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Too often, we assume somethings wrong with us.

We should be happy, but instead you feel a tinge of resentment towards your own circle. It’s subtle.

Maybe now, you’re looking at recreational drugs, distractions with weekend getaways, casual sex with strangers, etc. You wanna fill the hole.

But we don’t ever think it’s just this level, you’ve reached its end and now you need to move on.

A lot of our desires disappear when we’re facing anything new. Throw yourself in uncharted territory and a lot of your own demons disappear too.

Theres no such thing as stuck.

You don’t have to be here.

Most of my problems are summed up by this– I stop progressing and I immediately feel all the bad shit that comes with it.

If you need to switch careers, do it. Move states, do it. Take on new hobbies, dew– it.

Life rewards momentum and punishes stillness.

Don’t overthink it.

If you feel off, it’s data– you need to change the scenery.

#FOOLON

I should never have free time.

A conversation with a friend finally simplified and made tangible my spiritual problem– I can’t be bored.

I do very stupid things out of restlessness, and those urges only ever pop up when I’m not engaged with my own work and life.

So, rather than follow the focus-preneurs who teach the art of tripling down on one thing, I’m going the opposite direction.

Multiple hats in a day.

I NEED variety.

It’s my only tether to the present.

My advice for you is this: Watch yourself. Study yourself. Observe like a scientist.

You have to understand what makes you do the things you do, you have to know your triggers– it’s the only way to get ahead.

I know given any extra time, my mind looks to push eject out of monotony and send me into some fantastical delusion.

AND That’s where pain and failure lives– divorced from reality.

You can’t wish away your wiring, but you can change the environment to reward it.

#FOOLFWD

It’s hard as shit for me to not grass-is-greener my life.

I know if I stay fully committed to the things in front of me, success is guaranteed– might not be what you imagined, but you’ll go far.

Reality usually finds you sitting on a park bench, and that’s where you realize:

I don’t have any real problems.

I’m lucky.

I get to pursue my dreams, goals, and aspirations.

I get to be dissatisfied and wanting more.

I preach attitude a lot, because with it you’ll create opportunity out of the mundane, and everything eventually becomes mundane.

This post is a reminder to self– that idea that something out there is more exciting is a false one. You bring the excitement with your approach. There is no place to go to and just randomly live a cocaine fueled choose your own adventure movie.

Also, I’m kinda starting to hate the concept of life being a movie, I’ll switch to game.

In a game, you play and need to level up.

In a movie, you need an exciting story…. and building isn’t.

The point here?

Whatever you have, you make more out of it by embracing it and leaning in– not looking over at others, or escaping.

How do you make what you have better?

#FOOLFWD

When you finally understand the unchangeable aspects of who you are– it’s laughable looking back at what you thought you could do.

First, let me start with this:

If you’re looking for something, (new career, move, friend groups, whatever) start with the process of elimination NOT addition.

What’s in your life right now, that if removed, would dramatically improve your everyday experiences?

The NON- successful negotiate what wasn’t up for debate and don’t the things that don’t matter.

There ought to be a book for this, fine… I’ll write it in the future.

For now, you have to understand your character is responsible for everything in your life. If your life is maximizing your character, you’ll win. If not, you’ll lose.

It sounds so simple you probably think you’re doing this.

But it has to account for everything, free of guilt. You are who you are, and you need to channel it into your every day.

I used to see myself as ultra adaptable. Smooth. Charming. An overall pleasure to be around. I’m not joking either, BUT journaling and documenting myself throughout the years, along with having real friends– has outlined my reality.

The truth is I’m aggressive, blunt, overly competitive, despise rules and procedures, put myself first, and think that I always have the best solutions.

So how the phuck did I think I could go and play industry games as a writer or producer?

I didn’t know myself enough.

But now, it’s a different story.

Since I have a cancel-able face, I’m building my OWN brand and multiple income streams. That’s the only real option for how the hell I am.

And this is your task.

Where would your character thrive?

What are things you do every single day, that are not being used? This is 🔑

It’s what you can’t help but do, that needs to be brought to the surface and built around.

Wanna succeed in every aspect? Embrace yourself, become your number 1 fan, and be ruthless with what you allow for your life.

#FOOLFWD

I get excited too easily.

That might not sound like a problem, but it’s influenced me in making unwise short term decisions.

I used to say yes to every opportunity just to get more juice out of every squeeze, then later, I’d wonder why I had the strongest urge to cut everything off.

In truth, I never cared about most things.

Not in a cool stoic way either.

More in a very irrational sense.

I don’t care about changing my mind in seconds, burning money for nothing, turning down work I just agreed to, and NOW I don’t care about showing/leading with my disagreeable nature.

There was a time I could play the game, but what kinda game is that?

Authenticity erases competition, so really– theres only one game, being you. Learning this has changed everything for how I choose to play and with who.

Our work shapes us.

You can hate it all you want, but that’s how it is. And mine has definitely shaped me– I’m very lucky. It’s brought out more of me to the surface, and yes, this is from me learning and developing myself too, but I’ve become WAY MORE OF WHAT I AM.

With that, I started taking on client work.

Realizing I want to explore and develop myself, I thought side hustling would produce nice cash flow and potentially my own agency. But through the client work I realized something else…

… No.

I don’t like it. And not only do I NEVER try to make it work, I divorce immediately.

What has turning down clients taught me?

Sometimes what you really love is just the idea, not the actual desire and that’s okay– but then don’t hold onto it knowing that.

I want to enjoy my life, every second.

I won’t work with individuals unlike me, and I mean that in the big picture sense. If you get hung up on details, fight with store employees, or waste your time yelling at someone to “make things right”— I never want anything to do with you.

That shit is disgusting to me.

And you do you, but in my life I’m ruthless with what I allow.

You should be too.

Lead your own life, #FOOLFWD

Life IS what you make it, but your mind isn’t a friend to you.

This is probably the best and most important way of thinking about the brain. When we overreact, or “grow” paranoid, it’s us allowing the mind to lead us— and the mind is a shitty leader.

“Instinct” has to be one of the worst excuses for not knowing why you do or don’t do some things.

We automatically trust our mind, and that’s a mistake.

I use mbti to overcome delusion, you can use whatever you want– the only catch is it has to work during the moment. Here’s what I mean:

I’m an entp.

And Ne (leader function of the brain) SUX.

Ne loves different– it likes it so much that even when my life is awesome it plays the internal movie of me moving to another state, partying, closing big money deals, and living my movie devoid of any buffering or commercial breaks.

Following Ne has only led to failure.

Because I need to BUILD to get ahead in life, which I’m doing, and every single time I’ve done that– I get ahead.

So, when I catch myself doing the, “I need to move” “I need excitement” “this aint living” — I remind myself:

Dipshit, that’s Ne overreacting again, don’t fall for it.

And I’m free of it in that moment. Even if the movie still plays it, it has no hold over me.

This is key for all of us.

You need a way to step outside of your minds hold. Understanding it and having clear cut terms is the best way I know how.

By knowing that it’s Ne playing me, and not me, I’m able to overcome it.

Understanding where your mind does this is key.

Don’t believe everything you feel, that’s the first step. Also– if personality types and psychology has more demand, I’ll explore that for you all here.

Til next time, #FOOLFWD

When you approach the sword unworthy, even if you’re tomorrows chosen one, you’ll fail to pull it from the stone— today.

I stay away from ginormous goals.

They’re empty, and yes I still want them.

–But I’m not there so moving towards them prematurely would throw away my progress.

You want the low hanging fruit, initially.

The thing I’m doing differently now is building where I am, as I am. If you lose connection with reality, you lose connection to success.

And anything not in reach is hard to create.

You already know what’s missing in your life– adding in that thing will be what makes the difference. I want fluidity, less anxiety and rushing, more play and skill.

That’s what I mean by unifying.

It’s like those times you could do a trick in a particular sport, you don’t know how you know to do it and when someone asks you to teach them– suddenly you forget to do it. But when you’re flowing– the body moves free of the mind.

That’s what I’m after.

Fluidity.

You may not have this, maybe for you it’s the mind and considering things first– we all lean one way or the other.

But becoming a unified individual is what will bring us fulfillment and individual power.

How do you do this?

Move towards the opposite direction.

Day by Day.

#FOOLFWD

Some of us are too good at limiting ourselves.

We use language like, “that’s not me” or “I can’t” —and I’m not one of those people who will tell you anything is possible.

That’s bullshit, and yeah– not everything is for everyone, that’s why you have to know thyself.

But when it comes to career, friends, important decision-making like where you live, that’s pretty simple.

Want to be your best self or your favorite?

Let me rephrase from where I stand: Phuck “best self”.

It isn’t real.

That’s the voice of childhood conditioning floating in your head, judging you and keeping you in mediocrity.

Play however you want to play, play as your favorite.

To me– this means NEVER allowing myself to feel bad over everyday stresses.

All of this is for nothing, we’re the ones who make it worth what it is. When I’m laying on my deathbed, I want to look back and see a full life. That’s my call, you chase what does it for you.

Get going, #FOOLFWD

I’m more myself than I’ve ever been, and that came from embracing what I’m in.

Hello MF.

I probably sound like a broken record player on this site, because every post is the same lesson repackaged.

The good news for you is– there is actually just one thing, that when done, improves every aspect of your life.

If you’re a reader, you know that thing is attitude.

Quick note: Be happy, is not an attitude. That’s cheap bumper sticker advice that doesn’t mean anything.

I mean attitude as in your daily approach to experiences.

Something happens to us when we decide to embrace it all. When we finally give up all the paranoid thinking and just lean into what we have.

The movie limitless comes to mind.

If you can manufacture excitement, and play throughout each moment, there is no way you don’t create opportunities out of thin air. It is a guaranteed law of the universe and I don’t mean that in a spiritual sense.

Dreams move us away from living.

It’s good to have dreams, but most people can’t balance them. I couldn’t… til recently.

Here’s where you start: Pretend this is all you have– seriously. Imagine that theres a giant invisible clock ticking above you (because there is) and let that inform how you respond to situations.

In the face of death, nothing matters.

Your dream life is right in front of you– but you have to go all out to reach it.

Trick yourself, fake excitement, don’t lose your inner child.

These are the things that make it all worth it.

chat soon, #FOOLFWD

If you come with a bag of issues and no resolution in sight, you’re probably a writer.

At the very least, you have the potential to be one of the greats.

And theres the problem with writing, for me…

… my issues aren’t as real.

I don’t have deep sadness from the worlds suffering, I’m not unhappy with myself, I’m also lacking in butt power (the ability to sit for long periods of time in order to connect with your work on some weirdly spiritual level).

I am none of these things.

Writing is just play, so rather than try to make myself into one of you artists, I’m carving it out to suit myself.

I like scripts, I’ll lead with that.

I like bold, snappy, and quick content (long form is boring).

A lot of us feel guilt for not belonging, don’t. Your task is to uncover your own unique lane and you can’t do that when you’re following the paths of others.

Why’d I make this post and how the hell does it help you?

Don’t stay on one thing if it’s missing something. Only you’ll know when it’s time to either add something new, subtract the old, or adapt the approach.

Change as needed.

Til next time, stay moving.

#FOOLFWD

Look, we’ll all have to do things we might not completely love– but no one has to hate anything.

There is a way to avoid misery on your journey to fulfillment.

And this hack is dependent on you knowing what makes you tick.

But first an example: During my high school years I learned that not only was I excellent with groups, but that was what fulfilled me (collabing, creating, building together, etc.). I became a better me around my own team. When you understand psychology and personality types, you learn nature plays a big role in what fulfills us.

If you’re high extrovert— WITHDRAWING to go build on your own is the dumbest move possible!

But thats what I did, and so I fell from grace.

After enough self analysis and understanding, I’ve since changed my approach to suit me, and surprise-surprise, life is phucking awesome again!

This is the ultimate success hack. This is all you need to know.

Fulfilled by helping others? Put yourself in those environments first, then worry about what and how you’ll do as a career.

The nature part comes first.

Success follows us leveraging our DNA.

Everything I build will be based on my strengths– and if you want to win, but more importantly enjoy your life, you’ll need to do the same.

Til next time, #FOOLFWD

If you’re one of those rare individuals who feel the need to constantly throw yourself into various fires and build a stronger player— you should know something.

There is no self improvement practice, at least, not the ones where you do random habits or read a specific amount of books– and somehow unlock phoenix mode? No.

That’s not actually real.

Maybe it helps, but not in the ways you’d like.

Ironically, I’ve developed the most personally while maintaining the least habits, and while nearly reading next to nothing new.

Morning routine is essentially the gym and casually writing these posts. Reading is random, I do it when I feel like it. Diet, it’s just okay–

And yet I’m learning far more about my strengths and weaknesses and developing my character, how?

Through my work.

That’s the answer for all of us. Work develops us. Now, the catch is there has to be some connection to who you are. In my field, there certainly is.

But when I tried to deliberately improve, I oddly became more neurotic and isolated. When I embraced my craft and leaned into what I was doing, I started seeing results. The other day I wondered how I’d convey this idea to my younger self if given the chance…. and I don’t think I ever could.

That idiot was just too big headed.

You have to bump your head until the headache makes you stop.

Embracing your life is the answer. I treat my career like I wish I’d have went through my youth and school. Nothing matters, so play. Quit resisting everything, these little moments are what you’ll look back on in the end.

Improving is human nature.

It will fulfill you, give you more confidence, and make life far more engaging and interesting. But to do it, you have to shift your attitude towards the game.

What are you playing for?

Til next time, #FOOLFWD

Everything comes down to what you’re willing to give.

There is no real concept of imposter syndrome or deserving something. It’s just will you do what you need to– to accomplish the thing.

The things that used to work for me, won’t for the next level.

I recognize that, and so that’s what goes.

I don’t mind, actually theres relief that comes with that.

Most of us likely don’t want to repeat our lives— making the same mistakes and being hung up on the exact same problems.

You have to make a sacrifice and that’s of your own weaknesses.

The old goat.

I used to try to clever my way through things, sometimes at the expense of others. That will never work for where I’m going. I want a good reputation, one that promises authenticity and delivering excellent work.

Keep cleverness in the craft itself.

We’ll get hung up on things like whats next or where to? Those aren’t the questions we need answering.

What you’re looking for is: Who?

Who will you live life as? How will you live? Where do you spend time, what do you do?

Life follows the character, not the other way around.

Develop the character and life molds itself to match.

Focus on who you need to live as to have that dream life, and everything follows.

Til next time, #FOOLFWD