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How often do you talk to your twin?

I know, most of us don’t get along with family.

But you have to make peace with this one, because they’re conjoined with you at the brain– we’re talking about your twin. There’s the public YOU and the private YOU.

And even though twinzo’s private, they narrate every part of our stories.

So let’s talk about self-acceptance.

“Love thyself, accept your weirdness, your quirks make you who you are”– a lot of sweet nothings shoved down our brains in an attempt to convince us that theres nothing wrong with us.

meh.

As if settling automatically makes you love yourself.

See, your narrator won’t fall for what the public does, because unlike the public, they know everything about you, and they know when you lie.

I’m starting to see internal conflict as data, nothing personal, emotional, or negative. Where there is conflict, there is a need for resolution– and so, we should embrace all internal conflict.

It’s often subtle, and very hard to distinguish.

But you’ll know when there’s a problem with your twin.

For example– let’s say you’re doing everything you’re supposed to be doing. You have a career that’s solid, you’ve got hobbies you’re enjoying, and you’re steadily building your own project on the side.

Everything looks good– except, only you know, you’re miserable. Deep down, pissed off.

Instead of addressing it, you ignore it– because the realization that others who work harder than you have less fills you with massive guilt.

This creates a depressive spiral. And on-and-on it goes.

What creates this dissatisfaction?

And an even better question– who’s unhappy? You or your twin?

Sometimes you don’t want the same thing, and sometimes you do– it’s important to play for the same team if you’re going to get ahead.

Build a relationship with them.

My twin wants mastery, total submission to a skill, to be consumed by his own desire and direct that towards a singular purpose.

Me– I just want money and fame.

We clash over this every time. I just want to live a fun life, play, do cool shit– but twinster is intense, and needs much more.

Two people can’t drive one car, but they can agree on the destination.

Well, that’s what’s happening.

For the sake of keeping both parties happy, I’ve let go of some of my empty delusions to better my relationship with my twin.

I need him, and so, we’re working together.

Muay thai is for my twin. Writing is for my twin. When I’m alone and working– that’s for him. Because he has the intensity to focus.

When the time comes to step out and play– It’ll be me at the forefront.

Like it or not, we all have a twin.

So choose what you do wisely.

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If you’re one of those self improvement junkies, this’ll help you ease off the gas– what you’re doing is ultimately pointless.

Sure.

It might help, by a fraction of a fraction, to intermittent fast, cold shower, and meditate floating 3 inches above the ground having surrendered sugar, but understand that all of that is unnecessary if you don’t take action.

Action is the only requirement for success.

The universe plays no part in that equation, but the law of attraction is somehow still a better sell.

It’s weird how good we get at rationalizing. It’s easy to blame the wrong things in life, and then spend time trying to change them– to no avail.

Bedazzling a jewel on the center of your forehead won’t open that third eye, and those plugged up chakras can’t be helped.

There is no deserve, the affirmations aren’t needed, and you don’t have to feel good about what you’re doing. Might even be better to feel like shit– you’re a beginner, you’re supposed to feel incompetent.

We’re all looking way too into it.

You just have to act– even just a little, consistently, and then you’ll find yourself go from nothing to something.

Action makes us, not the other way around.

It’s weird realizing this, especially when you look around and see most people avoiding action– perpetually stuck in a state of getting ready to act.

Those that keep the same insane disciplines, succeed– and then repeat, they’re so tightly wound up they attribute all their success to cold showers and starvation.

Riiiiiight.

If that’s your thing have at it, but the reason some of these successful goo-roos want to live forever is because they don’t live at all.

“A well employed life brings a well employed death” -Da Vinci.

My point is this, don’t get all wound up preparing for success. Quit overthinking it.

It’s small action steps– for everything.

A better self, life, and career.

You don’t need anything else. Reading a gazillion books, buying nonstop courses, or searching for a mentor (might help but not necessary) all pointless.

Through action, we’re reborn.

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What are you saying– because the tongue goes where the mind is.

Pay attention to the things you say, to who you say them, how you say them.

Because like it or not, our word is our bond.

Our words reveal who we are and what we think of ourselves– that whole judge by the actions, sure it’s true but we’re not judging yet, we’re diagnosing…

…from tongue to mind.

So, what that mouth do?

Because only when you’re going off-script is when you’re really saying something, everything else is you blowing smoke.

You’ll notice the genre you talk about is always the same.

For some, it’s relationships, others ambitions, but it works the same– we show our values each time we communicate.

Why is this important?

If you want fulfillment you have to bridge the gap.

I was always ambitious– that’s a top value for me, but it took embarrassingly long to take action.

While I’d talk a big game, I had a hard time sticking– there was inner conflict.

That doesn’t change that the value is certainly ambition, but there was a mental block I had to work out.

There’s the point.

You know what you want– you talk about it all the time.

Even if you’re not specific, you know what’s important to you. The game you are playing is matching your internal world with your external.

Do that and you’ll have everything– fulfillment, success, awesomeness.

It starts with listening to what you say, then creating it. Don’t cheat yourself– because what you want is who you are.

We’re born to our desires.

Become authentic, create.

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There’s a dormant superpower in each of us, and while we may never be able to fly– this untapped potential allows us to rewrite many of the immutable laws that keep us stuck.

Let’s quickly talk about the game.

For most, it’s a 9-5. A family. Going from one thing to the next, sticking to a routine– a level of sameness.

We then find ourselves kinda floating– on autopilot, wondering why we’re unhappy.

“Familiarity breeds contempt.”

If you can’t change your world from the outside, try it from the in…

And this has been the most important realization. I can’t continue playing as this character, I need to upgrade.

I’m going to play this game different because it’s necessary. Because there is nothing that you can do, achieve, or have that suddenly makes life better.

You have to learn to love it. You have to practice life-ing. Fact is, most of us don’t know how to play this game.

We exist in it as background characters– our own movies, and we’re just going through the motions.

But passion isn’t something found– it’s brought, you have to bring it to the table. You have to bring that energy, that fire, that deep engagement.

Life is something created, but we waste time looking?

My challenge to you– try to imagine a better way to play. Whatever you come up with will be authentic and unique, because you came up with it.

What you imagine will be a reflection of what you need to bring out.

And let’s try to play as the main character.

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During our want-repreneurial phase, my best friend and I would often go to this same spot.

It was a park surrounded by ginormous mansions, where the further up you walked through it– the less it became a park and more a community.

Anyway, back in the day we’d come here and hash out our lives via shootin’ the shit. We’d talk about goals, dreams, wants and needs, and of course– present struggles.

If I’m being real, it was almost always struggles.

In the span of two years, we’ve gained nearly unrecognizable lives. So, I had the idea to go back to ol’ faithful– like reading an old journal that might embarrass you, and re-walk memory lane.

We get there and we’re immediately flooded with memories (like the childhood haircut variety)– reminders of the type of losers we were. This isn’t low self esteem talking, it’s just adolescence.

I honestly don’t understand what created that struggle and how I got stuck in that place?

If I had to make a guess– I’d say withdrawing from life led to an increasingly delusional mind.

I keep my journals, memories, and all my mistakes at the forefront of my mind. It isn’t to make me feel bad– it’s just data.

Anytime I withdraw from life and try to all-or-nothing my goals, I immediately shoot up on some depresso-espresso and become ultra delusional.

What created those shit years back then– was doing nothing.

Nothing is the worst thing you can do for yourself. I look back and laugh at the imbecile I was, we both were.

You’re not allowed to worry about goals and vision when you’re stuck. Your only job in that moment is to get to neutral.

Neutral is work. Progress. Daily movement.

It’s simple.

Life is momentum, and when we’re not moving– we drain our lives of lifeforce.

Keep your mistakes at the top of mind because then when you feel like slipping, you can stay strong and you won’t.

That’s why we all have a memory lane– it’s a benefit.

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I stopped caring about the outcome… now I’m free.

So, the thing that lifts misery is not giving a f**k.

Everything I ever did, considered, pondered, debated, and acted on– all of it was in the name of this vision I had for my life. I was Thanos-serious, even as a youngling. The irony is this vision sucked the joy from every moment—

Which explains the lameness, up until now.

I’m turning 27 soon, and ya boi is Benjamin Buttoning’ up his life. I’ve never been this fulfilled, and overall happy.

It’s not about settling– I’m after my goals, but I can honestly say how my life plays out doesn’t matter to me. The point is– I’m enjoying my movie.

I’m doing what I want to do, learning about and pursuing my interests, and pushing myself. My training is better than it’s ever been, my writing improving, and I’ve got a future I can see and build towards.

Outside of these things, I’m good. Nothing else is my business (not mine to worry about).

My life keeps getting better, because I’m getting better at playing.

If you’re reading this and your life is a booger bubble, here’s an ez-tip: Add one thing you enjoy or are genuinely curious about to your daily routine.

This will end up being that foundational habit– the one thing that kicks off everything. For me, it was muay thai.

I signed up on a whim since enough was enough, I always wanted to learn. Since then, it’s positively produced awesome outcomes in other areas.

You’re not too busy to start, starting is small.

Find the smallest step you can take towards an interest, and leap of faith it.

What have you always wanted to learn? The difference between those who piss away life and those who reach their dreams is starting. Do the smallest thing you can– start today.

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While dreams can inspire you– on their own, they are just…dreams.

The more you step away from reality and “dream” the more you’ll suffer. Any time I would think about my fantasy life– where I have everything I’ve ever wanted, and in this fiction world never deal with bullshit, I end up feeling depressed.

Unknowingly, I’m comparing my life to this unrealistic internal movie and the lack of resemblance makes me feel ungrateful for what I have.

On top of that, it creates this shitty habit where you’re always chasing a dream. And you keep creating new dreams (that you don’t really care about) to fantasize over.

These are cheap dreams (not goals, not rooted in reality, not attainable).

My minds default is to binge watch my own cheap dreams despite me knowing that fulfillment comes from WORK.

Not having 24/7 fun- having.

The spice of life isn’t experience or variety, it’s improvement.

It’s staying the course.

It’s seeing how good you can get.

And although I am often restless and sidestep passed happiness, fulfillment is something I’ve been familiarizing myself coincidentally.

Wanna live an actual awesome life? Dedicate yourself to living your life.

In our current time– there’s a lot of talk on reinvention. They say you can pick up these self-improving habits, tabula rasa yourself back to neutral and start from scratch, then emerge from your cocoon as this peak you…

But that’s not what reinvention is and that likely won’t happen.

Habits for the sake of improving are stupid. Number 1- they don’t address your specific issues, and 2– you won’t stick if you can’t make a lifestyle out of them.

Waste of time.

So, what’s reality planning?

Every goal you consider, needs to be based on where you are right now and where you can take that (your skills and personality) to maximize fulfillment.

I am restless, often struggle with commitment, and my imagination likes to take me through trips of fantasy.

These are default traits– and since they’ve f**ked up my life in the past, I know to anticipate them, plan for them, and even leverage them.

Success comes from authenticity. Authenticity comes from knowing yourself.

How can you channel imagination? This trait when acted on goals– ruins you. When leveraged through writing, makes you creative.

What you’re doing is taking a objective view of your strengths and weaknesses, and then building life around it.

I am who I am. That’s true for you too.

Pretending we can have some other persons goals doesn’t make any sense, since we’re likely very different.

That said, you can create a fulfilling life by working out your DNA and leveraging it.

Reality is more interesting than fantasy anyway, so lean in.

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The genre of our lives comes from the mood of our minds.

Matrix-y? Maybe.

But the truth is, the universe is indifferent. Whatever it is you’re seeing and experiencing, that’s not reality.

That’s your mood reflected back to you.

You know those fortune cookies? Your attitude determines your altitude, well… as lame as they are– it’s true.

You won’t do anything in life if you hate it.

Everything we have and everything we are will come from how we approach the world.

I was always ambitious, and yet for years nothing happened. Because deep down, I resisted my own life. I had a craving to retreat, to pull away, to disappear and be alone. That conflicted with my desires to achieve.

Inner conflict usually results in no movement.

I didn’t entirely resolve this either, but I started moving forward when I figured out how to fake it.

You don’t have to lie to the world, you just have to trick your mind.

You have to choose to be lighter, not take things so seriously, and free yourself up to new experiences.

We’re all writers, our lives are our scripts and we’re the main characters.

But we live as if someone wrote us a shitty script that we’re stuck with?

What can’t be edited?

Nothing.

If you don’t like where you are, how you’re living, or what you continually seem to struggle with– rewrite your script.

Life bends to our will.

That’s the secret.

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