I used to think all conversations drained the crap out of me. Even with people I liked, we’d sit there, catch up, shoot the shit, and inevitably part ways.
After leaving, I’d notice I was always exhausted.
It was weird to me. As someone who’s highly energetic, how is it that these short-lived verbal exchanges defeated me so quickly?
Well, I’ve found the answer to that.
Regardless of liking the other speaker or not, the ideas we were talking about shared one pattern- they’re utterly fucking worthless.
Every time I talk to someone, and we start going down the “small-talk-rabbit-hole” I’m mentally wiped out.
You only have so much energy to give, and yeah, it’s selfish but no shit, it’s your life. You’re supposed to be selfish with your time.
That said, I can’t stand conversing about GARBAGE.
People talking about nothing.
Their pets, their drama, their misery, the list goes on.
When you offer a solution, it’s met with yeah but check out this other list of my shitty life.
I get it, your checklist stays unchecked.
You might say, that’s how relationships are– maybe yours. But I’m not accepting that low standard for connection.
See, what’s changed is I started making friends with individuals who share my values… and the curse seemed to be broken.
What magician-ery is this? Not only am I not tired, but I actually have more energy?
Well digital voyeur, it turns out when you’re around like-minded individuals you can walk away from conversations having learned something, having actually walked away better than when you first got in.
I never knew this side of communication.
I didn’t know relationships could be like this.
To me, it looked like most people lived in elevators with how fluent their small talk game was. I know, sounds like I’m judging hard.
But I’m not.
It just isn’t for me.
And I can tell you if you hate the people that only talk about philosophy or whatever the fuck… the point is if you’re drained from the people you’re around- LEAVE.
No one owes anyone anything.
It’s your life.
If you’re sitting there taking that ear-f**k for nothing, maybe you should start to ask why?
Your choice.
#FoolForward
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