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Isn’t it Ironic?

Published July 8, 2021 by V

Why is it that the more you want something, the less likely you are to have it? Well, desperation isn’t attractive to anyone… that, and making a big deal rarely helps individuals achieve.

I’ve made myself miserable with desire– always wanting more.

This was actually the majority of my life, I’d want this, then that, then onto the next. Always moving towards something grandiose, fantastical in nature, something to fly me out of the mundane.

The irony?

Wanting never led to more.

Yes, it pushes you to search, develop yourself, constantly try new things, but it keeps you dissatisfied with life, always empty, always craving, ungrateful.

My solution?

To cool down. I have friends who share my values, but not my personality. They’re far more chill, and being around them regulates my temperature.

This, and hobbies like muay thai and even writing.

I want to embrace my life– all we really have is today and a lot of us don’t have that, because we spit in the face of time by escaping it.

It’s ironic. Some of the best years of my life came when I completely let go of the search and just lived in the now. I wasn’t worried about creation, business, my plans, none of it.

I just played and enjoyed the moment, and thus created an awesome life.

So my new goal isn’t a goal, it’s a way of life.

Rather than drive myself insane with what I want, I’m leaning into the now and making the most of it. I’ll incorporate fun into everything I do, and still pursuing my goals… but that isn’t why I exist.

It’s just part of the journey.

Nothing more, nothing less.

Instead of dedicating your existence to pursuits, focus on living a helluva story by embracing every part of it.

#StayFoolish

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Your Unfair Advantage

Published July 5, 2021 by V

Today, in our social justice world– we’re all concerned with equity, equality, this, that, and the other thing.

But when we’re job-hunting without the aide of our “Greek translation bachelors degree” we naturally might wonder, what the hell should we do for a living?

There’s plenty of ways to approach this. Some will go the “top hits” route and do what others recommend.

This might look like you becoming a real estate agent, having never studied or looked into the markets, having ZERO interest, and being a complete novice when it comes to sales.

But you landed here, because it’s trendy right now.

This is the opposite of the unfair advantage, instead it’s the quickest way to live a mediocre ass life.

And it’s what most will do.

To be fair, you weren’t dealt the absolute best education. We’re all taught the importance of following the pack in order to survive…. but what happens when the pack doesn’t?

Solo dolo time.

Anyways, back to the point of this post.

We all have things we are inclined for, yet it never occurs to any of us to look into these. I’m not talking about passion, only skill. If you’re good at it, you should monetize it.

Fact is, everyone’s got something.

Well, this is the key to your success.

Where do you add massive value? What haven’t you been taught that you excel at? Why do others go to you?

These are the important questions, not what’s your star sign? Or soul’s mission?

A lot of us are buying into bullshit. You’re literally resorting to toddler level thinking from desperation, which is giving rise to scammers, gurus, and a bunch of vampiric parasites who will suck you dry and leave you worthless.

But you always have an alternative.

Take it from someone who survived that route, and successfully made a comeback– GET practical.

Seriously.

Come back down to earth and pay attention to the NOW.

What skills do I naturally have? Where do I get high returns for my efforts?

Figure out your unfair advantage, and go all in on that. This is what gives birth to purpose and meaning, which is what’ll help remedy depression. In the end, the only way to have a fulfilling life is NOT to law of attract it, it’s to BUILD IT.

Stop being so spiritual, and start being practical.

#FoolAround

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Around the Block & Back…with a New Bike

Published April 17, 2021 by V

What’s up fool,

How goes it?

It’s 3:30 in the morning right now and I can’t sleep because I’m too excited. I want to articulate this message as best as I can, but I’m having a hard time because I don’t fully understand it.

So I guess I’ll think out loud, and hopefully we can both work out the meaning.

For myself, it really started in my senior year of college- this is where I tasted what I wanted my life to be.

I didn’t know it at the time, but I was playing with the very fire I was made of: this was passion.

THEN I left.

Yeah, why? Because I was 18, cocky AF, and too full of myself to think the world didn’t bend to my will.

I left it all behind, initially it was to pursue that passion, but I got distracted, and I chased advertising.

You can only “fake it” so much. After a year and a half of “running on E” I returned, but I wasn’t the same. Having failed, in theory, I was accompanied by mania. I guess I didn’t realize that I was angry about what I’d done, or rather didn’t do. I cheated what I set out to do, with trendy ideas of success.

This left me with deep resentment, but as a hard-headed individual, I carried on.

I went through an aggressive trial phase- a sort of self apprenticeship, minus the learning. I spent time going through various “ideas” of what to do with my life- all of them grandiose and having nothing to do with what actually brought me joy.

I chased random “success” and so I never got it.

I did this for years, and in doing it, lost what made me come alive. I hit an all new low, and knew I needed to intervene. After years of sinking, I pulled myself out. I moved, made more bad decisions and hit an even lower low. #Lowrider

At this point, I started to wonder- is my superpower surviving underwater, because no matter how much I drowned- I couldn’t die.

For whatever reason, I never went out peacefully? Oh, I’m depressed? – Then read. Oh, I feel like shit? Then Play. I never stood still, movement became my answer.

This restlessness saved me.

At bottom, I returned again… jeez, how many times can you circle the same block? Idk. But here we go.

This time, it was barely different, but it was different enough.

I needed to write, I needed to understand why, what, and how- so I wrote. I had one rule- SHOW UP and write everyday.

And I did.

This dumb, small, seemingly insignifcant habit, led me to getting a career that suited me, which led me to refinding my passion from my youth, the one I tasted senior year.

It was always here and it was always this, but I kept biking around it, totally missing it.

Finally, after the 100th circle around, I saw it, and stopped there.

You know what you want, but you over-thought it, over-shot it, and overlook it regularly.

But it’s always there, waiting for you to pick it up.

Do what you have to, but don’t every stop moving.

#StayFoolish

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