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Why Personality Matters? Nature vs. Nurture

Published June 11, 2021 by V

I’m no expert.

But anytime I hear someone say, “You can do anything you set your mind to” I throw up a little.

Firstly, this is just straight up bad advice.

Obviously, you can’t.

And why would you want to? You’re most likely thinking to succeed, you’ll have to evolve and that’s right. But to succeed– you have to become who you are.

It’s weird to finally be able to see yourself, but when you do– you move towards success. I think the reason most people don’t succeed is they don’t pick the right goals.

If you don’t choose the right goals you’ll end up feeling empty due to a lack of fulfillment or lack the enthusiasm to stay motivated.

You’re picking the wrong type of goals if they are:

  • Not in line with your nature (your skills, interests, inclinations)
  • Aren’t exciting to you
  • Too big and overwhelming
  • Unrealistic

Pick a goal that you could see yourself striving for every day that is realistic. You won’t have any trouble staying motivated when your goal is closely connected to who you are.

#StayFoolish

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Unattractive Desperation: It’s never mutual

Published June 8, 2021 by V

Hey Fool.

I used to care too much, but then likened my relationship with life to a weirdo socially unintelligent person who never stops chasing people that don’t like them back– and now I’m letting go.

The ability to let go of control when one wants it most, this skill—is one of the most important skills anyone can develop. 

Pursuing happiness moves you away from it.

Trying to be less emotional, makes you even more emotional.

The desire for greater freedom is often what causes us to feel trapped. The need to find our passion prevents us from loving and accepting the present.

There seems to be some weird law of nature, but from what I’ve gathered– just like with dating, if you take your desperate ass to life, she’ll laugh at you awkwardly and move away.

You’ve got to be cool, and the only way to do that is to LET GO.

It’s simple, but hard AF.

I’m starting with stoicism.

In acknowledging we are limited and here for a very short time, it becomes easier to relinquish control, not because you feel powerless, but because you are powerful.

Because you decide to let go of things that are beyond your control.

You decide to accept that the only thing you have control over is your mind, everything else is not your problem, worry, or concern.

#FoolMEOnce

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CopyCat

Published May 7, 2021 by V

It took me a while to fully understand this, but now it’s clear. The reason you don’t have what you want is envy.

Maybe you’re aware of it, maybe not- but a lot of what we think we want for ourselves comes from seeing others have it.

The quickest way for me to return to ignorance, feel unhappy, and act recklessly is going on instagram. Seeing early-to mid 20 year olds never have to work a job and do insane things makes me feel like I’m wasting my life where I am.

It gives me the strongest urge to throw everything away, and go chase that.

I’ve struggled with this for a long time, because by nature, I’m grandiose.

BUT then, I pull back. I step away, delete the apps, and read the things that helped me get ahead in the first place.

I remind myself that the only progress I’ve ever made in life came from being practical and building my skills.

I’m not an influencer, and when I’m not fantasizing about living that Hollywood life, I already know I never wanted to be that person.

You get ahead, DOING you.

There isn’t another way. You have to follow your internal compass, know yourself fully- strengths and weaknesses, and develop skills you have an inclination for.

I got results doing this. I always have to remind myself this, because the urge to chase FAME and FORTUNE never disappears.

If I compare myself to these “stars of the youth” I easily fall short. But when I compare myself to who I was yesterday, goddammn I’m proud.

Because when I hit rock bottom, I did something about it. I never quit on myself. That was the ONE trait that got me unstuck.

The only thing you need is growth.

The willingness to burn in uncertainty. To stare at your faults and just say, “fuck it- it sucks, but I can get better.”

It’s corny, but that’s how you live a better life.

#StayFoolish

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Eyes Wide Open Shut

Published April 14, 2021 by V

Attitude is everything.

With the right mindset you can promote yourself, have any career you want, go and do whatever you want, and be who you actually admire.

Stepping into a playful mindset is all it takes to live a fulfilling life.

And this is somehow the hardest thing for all of us to do.

Why?

It takes letting go.

It’s almost stupid how easy it is. If you decided, for today, you’d let go of all the dumb things that rob you of joy and you just lived in the moment, you’d see exactly what I’m talking about.

Resilience is an attitude. Resourcefulness is an attitude. Success is an attitude.

That’s what they don’t teach us. Everyone is capable, but you won’t reach your goals hating yourself and the world. Drop the edgy and open your eyes.

The only thing you can control is how you show up, but lucky for you, it’s all that matters.

#StayFoolish

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