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Month: July 2021

Understanding > Consuming: Why I’m Reading Less

Hey Fool.

By nature, I’m not a reader.

Sitting alone with nothing but a book to delight me isn’t something I ever wanted to do. But as I got older, I gradually discovered the non-fiction section of the book store.

Suddenly, those once-worthless-paperbacks were now seen as human brain upgrades– the ultimate tool for me to get ahead and strengthen my weaknesses.

Now, I could “hack” my way to success.

And with this seed planted, I became a “reader.” I went through every imaginable self help book, when it comes to approach and niche– none were off limits. It didn’t matter to me if the strategies were proven scientifically– or if they were total spiritual gobbledygook. All I cared about was could I use this immediately to advance towards my goals?

Enter the apprentice phase.

This part of my life is interesting. For years, all I did was consume. Non-stop content on what you should do, how you should think, disciplines to practice, habits to hold, etc.

Reading led to more reading.

It felt like I couldn’t get the information as quickly as needed. But then years passed, and I made very little improvements…. worst of all, I felt disconnected.

YOU DISCOVER YOUR PATH.

There is no book, course, mentor, or whatever that can recommend how to move forward. You need to do it blindly, that’s part of the game and whatever happens, happens.

We’re meant to do it for the first time, to do it on our own. And really, I mean think about– how can someone who isn’t you tell you to live your life?

It doesn’t make sense.

If you can read and apply systems loosely, then it’s worth it. But if you’re struggling like I did with the distance part, and end up intensely worshipping all of it– drop the book.

You can’t read your way there, you need understanding.

Reflecting through journaling will yield more results than just reading one book to the next.

Authenticity is the key to success, which means figuring out yourself and nature and then applying it appropriately.

Input does equal output, so careful what you consume.

#Fool

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Too Adult For The Sandbox

Hey Fool.

It’s no easy task to live fully, at the same time I liken it to falling asleep– more effort, equates to more difficulty.

The other day I wrote about identity and how carefully crafting yours based on reality will help you achieve fulfillment.

But today the thing most on my mind is playing with the toys you have.

To quote Captain Jack Sparrow, “The problem is not the problem, the problem is your attitude about the problem.

Why do we lose our sense of play? Why do we take ourselves so seriously?

Have you ever noticed how much easier life is when we roll with it? When we’re in a state of play our stiffness is replaced with fluidity, and most of our problems slide rather than stick.

I think it’s a quote from Alan Watts that went something like, “We suffer because we take serious what the Gods made for fun.”

It’s funny. I won’t speak for you, but I think a lot of us somehow got the idea that the ironic and cynical attitude is cool. The cold and aloof person– they somehow possess intelligence and power, when in fact it’s the opposite.

Optimism takes strength, especially today.

It’s easy to be cynical. It’s easy to be a pessimist. It takes ZERO effort and ZERO courage. In a way, it’s a result of having given up on life itself.

The hardest thing in the world is to stay positive surrounded by cheap default negativity. This is what I’ve decided to make my way.

My way and my approach to life will be a willful optimism. I’m naturally skeptical and harsh by nature, I can’t pretend that away.

But I’ll choose to shift my perspective.

Willpower is necessary to start, and I’ll use all of mine to live a fulfilling life.

Wherever you are– play.

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Building Your Human: The Promethean Task of Identity

The greatest determining factor of what kind of life you’ll live and what you’ll achieve is identity.

A lot of us misinterpret what this actually means.

I mean, we are who we are and we are how we are, so what is there to do? While it’s true that your personality is set, your identity is different.

Identity is made up of values, beliefs, and personality. While you can’t change the last, the first two are very much upgrade-able.

My conflict has always been this– I want to be who I truly am underneath, but I also want to be better than I am. How can you be more and be the same?

Well, I think I’ve got it.

Your nature is unchangeable. I’ve tried everything in the book, all the lessons from all the masters, and can tell you it’s pointless and depressing to attempt to pretend away your core.

It doesn’t work and serves to make you delusional and even worse, disconnected.

The way to evolve is to take that unique core, figure it out as much as possible, study yourself like a scientist and then find areas in life to better channel it.

If I naturally have a highly charged emotional nature, the flip side of that coin might be a creative mind– choose a skill that can better channel this and to ensure you dominate the skill and stay the course start saying I AM THE PERSON WHO…. (fill in the blank).

(Why dominate the skill? Because it takes total commitment to the path for you to fully evolve. I wish it didn’t… but it does).

The catch here, you have to choose something you care about, something you actually want to learn and have an interest in, and once chosen that little I AM statement will ensure you re-configure your identity to constantly embrace that task.

Here are some examples of things I’m learning that I use I AM statements to better build myself and ensure I keep the focus on learning:

I AM A MARTIAL ARTIST.

I AM A WRITER /DIRECTOR.

I AM A STUDENT OF HUMAN BEHAVIOR.

What is the point of doing this? It might seem affirmational, quirky, or law of attraction-y but it isn’t.

This is psychology.

For whatever reason, each of us is bound by social contracts– even to ourselves. The brain upgrades software through consistency, knowing this feature, you can leverage it to your advantage.

So, you should be who you truly are.

That’s what destiny is.

It’s you uncovering what you are to the core, what makes you unique and living that out– AT THE SAME TIME, when you know your uniqueness intimately, you can better channel it to build yourself into something more.

Enjoy re-discovering yourself.

Play, in truth this entire process should be nothing more than play, which is brought about by genuine curiosity.

#PlayFoolish

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Yours Is The Only Path: There are no forks, turns, twists, and dwarfs

You know, I look back at all these posts and I sound like a broken record player. I guess, each of us just circles our own wounds, tracing the length with our tongues– constantly talking around the same thing.

How I’m not sick of regurgitating the same topics is a mystery to me?

But I guess hurt people hurt… and confused people teach.

Anyways, I want to talk about “The Path.” It’s far more simple than I thought it was but there is a barrier to entry.

For whatever reason, I finally reached a point in my life where it’s about the work. I want to work and I want to do good work.

This might not sound all that revolutionary, but hear me out. The more I dive in, the more engaged I become, the more my mind focuses on everything in front of me, and I find myself fulfilled. The alternative to this– was me constantly comparing myself to others, wanting cheap success (fame and fortune) and being followed closely by an inescapable misery.

The alternative was being possessed by restless imagination, which serves to drive you completely insane running bullshit simulatory dreams on what life should be, robbing the present of meaning and fulfillment.

Play the game of fantasy and you’ll forever be disconnected.

But you know what, in the last year my inescapable shadow has lightened. I might still be a “difficult” person, but I suffer FAR LESS from this false world and I attribute that to the work.

The answer is not to desire nothing, but desire the path you are already on. Don’t wish for changing lanes, wish to drive this out.

It isn’t hokey, it’s fulfilling.

Our path is the only path. There is nothing else, nothing other than where we are and who we are.

Go all in and what’s before you, and you will find yourself living a far greater life.

#FoolsGold

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One Focus Will Get You There

You can want the world, you can have all these desires, but you can’t pursue them at the same time– not if you actually intend on accomplishing anything.

My longing for some type of purpose is long gone, for the first time, I’m Free.

Everything we choose, do, or ever will do is an extension of who we are– with that very fact, whatever purpose we create will be the right one. You’ll always end on you.

My advice to anyone who struggles with this is to let go. Your suffering is ceaseless and your energy enslaved, through an over-dedication to some spiritual path (that’s probably bullshit anyway).

That said, all I want to do is see where it all leads, we create our own purpose. Mine is to succeed as I am, living out who I am.

I’m choosing to be unbothered. I’m choosing to laugh at chaos, reject weak thoughts, and remain at peace regardless of my circumstances.

It really doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter what you do or don’t do, because in the end we’re not competing with each other. We’re up against death and time… and we all know we’ll lose.

So, choose what kind of life you want to live.

Where we err is we imagine there needs to be some intervening event, something that alters the course of our lives……. that rarely happens.

If you wait for it… time and death will knock before this guest ever does.

This is a very bizarre part of my life. I have an abundance of opportunity and I’m not looking left and right. What’s in front of me is the goal, I’m not worrying about where, when, how.

I guess that’s why I’m not suffering.

#FoolsGold

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It’s Not Always What You Love… Passionately Against IT

Just about every book that I’ve come across talks about doing what inspires you. You’ve got to love it, blah blah blah– because then you can do it long enough to succeed.

Personally, I was never motivated by love so why would that change when it comes to career?

My purpose isn’t spiritual. It’s materialistic BUT this is far more real to me than anything I’ve tried to love.

I don’t know about love, but nothing lights me up more than dependence. I PASSIONATELY CAN’T STAND IT!

So my “why” has become a semi anti-social one, but as authentic as possible. I refuse to be in situations where others decision making impacts me.

I’m after true independence. Independence from the economy, from inconveniences, from friends and family, from it all… this is freedom. I exist for FREEDOM.

For the first time in my life, I’m not trying to convince myself. See, that’s the problem with the human animal. We’re thinking beings– overthinking, convincing ourselves of what we *should love and what we *could do.

Wisdom comes from realizing what type of animal you are, and EMBRACING IT. Instead, we need to make the most of what we are– not pretend to be something we’re not.

I’m not in love with creation, art, and all the beautiful things the world has to offer. You can call me cynical and nihilistic, but to be completely honest— I am underimpressed.

I can’t believe it took me this long to realize, I guess I thought it had to be mystical which I’ll chop up to advertising.

Turns out, my problems and goals are all perfectly interconnected.

I’m after one thing and I’m passionate about solving for one problem– that is all. My advice for you?

Can’t find what you love? Maybe it’s in what you hate….

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Don’t Get Sucked In: Your Blindspots are Blackholes

Hey Fool.

Is there anything *supposedly* good for you, that makes you feel like shit? If that thing is remotely related to your genetic blind spots, don’t attack it directly.

For most people, having purpose and direction is incredibly important. It’s uplifting and provides a greater resilience…. but for me, who has craved an all consuming reason for existence since my inception, it’s a blackhole.

Blackholes are the areas of our lives that we want more than anything, where we’re delusional, unreasonable, childlike… for whatever reason, we’re always drawn to this area but reality is distorted here.

Everyone has their own blackholes.

Moving towards them directly never leads to any good– you’ll get sucked in and spit out. A lot of us won’t ever learn, we just keep repeating the cycle (think the person who wants to be a singer, but can’t hear how awful they sound– and pursue it forever).

Anytime I’ve chased my delusional dreams– fantasies, the thing I think I want for no apparent reason, my life becomes complete chaos. I lose my progress, stability, and end up having to start over.

The result of you believing in your magic, in these fantasies, is being stuck in a spiral of never getting ahead.

Ruthless practicality is the only way to become a better astronaut.

Once you’re more skilled, then maybe you can see the blackhole for what it is and possibly navigate it, if that’s still the goal.

But all of us share the same first step– we have to see our blindspots and then get better of them.

I suffered from imagination (and still do) and always will. That sounds spiritual, but what it looks like is my mind constantly craving the world, achievement on the biggest stage, accolades and success, and my life to have ZERO dull or boring moments…. is that really a lot to ask for?

What I came to realize is my mind is wrong in this area. When it comes to career and purpose, I don’t trust it. This is how I got ahead.

Knowing that reality is distorted for me here, I instead went practical. I considered my skills, my temperament and natural inclinations, and started there.

That’s how I began a new career, got financially ahead, and started building a life I enjoy.

Don’t get me wrong, it doesn’t resemble the craving blackhole at all. But who cares, now I have a life.

Waiting for those fantasies robs you.

FUCK desire. What can you build?

Stop wanting. Start small.

#FoolForward

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Beyond The Storm: Brief Moments of Clarity

For the very few days the switch is turned off, I can finally see –and it’s on these days I wonder what the hell I was suffering from anyway.

The best realization you can have is understanding that there isn’t anything else. There is no place to go, no “thing” to do, because everything you were looking for is right here.

That’s why they say “GO ALL IN.”

I used to laugh at that with friends. I’d hear certain entrepreneurs offer advice like, “no matter what your current position, do it fully… and you’ll see, things will change for the better.”

My immediate thought was this is by far the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard. How does going in on something you don’t care about, with limited opportunities in the field itself, change your circumstances?

I mean, change comes from change– not more work. Their advice seemed like something to keep you stuck, something an insecure and overly competitive person might offer up to lesson the competition.

But I misunderstood.

The idea wasn’t that going all in would solve your career aspirations, but rather it would improve your attitude towards work itself, and then life– because the two are actually closely related.

I’ve written so many posts on attitude and haven’t fully comprehended why it’s so important. In fact, there’s nothing more important.

If you know anyone who is strangely optimistic, almost naively so, they’re the person to model for the next 30 days.

We can’t be something we’re not, but every single one of us can change our approach.

This should be your only goal, because changing this leads to success in every other area, but even more important– it makes you the person who enjoys the life you live.

That’s all I’m after.

So for now, my only task is right before me. I will go ALL IN.

And embrace everything.

#StayFoolish

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Don’t Cross Your Lines: Finding Fulfillment

You ever have those realizations, which are obvious but somehow profound when they suddenly hit?

Well a few days ago, I finally had mine. You just sit here unhappy, wondering why we do all the things we do, why can’t we be different, why don’t we do better.

All stupid time wasting things.

It’s self-esteem defeating and this societal process is actually worthless. Let me tell you what I’ve learned that has instantly changed my life for the better.

The gurus tell you to re-define yourself. As if you were the one who wired yourself in the first place– step 1, quit listening to idiots.

Step 2: watch don’t judge. If you asked me to write my values on paper, some you’d see reflected in my daily actions… but unfortunately –some you wouldn’t.

There is what we say and what we do, and the truth is in the “do.”

But this is the best thing you’ll ever learn if you understand it and use it. Wanna find a life of passion, excitement, and fulfillment? First, find your lines.

You live your values every single day, and when you fulfill them life itself is RICHER.

If you’re a business owner who is always putting the customer first, and behind the scenes you profess that you hate it but sure enough, without fail, as soon as there are customers you put them first. Later, you’re talking about how you helped them, what they said, and what happened– WELL, like it or not, that’s YOUR VALUE!!!

YOU VALUE HELPING OTHERS IN THIS WAY.

It’s not an accident you do this. We do what we are, and you SHOULD continue to do this. Looking at others, or saying you don’t like it anymore because you’re tired is stupid.

Sure, there can be a better way of doing things and you should find them, but thinking you can pick something different is like saying you’re going to be someone different……

that will never be possible and even worse, as soon as you stop doing what you are– you’ll be depressed. Depression comes from disconnection, when we live by who we uniquely are– we are fulfilled, when we don’t– we’re medicated and distracted.

I profess how much I HATE dependence and believe me I do. BUT one of my top genetic values is camaraderie and so I always feel fulfilled and engaged when I’m working together with my team. I’m so naturally disagreeable that I’ve tried to wash this trait out of me, but as soon as I work with my team, without fail, I return to a better version of me.

I become fulfilled because I’m becoming myself.

Like it or not, I need this to feel alive.

This is what you need to find, and to find it record your day before you go to bed. How did you act? What did you do? How much of those things do you regularly do? What days were good days? What days were bad days?

We’re not looking for the thing itself, we’re looking for the values behind them.

If you live out what you naturally value and stop judging it, you’ll find fulfillment and success (how you define it).

This is the secret. No stupid universal laws, no self improvement books, no dumbass gurus courses.

These values are unique to you, all you have to do is uncover them and then LIVE them.

#FoolForward

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Happiness Cheat Code: Stop Fantasizing

Stoicism comes from understanding, happiness comes from peace, and fulfillment comes from presence– and yet we chase stoicism through chapters, happiness through experiences, and fulfillment with distraction.

We’ve turned our greatest intelligence, the ability to create, inward. Now, we’ve got an entire generation suffering from restless imagination syndrome– dressed up as anxiety, depression, and overall discontent.

You’re not looking for answers, you’re looking for your values.

As it turns out, life is far more simple than we make it. If I focused each day on only living out my values, I’d naturally feel fulfilled– and that’s all fulfillment is, engaging with your true self.

As children we were helpless, but we understood the concept of play. We could toy with beliefs and values, because back then — we knew they weren’t real. The only thing that was real was our dedication to make believe.

At some point, we became the environment that discouraged us.

Imagine taking all this serious? Complaining and hating life, for what? Even if it sucks and you want to drive around in a lambo, beating yourself up will only move you even further away.

I’ve finally come to terms with the fact that dreams beget misery.

We should have goals, but focusing on what you don’t have is poison. It creates a habit of depressive thinking, small-mindedness, and distorts our perceptions of the world– coloring everything negatively.

Your attitude is the genre of your movie.

I think on a universal scale, we all really just want one thing: A good time while we’re here. That’s why the self-improvement industry is so hot, influencers are a thing, and social media addicting.

We’re looking for it, instead of living it.

Happiness comes from peace, but peace isn’t found. You can’t go somewhere and suddenly have it, because you can’t outrun your own discontented nature.

Peace from mind is happiness.

It’s understanding.

It’s knowing all you have to do is stop searching, fantasizing, complaining– all you really have to do is let go and be here.

Decide what it is that matters most, and prioritize living that out accordingly.

#FoolForward

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Focus On Staying Afloat: How I WILL overcome my mind

One thing I can always count on is my storm.

My life could be going great, I’ll be making progress, but then some vague compulsion takes over me and I have the strongest urge to start over…and start over by destroying everything I’ve built.

This feeling isn’t just escapism, it’s critical of everything around me and inside me.

It’s aggressive and this same program has been running through my mind since my existence but somehow I’m still not used to it.

I’ve always wondered what caused it, and I’m still not so sure. Could it be an unbalanced brain, flawed perception, issues with identity, or suffering from having outrageous desires and being pissed off learning they don’t fulfill you?

I used to think the storm came to my benefit, almost as a reminder to get back on track– maybe I wasn’t moving towards my destiny.

I don’t believe that anymore…

Now I’m sure, it rains just because it rains. The reason? It’s a part of who you are. That doesn’t mean you’re a miserable person, it just means you have to channel the energy rather than run from it– and that’s the key to overcoming this.

Normally, the feelings brought on by it are panicky, and they result in jumping ship.

You’ll have to do the opposite, despite how hard it will feel. LEAN IN.

Become a kickass sailor.

I’ve tried leaving it, I’ve tried going to environments where there wouldn’t be a sea (metaphorically speaking). But rain would eventually flood you back to the same place.

My goal now is entirely different– it’s to channel this energy. Rather than identify with it, I’ll recognize what it is, which is the climate of my mind.

It’s not who I am, it’s just my temperature.

And knowing that, I can build a better foundation- one that would benefit from the weather itself.

I’m staying here. I’m building.

Jumping ship never stopped the storm, it just temporarily made me less sea sick– until I found another boat.

Knowing that, I’ll become a better sailor.

#FoolForward

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Ruthless Individuality: Success comes from knowing thyself

Read enough stories about successful individuals and one thing becomes incredibly obvious: There’s no freakin’ pattern.

All these people are wildly different, and not only is success measured differently in their respective fields but the actions they took to reach their goals isn’t anything repeatable.

They are a one time phenomenon of luck, opportunity, and individuality.

So the question then becomes: Who succeeds? What is it that determines if someone will reach what they set out for?

There’s a lot that goes into it, more than I care to cover but the one thing that stands out as the ultimate pre-requisite for any level of success is authenticity.

I don’t mean you telling everyone what the hell you think and why it matters… it doesn’t. What we’re talking about here is knowing what you are, and choosing goals from within to match– we’re talking about being under-influenced from the outside world.

The more you follow these gurus, entrepreneurs, and digital poser teachers, the further you move away from your own path.

It’s near impossible to not stray today.

We’re constantly being distracted and our minds are being fought for. They want to tell you what to believe, what to pursue, what’s right or wrong and why you need to care.

All useless garbage.

For you to “succeed” in any meaningful way, you’ve got to be an individual and the only way to do that is explore yourself– and ruthlessly guard your own independence.

You might have dreamed up a career in movie directing– put that idea, and every other idea under scrutiny. Are you built for that?

What’s your nature like? If you’re impatient, fast, far more focused on production and scheduling rather than quality, perhaps a different role would better suit you.

I’m not telling you to quit on your dreams, just to make sure they’re truly yours.

You’d be surprised how much of your truth isn’t.

From everything I’ve learned so far, I’ve come to realize one thing. No matter what it is you want, you’ll only succeed if you can truly stand alone and be yourself.

Don’t sacrifice your own godhood to worship another’s. We’re equal in this, each with a unique path to uncover.

#OnlyFools

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The Easiest Way To Achieve Your Dreams: Wake Up

Why is it that the more we build something up in our minds, the farther away we move from it?

We’re all masters of illusion.

We convince ourselves of what we want, who we are, where we’ll go and why we’re here. Everything in our lives is a result of some myth we play in the back of our mind, while we autopilot our way through our environment.

Years go by like this, we’ve got that dream…some desire, it’s always been there and it’s completely unchanged.

It’s the “meaning” in your otherwise meaninglessness.

And yet… it isn’t real.

The reason most people never reach their dreams is because they try to dream their way to achievement.

The more I wanted something, the harder it became to start. I was less practical and having built the thing up in my mind, I felt overwhelmed by it– which ended with my failure to launch.

You have to wake up.

The only way to build a life for yourself that you measure a success, is to be ruthlessly practical.

The smallest advancements came from me “waking up.”

Being honest with myself, seeing my actual faults and where I needed work is what led me to starting a suitable career and finally making progress in my life.

Dreams take you back, reality launches you forward.

In reality, you might not be suitable for the things you’re chasing. I used to think I wanted to be a movie director… the idea just lived in my head without me ever doing it, learning about, or practicing it.

Not only did it not suit me at all (being impulsive, short tempered, quick, production oriented, results driven, and never caring about art in my life) but I didn’t even like it.

I just had it in my head, and never scrutinized the idea itself.

When I go back to dreaming about the rockstar life, because I still do– I just remind myself all the things my dreams got me.

Unemployed, depressed, isolated, skill-less, and broke.

And then without fail, I return to practicality which has always helped me achieve– BECAUSE it’s real!

If you want progress and a life of fulfillment, stop chasing happiness.

What are you inclined for? What are you naturally good at? What type of intelligence do you possess?

Take that and start exploring niches you might be interest in, and start there.

The process of achievement is really the process of waking up, and I never really put this together until my typing it right here– but that’s why I’m so against those spiritual practices surrounding goal setting.

Because for me personally, they’ve only moved me away from my goals.

Take inventory of yourself.

Figure out what you’re like, and find where that’ll suit you.

#FoolForward

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Avoid Quitting Cold and Starting Over: How to move on

It’s hard to not look over.

We’re designed to measure ourselves in comparison, being social animals– and social media thrives on this little quirk in human nature.

It’s also the key ingredient to drive yourself f**king miserable.

You’re on your journey, but then you see success everywhere around you and instantly feel like a failure in contrast.

They’ve got the house, the cars, the internet following, and they’re seemingly tougher and more capable… how wouldn’t that arouse envy?

The irony is, the more you look at them and get distracted– the farther away you move from your own success.

Your life is single player.

We’re supposed to discover ourselves, but we’ve become so impatient we want a book to tell us how to do it, and fast.

During moments of weakness, when we’re exhausted and running low on hope, we imagine a great re-set. We instantly become drawn to the idea of quitting and doing something entirely new…

…a huge mistake.

If you’re going to move on, you need to take what you’ve already got (skills you’ve developed) and stack them/ combine them with something new.

What if, instead of asking: what should I do next? The question became: Where can I take these skills to further develop myself?

Every time we quit and join an entirely new industry, we start over. That in and of itself is a bad idea, because the truth is we don’t have all that much time.

You’re more likely to create what you’re looking for by skill-stacking, then starting over.

Right now, I’m a copywriter. Rather than pivoting from writing copy to something unrelated, I’d take my current skill and add another skill while still developing this one, and that skill would also be something I’m inclined for.

Success and fulfillment come from progress, and progress is skill-stacking and building.

Rather than starting over, just move forward.

#FoolForward

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It’s Right In Front of You…

Speaking your goals into existence may or may not be a thing, but we are definitely social creatures– and social contracts hold us accountable.

That said, here’s what I’m doing.

Since goal-setting always leaves a nasty aftertaste in my mouth, I’m going with the Scott Adams Systems over Goals method.

I’m not putting off living until I reach some end, that’s Uber-Dumb. If we can’t enjoy the journey itself it’s all pointless anyway, and I haven’t been enjoying the journey thus far on my way to imaginary achievement.

What would make this journey enjoyable? Create that, and forget the end.

For me, it’s adding challenges and competition while working with individuals I admire, who are intelligent and capable. It’s progressing– that’s a value I need to live out for me to be fulfilled.

Your environment needs to suit you.

I can’t pretend away the fact that I’m highly competitive, ambitious, selfish and hard-headed. Being in soft atmospheres will never work… that and if you’re not using your natural skills each day, you’ll end up feeling disconnected from who you are.

In the end, we’re not looking for goals…

…we’re looking for ourselves.

It’s all right in front of you. There is no place you need to go, you just need to start changing your environment little by little, and eventually it’ll reflect you– and you’ll find yourself far more fulfilled.

Adding Muay Thai to my daily routine has greatly improved by quality of life– I’m naturally restless, energetic, and aggressive, so having this outlet has been near spiritual as far as meaningful connections go.

With that one added activity, other areas in my life are now under scrutiny.

I no longer care to find some calling, purposeful destiny, or whatever. I’m going to build my environment to suit my nature– and with that, I’ll have the exact life that I find fulfilling.

There’s nothing for you to find, all you need to do is start where you are.

Build a system… do so right here.

It’s all right in front of you.

#FoolAround

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Suffering With Desire: Always wanting Never having

Good ol’ ambition.

The thing that makes the world go round- only better, more efficiently, and while innovating every step of the way.

I’ve always had a conflicting relationship with goals. On the one hand, I can’t be me without ambition (that’s not healthy? I don’t care). But on the other, I don’t want to constantly be in a dissatisfied state of lack due to my constant awareness of not yet having what I’m chasing.

Finally, after coming across a successful individual’s system– I found a happy medium.

ONE DESIRE at a time.

It sounds simple, but we’re all too often swept up with momentum. Launch a blog, reach a 1000 subscribers and naturally the goal moves beyond you as soon as you reach the previous one.

We’re always running on a treadmill.

It’s not necessarily all bad, you just have to keep the right perspective. Which to me, is understanding you’re already doing everything you love.

You’re extremely LUCKY.

And as much as you want all the other things to come, they are extra.

We have to find ways to enjoy the daily journey, the side quests of our lives because life is comprised of mostly that. If you’re constantly retreating into your mind, fleeing the present– you’ll never be happy and fulfilled.

Not because life sucks, but because you suck at it.

We have to train ourselves to be in this moment, to embrace, to not want anything to be different.

Sure, we’re moving towards more… but at the same time we’re fully engaged here and now.

This post is especially for myself, because I used to live for tomorrow which is imaginary…….the irony.

Rather than suffering through imagination, engage with your life right now.

#FoolForward

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Authenticity Erases Competition

Hey Fool.

This is by no means an original idea or concept, but in our constant-comparing world it’s helpful to keep in mind.

It’s All Eyes On Everyone.

That’d be a good title for our generation. We’re all watching each other, and without even being aware– destiny stealing.

The reason most won’t succeed isn’t not being capable, it’s not ever being themselves.

Authenticity is what creates success.

If we just focused on our own stories, on developing our own interests– without being influenced by others or “inspired” (copying everyone), we’d have a much quicker path to our own destinies…..

….and it’d be more fulfilling.

You come with natural inclinations/skills– and yet we LEAVE those behind to go do what some “successful person” told us to.

It’s beyond dumb, it’s desperate.

Fact is, you can’t succeed copying. Success requires pure authenticity– whether you’re an artist, entrepreneur, or whatever.

You’ll only ever make it going your way. Read enough biographies of successful people and that’s the only commonality you’ll find– they trusted and followed themselves.

There’s no other rules.

No gurus to follow.

Just follow yourself– stack your unique skills and leverage them.

#FoolSpeedAhead

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Why It’s so f**king Boring?

It can be hard out here.

Some of you are battling insecurities, imposter syndrome, mental illnesses, spouses, internal conflicts, REAL problems…. but me?

Boredom.

Before you write this off as nothing (even though it is) understand our recurring battles are serious for each of us.

No matter what I do, I’m bored with it shortly after. I won’t say this applies to everything, because there are things that keep me generally engaged– such as muay thai……. and so far, just that.

I create a lot of problems trying to solve for boredom, but what I’ve learned is sometimes life is supposed to be boring.

The gardening phase, as my friend called it.

I hate plants.

Anyways, If you and I share the enemy of my enemy… whatever that bullshit quote is, if you struggle with boredom– you need to LEAN IN more.

I know, counterintuitive.

But you and I, we can’t keep chasing rainbows, otherwise we’ll always be broke looking for someone else’s pot of gold.

Why are we bored?

Because we’re smart motherf**kers. Well, I’d like to think so.

We’re bored because we’re not challenged, and we’re not challenged because we’re practicing mental infidelity.

Like when your buddy’s strict wife says its cheating to have thoughts of another woman. I’m always having thoughts of a more exciting life.

So the key here, inject fun into where you are now.

This is what I’m practicing.

No more running around– I’m here.

How can I make the most of this marriage, so to speak?

I’ll let you know.

#FoolForward

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It’s all Fiction, might as well rewrite it

The more I engage with my life, the better I understand detachment.

I don’t mean not giving a shit about anything, being cold & distant, and identifying myself as an “observer” of the world… that’s lame, and a supreme waste of life.

I mean it doesn’t matter in the way you think it does, but you still need to care.

We dropped into this world as what we are. Sure–we need better mindsets, we can constantly learn and grow, and we shouldn’t accept our weaknesses as something we’re stuck with.

But you didn’t design your character, not the thing that drives that meat suit of yours, not the consciousness that powers the human being.

Why TF does any of this matter?

If you can see what’s going on, you can play for real. You can finally stop losing.

While philosophers argue the meaning of life, and churches spread the word of God, and agnostics share their unasked for theories– it goes on with or without all of us.

Life goes on.

We’re careful about the wrong things– you don’t have much to lose. Back to that earlier point, we drop into this world as already somethings– well, we also share some habitual responses.

Fear of failure, shame, death, etc.

You’ve likely got a version of this.

But you’re looking at it wrong. Most people, they don’t see you. Even when they’re looking at you, they’re not thinking about you. But you have it in your head that they care– and before long, we now consider the tribe before we make a move…….

…..that’s stupid.

But it’s human.

A lot of what stops us from truly living is fear. Either of failure, shame, or whatever else. We think we’re not good enough, not because we’ve never done it– but because you don’t know yourself.

If you knew how capable you were, you’d sound annoyingly confident.

Self-awareness is important here, but life is too short to live embarrassed.

So, what’s the point of this entire rambling post? No one knows what they’re doing, we’re all faking it through life– SO PLAY DIFFERENT.

Make the most of who you are, by showing up as who you admire. Who cares if it feels weird or inauthentic, after a while– it becomes you.

The sum total of our lives is the little experiences.

Quit worrying about the stars and move different.

Move like someone you admire and respect and watch the game of life change around you.

#FoolON

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When Is It Real?

You know, as cheap as it can be to want glory, fame, and fortune… it’s far too easy to talk yourself out of your dreams too.

How can you differentiate false desires from real?

Taste them.

When you try something that you are genetically wired for, you’ll feel more like yourself. You’ll feel connected to a deeper part of you– because in a way, by doing that thing you become more you.

Life feels soulless, passionless, empty without the things that ignite us. You didn’t choose these subjects, they’re inherited.

That right there is your answer? Feel empty? Lost? Then you have yet to interact with it.

I’ve spent years trying to rationalize why some things are best avoided, thinking they’d bring me ruin maybe a part of me was even afraid of what I might become.

Only to later get a taste, incidentally and years afterwards– then immediately I’m transported back to who I was, wanting the things I always have.

What you truly admire, is who you are.

You need to cultivate that, bring to the surface, embody it and LIVE IT!

The truth is, I can’t be me until I realize this life and it’s the same for you.

So, how do we start?

Get quiet.

AND write. Who is living your ideal life? What about that life appeals to you? What have you always been drawn to, since youth? What has been a constant desire?

Be real.

Make sure it isn’t a false desire, but something that you came up without uninfluenced by the world.

Start here.

Get Clear.

#FoolsGold

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