I used to spend a lot of time trying to change my negative traits.
How much of it was changeable? Could I completely eradicate my own weaknesses? Don’t get me wrong, I loved who I was and how I was, I just needed a few key traits edited to reach my aspirational “perfect self.”
But as I grew older I realized this approach not only doesn’t work, it leads to self-rejection. It creates a pattern of dissatisfaction and fragmentation from the self.
Nothing about who we are changes.
All perceived change is completely surface level, and meaningless when it comes to true character.
Sure, you can change what you think, your attitude (which is huge), and even your values– but the quirks unique to you are yours, and there’s no reason to waste time wishing them away.
Now comes the point of this post, your flaws, quirks, unique traits– are the keys to success.
Instead of changing things you can’t control, find an environment to hone them and leverage them.
A lot of what we don’t like about ourselves or maybe don’t even think about, is the key to finding fulfillment.
Your uniqueness is not only who you are, it’s what you bring– and that includes what you think are flaws.
From since I can remember, I was always hyper-sensitive to environments. A trait with seemingly no up-side, but this eventually led me to study psychology and human beings– wanting to know why I felt the things I felt, and that broadened my perception.
That initial step is what led me to finding the role I have now and what has since guided me in pursuing a fulfilling path.
Your role here isn’t to reject yourself, to dislike yourself or to judge yourself.
Your role is to find an environment where you thrive.
There is one out there for you, we’ve all got one.
If you can’t find it, create it.
#keepswimming
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