Month: February 2023

The mind is a dangerous place, untethered.

It’s like those underwater cave divers, the real danger when you scuba dive there is losing your rope.

They have to hold onto a rope at all times just to keep a sense of direction, because without it, you lose your sense of up and down— and that’s how most drown.

The mind is similar.

Lose a routine. Lose contact with reality.

Daydream too much, overthink, over plan, and you’ll slowly lose oxygen…. until you hit bottom.

To stay tethered, you need to HOLD ON.

Keep your routines, keep with others, play, stay doing the unimportant hobbies. They do more for you than you know.

-fool

If choosing the right opportunity to pursue is something you struggle with, imagine which “thing” you can keep during the different roles of your life.

I always keep my writing, because tomorrow— me as a husband, father, leader, or whatever, can and very likely will, STILL write.

Whereas shooting videos and producing scripts…. that feels like a right here right now type of thing.

Changing the timeline we think in helps us make better decisions.

But it’s deeper than that too.

Our minds aren’t naturally wired to find solutions, they’re wired to avoid problems. Use this to your advantage by figuring out where things could go wrong, rather than right.

And then plan for those wrongs.

-Fool

The matrix is a cool concept but falls short imo.

That too cocky to say?

I prefer to see it less VR and more mythology.

You have a meat suit, your character.

This is your human.

Most people identify with their human, and that’s not wrong.

But you’re not just human.

You have a voice, something that whispers to you, something that knows things about you that you don’t.

Your God.

The Soul.

The Driver of that suit.

Always there, always watching.

If you’re really good, sometimes you can see it.

But If you’re great, you can team up with it— that’s what all the greats do. They talk to it enough til they can hear an answer back.

The day you and this being agree is the day you win the war of life.

Because when you have no more inner conflict, the world switches to easy mode.

-Fool

Taking time is a bullshit concept.

It’s one thing if you need the time to figure out your next move or recover, but allowing time to do the work of providing you missing answers… that’s dumb.

Time doesn’t work like that and neither does life.

If you NEED change or are desperate for different— pivot.

And do it fast.

Better to move around recklessly than stand still.

Movement can’t fail, ever.

It will always lead you somewhere, and something ALWAYS turns into something more.

But stand still long enough, and you’ll lose it all.

-Fool

What if you pass the age of 25,35,45… and still haven’t found the thing you want to do for the rest of your life?

Maybe, and not necessarily, but maybe your career isn’t your purpose— and if you understand this, you’ll free yourself after finishing this blog.

I’ve ALWAYS wanted my one and only since I can remember.

A dream role that I commit myself to for all of life, that inspires me, fills me with love, joy, human spirit, oh— and above everything, pulls me out of the banality of existence.

Intuitively, I was saving myself for this dream role. I’d chase opportunities and as soon as they failed to fill my internal purpose bucket (meaning I no longer loved them the same) I’d leave then repeat the search cycle.

Always starting, never following through.

But I realized as time went on, it wasn’t the dream job I was looking for.

I just didn’t want to feel empty.

I wanted to be connected to something more important than myself— and that thing is purpose.

You decide your purpose, and it can come from anything you choose, not just your career.

Most people who romanticize career don’t real give a shit about their jobs, it’s the purpose they get from the role itself that they find fulfilling.

Start with your purpose if you want to end the search and find your meaning.

-Fool

Life is cyclical.

Before I became a writer, I crashed and burned.

Broke.

Directionless.

Left then returned.

All I had was a new story and that was enough to inspire a new life, that made me worthy enough to pull the sword from the stone— and pick up the pen.

Failure made me a writer.

What will failure make of me now?

Stop focusing on each step.

Failure is a rung on the ladder, use it to reach your destination.

-fool

Self concept is easily the most important thing in life. A solid identity and you’ll have better relationships, a fulfilling career, and that forever empty most people struggle with?

Not you.

Your life will feel meaningful— which, if you wondered what that feels like, think of a time where you desired nothing but the present moment you were living in.

Self concept is THE MEANING of our lives and most of us have one created entirely by accident.

Ours is a combination of things from parents, teachers, past experiences, etc. We have a bunch of voices in our minds, not our own, telling us what to do and who to be.

But If you decide to rewrite your story, you take back control over your life in that instant.

You didn’t make what you are. You need to sit honestly with it to understand it, reflect on it, get to know it by asking questions without judgement, looking at patterns in character, quirks you have, likes and dislikes.

And with an honest eye looking at what you’re like, YOU get to decide what it all means.

Decide why your character is here. What is their story? What is their life all about and what are they being called to do?

Then, do that.

-Fool

We’re quick to adopt successful peoples routines without question.

You hear about some millionaire sleeping for 3 hours then meditating for 2, it’s easier for your brain to accept that as an option of improvement.

….Because they’re successful, we assume whatever weird shit they did to get there must work, classic human thinking error.

The thing that taps talent and potential out of your own reserves isn’t the same from person to person.

I write between midnight and 4am. That’s my best writing, if I had say, I’d pick a time more “normal” but that’s when vampires write.

The point is this— if something works for you, do more of it. Don’t question it, don’t trade it to copy someone else, lean into your weird.

And drop off everything else.

-Fool

Even the rebellious types, we’re all looking for some confirmation, a sign, something that assures us we’re going in the right direction.

It’s human nature, we want to know where we’re going but to get there, calls for surrender or faith.

How does one practice faith and why should they?

Your uneasiness comes from lack of purpose— you haven’t made sense of your story yet, and that causes you to thrash about looking for something greater, chasing one idea til another outshines it.

Never committing, always seeking.

Irony is, if you stuck to ONE thing, regardless of how you felt about it but you saw it through, you’d fulfill more of what you dream about than that perfect idea you’re hoping to find.

Purpose is something YOU write.

YOU decide it.

It’s intentional not accidental. The moment you CHOOSE your meaning and live it, life unfolds as a mirror to match your new reality.

So, pick your pill.

–Fool

Ask most people what they want on any given day and they rattle off goals as vague as fortune teller readings.

The truth is, most people don’t have a clue what they’re after.

What we DO know is what we DON’T want.

Ask anyone what they’ll never do again, what they refuse to allow into their life, what they despise, and suddenly they’re as clear and specific as can be.

If you want to know whether you’re moving towards something special or capping your own talent, ask yourself are you making decisions based on fear or opportunity?

Open up dialogue with yourself by asking questions.

-Fool

You’re looking for the right role, your role in the divine drama of life.

Compulsive seeking is motivated by running away from the boring and meaningless parts of existence.

We run to fill our emptiness with things and experiences but neither can fill the void.

It’s only when people feel they are living as actors in their divine drama of life, that they then lose the need to “seek” a better life because only individual purpose gives meaning to human life.

Everything else is illusion compared with that one thing, that your life is meaningful.

Most suffer from anxiety and depression because their life makes no sense. To overcome this, we must find a way to justify our own existence.

To stop running, connect to your purpose.

-fool

Everyday you make seemingly harmless decisions– whether or not to clean your room, watch a movie, hangout with friends, study, exercise, etc.

Most of our lives are monotonous and our routine ends up driving the direction of our days.

But have you ever stopped and thought about where this leads? Sure. Most of it is insignificant, making your bed won’t teach you business skills— but it does teach you to switch drivers.

See, each time we’re faced with making a decision, we’re presented the opportunity of CHOOSING our driver.

You can default to the worthless feeling, internal child, who is eternally bold and can’t build anything because they can’t focus.

OR—

You can elect the overachiever, who will just do it, because it all needs to be done.

We all have these two drivers, which for the most part look and sound alike, but the results each can bring you are vastly different— an un-identical life.

Before YOU (the watcher of the two) decides what to do with your life, practice CHOOSING the overachiever.

This DRIVER will fill in the gap and help you get to the place where you can be effective.

-Fool

You don’t know how you did it… it’s almost like something from the outside possessed you, but in that moment, nothing could stop you.

Look back at your life, and you’ll have these moments.

Moments where you needed to make something happen, had no other way out, and so you did.

The only thing that separates you as an unstoppable high performer from you as a fearful insecure person, is attitude.

Embracing YOUR obstacles, facing the challenge, it’s just a choice you have to make.

Choose to accept your adventure, dungeons, dragons, and all, and you can tap into that same higher power again.

-fool