Life is cyclical.
Before I became a writer, I crashed and burned.
Broke.
Directionless.
Left then returned.
All I had was a new story and that was enough to inspire a new life, that made me worthy enough to pull the sword from the stone— and pick up the pen.
Failure made me a writer.
What will failure make of me now?
Stop focusing on each step.
Failure is a rung on the ladder, use it to reach your destination.
-fool
Comments closedSelf concept is easily the most important thing in life. A solid identity and you’ll have better relationships, a fulfilling career, and that forever empty most people struggle with?
Not you.
Your life will feel meaningful— which, if you wondered what that feels like, think of a time where you desired nothing but the present moment you were living in.
Self concept is THE MEANING of our lives and most of us have one created entirely by accident.
Ours is a combination of things from parents, teachers, past experiences, etc. We have a bunch of voices in our minds, not our own, telling us what to do and who to be.
But If you decide to rewrite your story, you take back control over your life in that instant.
You didn’t make what you are. You need to sit honestly with it to understand it, reflect on it, get to know it by asking questions without judgement, looking at patterns in character, quirks you have, likes and dislikes.
And with an honest eye looking at what you’re like, YOU get to decide what it all means.
Decide why your character is here. What is their story? What is their life all about and what are they being called to do?
Then, do that.
-Fool
Comments closedWe’re quick to adopt successful peoples routines without question.
You hear about some millionaire sleeping for 3 hours then meditating for 2, it’s easier for your brain to accept that as an option of improvement.
….Because they’re successful, we assume whatever weird shit they did to get there must work, classic human thinking error.
The thing that taps talent and potential out of your own reserves isn’t the same from person to person.
I write between midnight and 4am. That’s my best writing, if I had say, I’d pick a time more “normal” but that’s when vampires write.
The point is this— if something works for you, do more of it. Don’t question it, don’t trade it to copy someone else, lean into your weird.
And drop off everything else.
-Fool
Comments closedEven the rebellious types, we’re all looking for some confirmation, a sign, something that assures us we’re going in the right direction.
It’s human nature, we want to know where we’re going but to get there, calls for surrender or faith.
How does one practice faith and why should they?
Your uneasiness comes from lack of purpose— you haven’t made sense of your story yet, and that causes you to thrash about looking for something greater, chasing one idea til another outshines it.
Never committing, always seeking.
Irony is, if you stuck to ONE thing, regardless of how you felt about it but you saw it through, you’d fulfill more of what you dream about than that perfect idea you’re hoping to find.
Purpose is something YOU write.
YOU decide it.
It’s intentional not accidental. The moment you CHOOSE your meaning and live it, life unfolds as a mirror to match your new reality.
So, pick your pill.
–Fool
Comments closedAsk most people what they want on any given day and they rattle off goals as vague as fortune teller readings.
The truth is, most people don’t have a clue what they’re after.
What we DO know is what we DON’T want.
Ask anyone what they’ll never do again, what they refuse to allow into their life, what they despise, and suddenly they’re as clear and specific as can be.
If you want to know whether you’re moving towards something special or capping your own talent, ask yourself are you making decisions based on fear or opportunity?
Open up dialogue with yourself by asking questions.
-Fool
Comments closedIf you could watch your character’s movie— you’d probably be sick of all the reruns that play during “new” seasons and episodes.
We revert to the same things in cycles.
We make the same kinds of mistakes.
For me it’s moving from place to thing to place, for you it may be entertaining a business that you never start, whatever it is, here’s the point:
This year, make new mistakes.
Go for something, be different, act different, BREAK your patterns.
For the next year, live differently.
-Fool
Comments closedYou’re looking for the right role, your role in the divine drama of life.
Compulsive seeking is motivated by running away from the boring and meaningless parts of existence.
We run to fill our emptiness with things and experiences but neither can fill the void.
It’s only when people feel they are living as actors in their divine drama of life, that they then lose the need to “seek” a better life because only individual purpose gives meaning to human life.
Everything else is illusion compared with that one thing, that your life is meaningful.
Most suffer from anxiety and depression because their life makes no sense. To overcome this, we must find a way to justify our own existence.
To stop running, connect to your purpose.
-fool
Comments closedEveryday you make seemingly harmless decisions– whether or not to clean your room, watch a movie, hangout with friends, study, exercise, etc.
Most of our lives are monotonous and our routine ends up driving the direction of our days.
But have you ever stopped and thought about where this leads? Sure. Most of it is insignificant, making your bed won’t teach you business skills— but it does teach you to switch drivers.
See, each time we’re faced with making a decision, we’re presented the opportunity of CHOOSING our driver.
You can default to the worthless feeling, internal child, who is eternally bold and can’t build anything because they can’t focus.
OR—
You can elect the overachiever, who will just do it, because it all needs to be done.
We all have these two drivers, which for the most part look and sound alike, but the results each can bring you are vastly different— an un-identical life.
Before YOU (the watcher of the two) decides what to do with your life, practice CHOOSING the overachiever.
This DRIVER will fill in the gap and help you get to the place where you can be effective.
-Fool
Comments closedYou don’t know how you did it… it’s almost like something from the outside possessed you, but in that moment, nothing could stop you.
Look back at your life, and you’ll have these moments.
Moments where you needed to make something happen, had no other way out, and so you did.
The only thing that separates you as an unstoppable high performer from you as a fearful insecure person, is attitude.
Embracing YOUR obstacles, facing the challenge, it’s just a choice you have to make.
Choose to accept your adventure, dungeons, dragons, and all, and you can tap into that same higher power again.
-fool
Comments closedFor as long as I can remember, I wanted to be more.
I didn’t know what more was, what it looked like, or even what it meant.
I just knew there was more to me, more to life, more to being in this world than the way I was— so I chased what I thought could be more.
I started with friends, then moved onto desire, then just moved around changing cities, I felt like more was plentiful, abundant, and easily available to me.
What I couldn’t know is which more was mine?
I ended up chasing the result of more and not the process. I didn’t really want success, I wanted the result of it.
I didn’t really want the things I was doing— I wanted the promise of changing my boring life that they could make.
I didn’t read books, I chose covers.
Living like that you start to lose contact with the world because the things that make life rich aren’t MORE of everything, they’re less of the best.
The best is what truly suits you— your truth.
Few friends but deep connections is more meaningful than thousands of strangers.
Being great at one thing over kinda decent at plenty is far more meaningful.
The rat race isn’t “working a job” –it’s chasing things you don’t give a shit about and ignoring the most important— connection.
Connect to your truth and live it.
This is the stability, the fulfillment, and the connection to the world you crave deep down.
Truth is just a way of being.
What are you really about? LIVE it.
-Fool
Comments closedWanna know the worst thing you can do when you’re looking for your next move?
Follow the advice of others.
It’s a strange phenomena but one that proves true every time.
When I went through my self discovery phase, I wasted the bulk of my time trying on advice from people who were “successful” because I thought their achievements could lead to mine.
Truth is, following others only leads you away from yourself.
DON’T LISTEN TO ANYONE.
Walk your own walk. If you’re lost, be lost, figure it out yourself.
Strangely enough, this is a far shorter path to the life you want than all the people who you think are helping you.
See what you do when you have no instructions.
-Fool
Comments closed“Whatever one has within oneself but does not live, grows against one”
If you aren’t happy with your life or don’t feel so great about yourself, it can be traced back to this gap.
The gap between what you present and what you actually do/are like when no ones watching.
If you look dramatically different on the inside from the out– this gap is huge, and you need to close it.
The only way to do that is by ACTING on the things you say you value/do/believe.
So, if you want real change. Make a list of what you value and then see how much of that you actually live– or go against by living how you currently are.
Start there, start doing things in accordance with what you admire and respect and DON’T try to rationalize it.
You don’t have a choice— either live these out or suffer in hell, stuck hating the poster of yourself you pretend to be.
-fool
Comments closedFools–
In searching for your truth, you’ll be tempted to listen to others, especially those who seemingly reached a destination you desire.
You have to reject this.
You have to rebel.
Most people are fragmented selves of themselves.
They’re not whole, so they feel unengaged, empty, sad, and they’re easier to influence.
To become whole, you need to let everything surface. I record video blogs to myself when in different mental states– this allows me to better see and understand what’s inside.
I recommend writing/ and video as best methods for doing this.
Shed light on pain to relieve it.
-Fool
Comments closedOn the one hand, I want to listen and learn from so many different people… but on the other, I know I can’t without being negatively influenced.
Even if the advice you’re listening to is good, it’s not YOU.
You need to sit in truth. You need to know what would make a compelling life and how YOU, being who you are– strengths, weaknesses, and character, how does that person achieve their desire?
We’re adaptable but not necessarily changeable.
Understanding the core of your character is how you can hack life and win.
When you listen to others, gurus/mentors, you risk ignoring your truth to adopt theirs. If they achieved what you’re genuinely after (meaning you were already pursuing that goal before you found them), then fine. Maybe hear what they have to say.
Otherwise the best thing to do is stop feeding your ad- vice, and make your own way.
-Fool
Comments closed“If you would stop, really stop, damning yourself, others, and unkind conditions, you would find it almost impossible to upset yourself emotionally — about anything. Yes, anything.” Albert Ellis
Recently, I’ve made the decision to pursue my skills/craft rather than goals. My focus is now on being the best that I can be in the field I’m in.
But as I’m diving in deeper, I find that most of it surrounds how we err in thinking. Our minds are unreliable, especially if left to their natural default settings.
And those settings are?
The reason you give away your power— every. single. day.
Each time you blame something (you are deciding to give that thing control and power over your life). Whether that’s empowering circumstances, others, or yourself.
Take the power back by choosing to accept that you are the reason for everything, and with that, you’re one decision away from an entirely different life.
-Fool
Comments closedWhen it comes to reaching the top— most billionaires will say they got really good at one thing and that’s how they did it.
Most of us wear too many hats, and if you can’t commit to a single hat or cap-less free flowing hair, you need to at least balance your physique.
Train the weaknesses that are stopping you from moving forward.
If you lack discipline, learn habit setting.
If you lack focus, learn how to sit and study.
Forget your strengths and train this way and you’ll naturally be able to use more of what you’re good at it to do more in life.
-Fool
Comments closedWhatever you do, do it well.
I used to give things the bare minimum effort and that created a weird habitual practice where I’d learn to get by doing this, but for everything.
After awhile— and years of channel skipping, not committing, you learn a major lesson.
Real pleasure, the kind people find fulfilling, that comes from commitment and commitment comes from choice.
What if for the next year, you cared? What if you gave the chapter you’re on, your ALL.
I bet most of your problems would magically disappear and the only thing standing would be you on top of a mountain of achievement.
Do it WELL.
-Fool
Comments closedYou wouldn’t throw the day away just because it suddenly rained so why do you expect the weather of your mind to be sunny with a chance of 24/7 shine?
It’s our own meanings and labels that decide things.
We suffer because we think we should– as sick as that sounds its true. And a lot of energy is wasted on emotional and unproductive thinking.
If I’m in a fall season, I’ll slow down and catch up on studying, reading, recharging— whatever.
What I’m never doing is being “down” that’s a choice.
If you want change, change for the better.
-Fool
Comments closedYeah, yeah– no one should want an easy life, I know that– so before you hit me with that, “you should hope to get stronger” quote or whatever bullshit, here’s what I mean by the title.
Most things are easy, we over complicate them by dragging them on with years of indecision and over thinking.
If you wanted as close a path as possible to the up and up, the straight line to whatever goal you’re after, make it about the activities not the achievement.
If you wanted to be a doctor, you wouldn’t buy that medical coat first and start waltzing around looking for patients to practice on. You’d first start where an actual doctor did, LEARNING.
Same for business, same for dreams, and same for your goals.
Stop all the motivation, you’re good. It’s irrelevant anyway.
Figure out what daily thing those people work on, and start doing that.
-Fool
Comments closedA lot of people dream too much— and that’s exactly how they derail their own lives.
It’s easy to get lost considering all your options and opportunities, theres a lot to choose from.
But the only way to change your life is to pick and stick to ONE.
And I have this problem.
The way I go about solving it is reminding myself how I’ve failed in the past chasing fantasy, I only consider my patterns before making decisions– and this has been the greatest tool for keeping me on the right path.
You need a way to be objective, rational, and to a certain degree, detached.
It’s with this view that you can think clearest and make the right decisions. And the best tool in my opinion? Don’t delete the history….
-Fool
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