YOU HAVE TO LOVE IT.

From exploring and taking on different clients, throughout my side hustling, I’ve learned so much about what I don’t want– and that informs what I do.

This is the key.

Try things, and move on fast when you realize you don’t like them.

With movement, you’ll land on your thing.

P.S. Oh, and remember nothing lasts and nothing matters. Find yourself stuck in a rut? Do something scary (I went skydiving) that you kinda want to do.

#FOOLFWD

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Rules of Your Game: The human being instruction manual no one talks about

Published February 16, 2022 by V

There are somethings that’ll never change.

You, for example, won’t and that’s a good thing.

I’m not talking about dumb habits or new mindsets, that’s not important and has nothing to do with character– which is something much deeper than you can imagine.

Thing is, you have good days and bad– but what defines these is your inborn values.

When we’re living our values, we wonder how life got to be so phucking awesome AND when we’re breaking the code– we feel like internally combusting.

The point?

Don’t be a narcissist.

You didn’t build your human (or maybe you did, but thats pre-life shit).

You are who you are, and you value what you value– so the point of it all is to know this so deeply, that you know how to apply it situationally to get ahead.

When you’re applying for a new career– you can filter it online. You can customize settings for a specific field, amount of money, location, etc.

Well, that’s what this personal lawbook is, your code.

It’s your filter– to be applied to everything. Careers, locations, relationships, etc.

Your task, first identify in a notebook or however the hell you introspect:

What made your best day? (what do all your most enjoyable days have in common? What were you doing? Who were you with?)
What made your worst? (Here’s where you broke your code– find out which one).

In answering these questions, you’ll have an outline, which is all you need for now. Write it down and keep it handy. You’ll add to it as you observe yourself.

This is your human instruction manual.

And it’s how you’ll live a phucking awesome life.

Oh and remember, nothing matters.

#FOOLFWD

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Why people get weird about “process”

Published February 15, 2022 by V

There isn’t another way to reach your goals, it’ll always be long initially.

The single greatest determining factor will come down to persistence– a word I used to hate; In short: You’ll need a process.

First, you need to understand your personality. Know where and how you operate best, and then leverage that by creating a process that supports your nature.

This is how you maximize chances of success.

I suck with long term goals– I’m impulsive, switch up fast, and always attracted to shiny object opportunities.

Trying to change that is pointless– it’d end in misery.

So instead, I keep goals short.

I keep them related to what I’m naturally good at– because that’d be harder for me to leave.

The role I’m in now is very related to the goal I’m pursuing. The work and the clients I take on– it’s the exact same thing. I’ll always feel like leaving but because this is so closely related to my character, I never do.

That’s the key.

What can you do on a long enough timeline and still enjoy?

That’s process– you have to find fulfillment in it and not the end goal. Otherwise, you’ll constantly put off happiness and if you don’t succeed– it was all for nothing.

My whole MO now is to inject joy into my day to day. If it’s unbearably boring, make it fun. Figure it out– enjoyment is a practice.

As you move towards your goals, don’t forget to play on your way there.

#FOOLFWD

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The Blind Lead The Mind…

Published February 14, 2022 by V

Life IS what you make it, but your mind isn’t a friend to you.

This is probably the best and most important way of thinking about the brain. When we overreact, or “grow” paranoid, it’s us allowing the mind to lead us— and the mind is a shitty leader.

“Instinct” has to be one of the worst excuses for not knowing why you do or don’t do some things.

We automatically trust our mind, and that’s a mistake.

I use mbti to overcome delusion, you can use whatever you want– the only catch is it has to work during the moment. Here’s what I mean:

I’m an entp.

And Ne (leader function of the brain) SUX.

Ne loves different– it likes it so much that even when my life is awesome it plays the internal movie of me moving to another state, partying, closing big money deals, and living my movie devoid of any buffering or commercial breaks.

Following Ne has only led to failure.

Because I need to BUILD to get ahead in life, which I’m doing, and every single time I’ve done that– I get ahead.

So, when I catch myself doing the, “I need to move” “I need excitement” “this aint living” — I remind myself:

Dipshit, that’s Ne overreacting again, don’t fall for it.

And I’m free of it in that moment. Even if the movie still plays it, it has no hold over me.

This is key for all of us.

You need a way to step outside of your minds hold. Understanding it and having clear cut terms is the best way I know how.

By knowing that it’s Ne playing me, and not me, I’m able to overcome it.

Understanding where your mind does this is key.

Don’t believe everything you feel, that’s the first step. Also– if personality types and psychology has more demand, I’ll explore that for you all here.

Til next time, #FOOLFWD

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Where do you get the most returns?

Published February 13, 2022 by V

I’m not one to tell you to pay attention to crop circles or notice the patterns around the globe— whatever that means.

But there is something to be said about where each of us gets returns in life…

… forget what you’re drawn to for a sec.

Notice what’s drawn to you.

For no reason at all, I thought I wanted to be involved with movies and art. Nope, I didn’t have a passion for these things. No– I didn’t study these topics or create things in my spare time, and it wasn’t even an intellectual curiosity.

Like a kid in the backseat driving passed McDonalds, at some point after seeing it– my mind wouldn’t let it go.

But I did, after enough failure and when I did I naturally got returns in the field I’m in… it sort of just came together around me and without me.

THIS IS WHERE PEOPLE ERR.

Don’t leave the thing you get returns on for something you think you want.

Media, advertising, and marketing unfolded for me. I didn’t force it, or try to make it happen. I did take daily action and it turned into this– but it could have turned into anything, what made it go this route?

Your own nature has a map.

Without sounding hokey, no two people will share the same path, even if they’re trying to. It just turns out different because we’re different.

Instead of trying to force the path, pay attention to where things happen for you. Where do you get returns, what comes naturally?

When you single step onto it– it’ll unfold.

That’s how you’ll know.

Til next time, #FOOLFWD

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Beyond your circle ⭕️

Published February 12, 2022 by V

What are you moving towards?

Dear Fool,

If there was ever a life philosophy that had nearly universal benefits to each individual who practiced it– it’d be movement.

We need to be moving towards something, otherwise– we expire (not die, but you know– complacency, boredom, pain and misery, resentment, all the hello-darkness-my-old-friend stuff).

They say you can’t outrun your problems, — and this must be the greatest lie ever told.

You literally can.

Problems only hold you when you’re still.

If you keep moving, you’ll make a way.

This raises the question: What are you moving towards right now?

A lot of us are stuck running circles. Wake up, force shit down out mouths– out our bowls, out the door, and back through it. Then you say you have anxiety and wonder why…

…

Call that living?

It doesn’t matter what your beliefs, you can see it as purpose, imagine it as destiny, attract it as a universal law– just don’t get hung up on the alphabet soup of it.

Jesus rewards do-ers.

Whatever your religion, edit movement into it.

Now, some of you may be thinking, “that’s great, but where the hell am I going?”

And to that I’d say– it MATTERS NOT.

You can go wherever, you’re not supposed to “know” exactly where. Just start moving, and you’ll discover side routes that attract you.

And that becomes the path.

Movement is living.

Sincerely,

— Future You (who is more successful and better looking) 🙂

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Unifying the headless body with the bodyless head

Published February 11, 2022 by V

When you approach the sword unworthy, even if you’re tomorrows chosen one, you’ll fail to pull it from the stone— today.

I stay away from ginormous goals.

They’re empty, and yes I still want them.

–But I’m not there so moving towards them prematurely would throw away my progress.

You want the low hanging fruit, initially.

The thing I’m doing differently now is building where I am, as I am. If you lose connection with reality, you lose connection to success.

And anything not in reach is hard to create.

You already know what’s missing in your life– adding in that thing will be what makes the difference. I want fluidity, less anxiety and rushing, more play and skill.

That’s what I mean by unifying.

It’s like those times you could do a trick in a particular sport, you don’t know how you know to do it and when someone asks you to teach them– suddenly you forget to do it. But when you’re flowing– the body moves free of the mind.

That’s what I’m after.

Fluidity.

You may not have this, maybe for you it’s the mind and considering things first– we all lean one way or the other.

But becoming a unified individual is what will bring us fulfillment and individual power.

How do you do this?

Move towards the opposite direction.

Day by Day.

#FOOLFWD

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Favorite vs Best: How will you play your games?

Published February 9, 2022 by V

Some of us are too good at limiting ourselves.

We use language like, “that’s not me” or “I can’t” —and I’m not one of those people who will tell you anything is possible.

That’s bullshit, and yeah– not everything is for everyone, that’s why you have to know thyself.

But when it comes to career, friends, important decision-making like where you live, that’s pretty simple.

Want to be your best self or your favorite?

Let me rephrase from where I stand: Phuck “best self”.

It isn’t real.

That’s the voice of childhood conditioning floating in your head, judging you and keeping you in mediocrity.

Play however you want to play, play as your favorite.

To me– this means NEVER allowing myself to feel bad over everyday stresses.

All of this is for nothing, we’re the ones who make it worth what it is. When I’m laying on my deathbed, I want to look back and see a full life. That’s my call, you chase what does it for you.

Get going, #FOOLFWD

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Dreams don’t define the future, the present does…

Published February 8, 2022 by V

I’m more myself than I’ve ever been, and that came from embracing what I’m in.

Hello MF.

I probably sound like a broken record player on this site, because every post is the same lesson repackaged.

The good news for you is– there is actually just one thing, that when done, improves every aspect of your life.

If you’re a reader, you know that thing is attitude.

Quick note: Be happy, is not an attitude. That’s cheap bumper sticker advice that doesn’t mean anything.

I mean attitude as in your daily approach to experiences.

Something happens to us when we decide to embrace it all. When we finally give up all the paranoid thinking and just lean into what we have.

The movie limitless comes to mind.

If you can manufacture excitement, and play throughout each moment, there is no way you don’t create opportunities out of thin air. It is a guaranteed law of the universe and I don’t mean that in a spiritual sense.

Dreams move us away from living.

It’s good to have dreams, but most people can’t balance them. I couldn’t… til recently.

Here’s where you start: Pretend this is all you have– seriously. Imagine that theres a giant invisible clock ticking above you (because there is) and let that inform how you respond to situations.

In the face of death, nothing matters.

Your dream life is right in front of you– but you have to go all out to reach it.

Trick yourself, fake excitement, don’t lose your inner child.

These are the things that make it all worth it.

chat soon, #FOOLFWD

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Peacocks have colorful personalities but still won’t succeed…

Published February 7, 2022 by V

So, your type is 1% of the population? If that’s true why are you so basic?

Every imaginable test to measure a person in any way has become its own religion, with a cult like following.

Theres a good reason for it, but it went too far.

Success boils down to authenticity— and providing a service that is needed or useful. But your ability to do that comes down to are you in the right field? And to figure that out, we need to know what you’re wired for.

In comes this exploding industry: personality psychology.

Regardless of your identity-language, they’ve got something for everyone. Do you prefer 4 letters to sum up your soul? Try mbti.

Or maybe you feel a connection with mythical creatures and find yourself able to talk to animals (you can understand it, but don’t speak it)– in this case, zodiac might explain why horses neigh at you #centaur.

Some only believe in science, if facts turn you on, the whitecoats use something called the big5.

Theres an endless amount of tests, and they all claim to be “the test” but what’s the point of all this?

To get better, and most don’t.

Instead, the instinct is to peacock. It’s to take whatever your type is and flaunt. I’m this, that’s how we are, Entps debate a lot, Sagittarius are just direct like that, blah, blah, blah.

An entire industry rendered useless because no one cares about improving.

And it’s hard not to do, don’t get it twisted.

We all want something to point to and say, “there– that is what I am.”

But no test could actually measure an individual. Your task as a student of human nature is one, to thoroughly explore yourself and then to create yourself. All of us are on solo journeys and to become yourself, you have to learn about yourself.

These tests are just vague outlines, its on you to color it all in.

And why should you go through the pain and suffering to do this? Because real fulfillment comes from something that is deep within you. When you connect to that, success is a byproduct.

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Writing is for the conflicted… and my 99 problems don’t include that

Published February 6, 2022 by V

If you come with a bag of issues and no resolution in sight, you’re probably a writer.

At the very least, you have the potential to be one of the greats.

And theres the problem with writing, for me…

… my issues aren’t as real.

I don’t have deep sadness from the worlds suffering, I’m not unhappy with myself, I’m also lacking in butt power (the ability to sit for long periods of time in order to connect with your work on some weirdly spiritual level).

I am none of these things.

Writing is just play, so rather than try to make myself into one of you artists, I’m carving it out to suit myself.

I like scripts, I’ll lead with that.

I like bold, snappy, and quick content (long form is boring).

A lot of us feel guilt for not belonging, don’t. Your task is to uncover your own unique lane and you can’t do that when you’re following the paths of others.

Why’d I make this post and how the hell does it help you?

Don’t stay on one thing if it’s missing something. Only you’ll know when it’s time to either add something new, subtract the old, or adapt the approach.

Change as needed.

Til next time, stay moving.

#FOOLFWD

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Intuitive Casting: You have to match the character you play …

Published February 5, 2022 by V

Look, we’ll all have to do things we might not completely love– but no one has to hate anything.

There is a way to avoid misery on your journey to fulfillment.

And this hack is dependent on you knowing what makes you tick.

But first an example: During my high school years I learned that not only was I excellent with groups, but that was what fulfilled me (collabing, creating, building together, etc.). I became a better me around my own team. When you understand psychology and personality types, you learn nature plays a big role in what fulfills us.

If you’re high extrovert— WITHDRAWING to go build on your own is the dumbest move possible!

But thats what I did, and so I fell from grace.

After enough self analysis and understanding, I’ve since changed my approach to suit me, and surprise-surprise, life is phucking awesome again!

This is the ultimate success hack. This is all you need to know.

Fulfilled by helping others? Put yourself in those environments first, then worry about what and how you’ll do as a career.

The nature part comes first.

Success follows us leveraging our DNA.

Everything I build will be based on my strengths– and if you want to win, but more importantly enjoy your life, you’ll need to do the same.

Til next time, #FOOLFWD

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Real self-Improvement can’t be taught…

Published February 4, 2022 by V

If you’re one of those rare individuals who feel the need to constantly throw yourself into various fires and build a stronger player— you should know something.

There is no self improvement practice, at least, not the ones where you do random habits or read a specific amount of books– and somehow unlock phoenix mode? No.

That’s not actually real.

Maybe it helps, but not in the ways you’d like.

Ironically, I’ve developed the most personally while maintaining the least habits, and while nearly reading next to nothing new.

Morning routine is essentially the gym and casually writing these posts. Reading is random, I do it when I feel like it. Diet, it’s just okay–

And yet I’m learning far more about my strengths and weaknesses and developing my character, how?

Through my work.

That’s the answer for all of us. Work develops us. Now, the catch is there has to be some connection to who you are. In my field, there certainly is.

But when I tried to deliberately improve, I oddly became more neurotic and isolated. When I embraced my craft and leaned into what I was doing, I started seeing results. The other day I wondered how I’d convey this idea to my younger self if given the chance…. and I don’t think I ever could.

That idiot was just too big headed.

You have to bump your head until the headache makes you stop.

Embracing your life is the answer. I treat my career like I wish I’d have went through my youth and school. Nothing matters, so play. Quit resisting everything, these little moments are what you’ll look back on in the end.

Improving is human nature.

It will fulfill you, give you more confidence, and make life far more engaging and interesting. But to do it, you have to shift your attitude towards the game.

What are you playing for?

Til next time, #FOOLFWD

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Sacrificing the old goat…

Published February 3, 2022 by V

Everything comes down to what you’re willing to give.

There is no real concept of imposter syndrome or deserving something. It’s just will you do what you need to– to accomplish the thing.

The things that used to work for me, won’t for the next level.

I recognize that, and so that’s what goes.

I don’t mind, actually theres relief that comes with that.

Most of us likely don’t want to repeat our lives— making the same mistakes and being hung up on the exact same problems.

You have to make a sacrifice and that’s of your own weaknesses.

The old goat.

I used to try to clever my way through things, sometimes at the expense of others. That will never work for where I’m going. I want a good reputation, one that promises authenticity and delivering excellent work.

Keep cleverness in the craft itself.

We’ll get hung up on things like whats next or where to? Those aren’t the questions we need answering.

What you’re looking for is: Who?

Who will you live life as? How will you live? Where do you spend time, what do you do?

Life follows the character, not the other way around.

Develop the character and life molds itself to match.

Focus on who you need to live as to have that dream life, and everything follows.

Til next time, #FOOLFWD

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