While dreams can inspire you– on their own, they are just…dreams.
The more you step away from reality and “dream” the more you’ll suffer. Any time I would think about my fantasy life– where I have everything I’ve ever wanted, and in this fiction world never deal with bullshit, I end up feeling depressed.
Unknowingly, I’m comparing my life to this unrealistic internal movie and the lack of resemblance makes me feel ungrateful for what I have.
On top of that, it creates this shitty habit where you’re always chasing a dream. And you keep creating new dreams (that you don’t really care about) to fantasize over.
These are cheap dreams (not goals, not rooted in reality, not attainable).
My minds default is to binge watch my own cheap dreams despite me knowing that fulfillment comes from WORK.
Not having 24/7 fun- having.
The spice of life isn’t experience or variety, it’s improvement.
It’s staying the course.
It’s seeing how good you can get.
And although I am often restless and sidestep passed happiness, fulfillment is something I’ve been familiarizing myself coincidentally.
Wanna live an actual awesome life? Dedicate yourself to living your life.
In our current time– there’s a lot of talk on reinvention. They say you can pick up these self-improving habits, tabula rasa yourself back to neutral and start from scratch, then emerge from your cocoon as this peak you…
But that’s not what reinvention is and that likely won’t happen.
Habits for the sake of improving are stupid. Number 1- they don’t address your specific issues, and 2– you won’t stick if you can’t make a lifestyle out of them.
Waste of time.
So, what’s reality planning?
Every goal you consider, needs to be based on where you are right now and where you can take that (your skills and personality) to maximize fulfillment.
I am restless, often struggle with commitment, and my imagination likes to take me through trips of fantasy.
These are default traits– and since they’ve f**ked up my life in the past, I know to anticipate them, plan for them, and even leverage them.
Success comes from authenticity. Authenticity comes from knowing yourself.
How can you channel imagination? This trait when acted on goals– ruins you. When leveraged through writing, makes you creative.
What you’re doing is taking a objective view of your strengths and weaknesses, and then building life around it.
I am who I am. That’s true for you too.
Pretending we can have some other persons goals doesn’t make any sense, since we’re likely very different.
That said, you can create a fulfilling life by working out your DNA and leveraging it.
Reality is more interesting than fantasy anyway, so lean in.
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