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I’m two months shy of one year– that’s the length of time for me to finally embrace BEing present. I used to gag every time I heard a successful person give advice like, “whatever your present role, do it all the way.”

..and without making myself throw up here, I’ll tell you it did change everything.

That’s right. You have to be a fool to be a master, and I was a real fool.

A lot of us play side characters in our own movies. Some just go through the motions, blend into the backgrounds, they’re too afraid to take risks or stand out.

Somehow, they’ve forgotten it’s their movie. Each of us stars as the main character in our own play– and I refuse to be cautious and careful in mine.

My goals have definitely shifted since leaning into life. I went from needing a purpose, to writing my own. From looking for passion, to committing to skill.

I left “ideally” and became practical.

It doesn’t matter where you are, that was the realization I desperately needed. It matters who you are, and that’s a choice. You can play the game however you like– you can be so much more than you are.

Taking this serious is pathetic. It’s a waste of life.

Sometimes I fall back into it, but at least now I catch myself and quickly pull out.

Wherever you are, BE there. Be present.

Stop day-and-night dreaming away your life. That’s the real reason we suffer, that’s why a lot of people are miserable.

They hate their roles, in their movies… and they forgot they could rewrite all of it.

Imagine being able to write your own script, but choosing to play as an extra?!!

You need to let go of all of that.

I’m not saying don’t go after goals, far from it. I’m saying upgrade that character first. Become the person, who lives that life you crave and you will naturally achieve it.

So, who is that person?

How do they think, act, and feel? How do they approach life, what do they believe?

Start there— and bring this into the world.

Comparison isn’t just the thief of joy, it’s the thief of sight.

As soon as you start thinking about what you want and don’t have– you undermine your own progress and give it up for more desire.

But you should want more– that’s how you pursue and reach your potential.

So, the question is how do we keep perspective while striving towards the ideal? Since your brain is wired to compare, all you have to do is shift its direction.

Only compare yourself to who you were yesterday.

This simple reframe will give you what you need to keep going. Rather than looking at others, when I compare current me to last years version… they might as well be different people.

Not so surprisingly, saying that fills me with gratitude.

You want to get better? Here’s an awesome and helpful realization, personal growth doesn’t come through addition, but rather subtraction.

It’s not about what COULD YOU DO, it’s about WHAT SHOULDN’T YOU DO.

Don’t do things you don’t admire/ value/ like.

The inner conflict you struggle with evaporates as soon as you honor your own values.

Don’t like watching TV and wasting time? Don’t do it anymore. Don’t do it, despite how hard it feels when you’re wiped out and just crave recovery– find a better substitute.

Transformation isn’t all or nothing, it’s compounding.

It’s a day to day, monthly battle.

From now on, I’m committing to the journey and the discovery of pushing my limits. I want to see just who I can become when I embrace and incorporate challenges into my life. This used to mean risk, but now it means doing the task before me FULLY.

Wanna evolve? What can you stop doing that you hate?

How do you make a choice when you’re faced with picking between two things you may really like– but can only have one? Do you default to the thing that’s more fun, or what you’re curious to learn?

They’re not always the same.

Some of the activities I deeply enjoy, I have no curiosity to learn. In my work, I really enjoy directing– it’s creative, active, fast paced, and all around a highly engaging task.

That said, I don’t study or practice the skill and I’m not interested in learning more about it. It’s hobby level– love doing it, but can’t see myself going all in on it (mainly because there are major aspects to it that don’t suit my character– compromising with others).

It’s okay to have hobbies.

Not everything has to be a career, or something you go all in on. We’re allowed to have different things in our lives, and this is a lesson I took from my Muay Thai gym.

There are many different types of martial artists, but you can categorize all of them into the following groups: Specialists and Generalists.

Specialists prefer mastering one style, for years and years.

Generalists mix and match, and most likely take the kitchen sink approach.

There isn’t a right or wrong way, it just comes down to what you’re like. They say fighting is the ultimate self expression of the body, so you should choose based on what you value.

Do you have a curiosity for all?

Your work, career, and life is the same.

When it comes to things you want to do and learn– are you a generalist or specialist? Too many entrepreneurs take different stances on this, as if there is a right answer.

There isn’t.

No one can tell you how to do this– it’s simply you expressing yourself.

For me, It’s the specialist route. I can’t stand learning totally different styles, before having mastered one. The same goes for my work, my skills, and career.

I enjoy mastery, I enjoy going deep, not wide.

That’s me.

Whatever you do, let your values guide you.

#Foolon

Hey Fool.

Making the “right” choice can be hard, especially when you’re caught between things you love.

For example, with my muay thai training I really loved my first gym– but I prioritize skills, so I left to join a smaller but far more traditional facility. Upon joining, I instantly started to improve through the more personalized and expert training.

Instead of which do I love, the question became, “where will I learn the most?”

And this has already been a far better decision.

Looking at my life, everything improved when I prioritized my values. Every single time I made a decision solely off of emotions of desires, things turned out shitty.

Ruthless practicality has been my greatest tool for advancement.

We often struggle to make choices not because we don’t know what we want, but we don’t know what we value most and your values equal fulfillment.

Once you realize what your true values are and what enriches your life– all decisions become easy.

I value learning, improvement, mastery– and since I know these are top values for me, I choose this path over the path of variety.

The game we’re all playing is one of personal discovery.

You’re taking your character and trying to build an environment where you increase your chances of success.

We all dropped into this world as already-somethings. We didn’t create our uniqueness, we didn’t instill our core values, and yet we imagine we copy others?

Success comes through authenticity, so before making a decision– get clear on your values and choose wisely.

When we’re itching for change and want to throw it all up in the air, it’s easy to peak over at your friends and incorporate some of what they’re doing.

But you don’t have those options.

No matter how similar you are to someone else, whether that be a guru, mentor, friend, or family member– your path is your own.

We’ve lost self-discovery, mostly thanks to social media.

What would otherwise happen in the dark, is now advertised.

You have to learn to love every part of your own journey. Even if it’s not what you prefer, which is the case for a lot of us, it is crucial.

Embracing every moment is what’ll lead you to living an incredible life. You opt out of fulfillment every time you compare yourself to others.

Within you, there is a better self (higher self, soul, whatever you want to call it).

We have the ability to mold our character into more than we are, but that only happens when we get to know who we are.

Learn to see your life for what it is, a movie, played by you. If you don’t like the character ark or the story’s development– change it.

The best realization you can have is that everything, every single thing in your life is in your hands.

Who cares about what you can’t control. Don’t bother thinking about that.

The things you can change are all that matter.

Stay focused on your movie.

Ask yourself: How can I play in a way I admire? What would make this story more interesting?

And then, incorporate a little of that each day into your life.

At any given moment, the story can change.

#Playlife