Month: April 2021

How goes it fool?

You ever notice how different things are when you have a full day? Not just busy work, but actually working on engaging things?

Less isn’t more. Less sucks.

There’s a social experiment that I never forget. It was done on two families who were almost exactly the same. Family A, and Family B. They both made the same amount money, had the same amount of kids, were similar ages, etc. The study was tracking their experience of time. Family A would watch TV and chill after work and school, while Family B had a packed week– each day filled with after- school activities, family game night, sports, and meaningful projects.

Family A reported never having enough time, while Family B reported HAVING plenty of time. That’s weird. On top of that, Family A felt more dissatisfied with their work life, while Family B felt pleasantly involved.

What is this ass-backwards reality?

It’s reality.

I’ve seen it for myself. Regardless of what I was doing, the more I took on and embraced, the more fulfilling and involving my life became.

Don’t wait to find something better.

Don’t excuse away doing something later.

Do it all- now.

Do things after work, take on more projects, and involve yourself MORE.

What they don’t tell you is that’s the key to a better life.

#StayFoolish

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What’s happenin’ Fool,

I’ve got some #WisdomBeforeAge for ya.

The dumber I am, the more I succeed. It’s a weird law, but suck on that Mrs. Babcock!

“It’s all invented anyway, so we might as well invent a story or a framework of meaning that enhances our quality of life and the life of those around us.” -Ben & Roz Zander

We’re free to approach things any way we want, but we stay traditional. You’re not stuck and your problems aren’t solved binar-ily (not a word, but idgaf).

If you don’t like the box you’re in, go circle another box.

Okay, I’m done trying to sound smart. Here it is. When I stopped over-thinking could-I, should-I, and How— I began to succeed. Why? Because movement always leads somewhere, so act before you’re ready.

Just say yes to something you want to do that also scares you.

Say f**k it, and actually mean it.

Life isn’t water, it’s a hose. It’s got kinks, knots, and little holes with duct tape around it. It’s not very reliable, but hey, it’s your hose. Your only job is to find what to water.

Happy Gardening.

WTF? Why do you have boat in the title? Because I liked the reference and went for it, not everything needs to have a point. But fine, here… if you build a solid boat, you’ll never drown. Idk. #OnmyGuruShiiit

#StayFoolish

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Top of da mornin’ to ya Fool,

I feel like we’re on that level. We really know each other now, so I feel comfortable enough admitting I don’t know what the f**k I’m doing.

I’m wingin’ it as I go.

There is literally NO PLAN.

And yet, it just keeps coming. New opportunity after new, and I keep thriving– why? Because I’m qualified? HA!

I’m a lot of things, but resume friendly is not one of them.

The reason my life can now best be defined by the phrase “awesome-possum” is because I SHOW UP.

It’s my movie, so I camera-roll with it. #poet

Who are you looking to? Why do you wanna be saved from your own life? If you don’t like how you’re playing the game, show up different.

Play as a different character.

Almost as if by accident, I started succeeding because I quit resisting obstacles. If I burn, I burn. When I let go of my idea of what a good life would be, I finally got it. It’s the strangest occurrence and I don’t understand it at all.

The hardest thing for me was letting go and after repeated failures, a multitude of ego-deaths (with the core in-tact), and a new found acceptance for the life I had, I tripped into it.

I’m playing, because I want to play.

If you want a good life- stay playful. How you respond to life is entirely up to you, but being playful makes us more creative, better problem solvers, smooth as silk in social environments, and gifts an overall fun life.

I double-dog-dare you. Try it. If only for a week… do it.

#StayFoolish

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What’s happening Fool,

Excuse me for talking with my mouth full.

I’m living my life like a movie and my advice to you is to do the exact same. If you’re not writing your script, who the hell is?

Opportunity is covering me like sweat after a workout, and it’s all because I stay saying “YES.”

Why are we afraid to bite off more than we can chew, how else do you think you’ll learn?

I stumbled onto the fast track, and I’m trying to figure out what I can reveal here with you all, without actually revealing it.

I’ll keep it brief and share just a snippet of what the hell I’m talking about.

Basically, in a matter of months, I’ve climbed and slid right into a role I’ve always dreamed of.

For awhile, I tried to convince myself this career wasn’t for me. I thought the politics of it were exhausting, there’s more out there, I deserve something bigger, etc. etc, bullshit, bullshit.

You know how it goes. A lot of us know and have always known exactly what we want, but we try and talk ourselves out of it.

Don’t.

Quit wondering why you enjoy what you do. Stop questioning.

Just play with your life. Act boldly, be ignorant- ignorant enough to be willing to fail spectacularly.

I threw myself in front of others, I refuse to be shy about it. I’m willing to look like the dumbest motherf**ker anyones ever come across, because on my deathbed, I’ll be able to say I went for it.

Who cares if it all plays out exactly how you want.

Who gives a shit.

You get to play and instead you’re wasting life living serious.

No opportunity ever presented itself to the miserable person, know why? Because they thought it was a scam.

You have to play to attract it all. You have to live to fully thrive.

Write yourself into a role you enjoy playing, and remember, it only works if you #StayFoolish.

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What’s up Fool,

Are you familiar with the KISS acronym (keep it simple, stupid)?

If you’re looking for a value to live your life by, take this one. This has been by far the most beneficial lesson I’ve learned in my life, and it’s the easiest one to implement.

Overthinking = Sinking.

Luck follows the bold, but bold follows the dumb. You’ve got to get out of your own way. As an intelligent person- I just couldn’t succeed.

There was no chance.

I’d sit there and scheme, plan, plot, then try to manipulate circumstances to my favor. It never worked.

Paradoxically, I took this as a sign that MORE information was what I needed. So, I journeyed to become more intelligent. I read… voraciously.

Like eating, the more I tried the more I craved.

Self-improvement became a lifestyle, not a hobby. I was all in- adopting the recommended habits, cold-showering daily, meditating, re-aligning my chakras through parting with low-energy vampires- I was consumed.

The only thing I lived for was this idea- that to be successful, I had to be miserable.

And mission accomplished- not the success, the misery.

So there, with glowing aura, self-preserving energy, and habits to rival a robot, I found myself EMPTY.

Just like that, I let go.

Well… I moved to a different state where I then had no time to do all those jerk off improvement habits, because alone and broke I had to work.

Here is the irony of it all. I began to see real results when I didn’t do all those bullshit habits, but rather only worked on my problem areas. #ImaGoddamnDetective

Once I started focusing on skills that I was inclined for then I began to see results. Today, I’ve got the career, I’m more fulfilled than I’ve ever been and the funny part about it all? I haven’t read a book in months.

I’m not saying don’t learn, I’m saying learn for yourself.

Some random author can’t tell you what’s right for you. Only you can do that through trial and error.

So dumb it down and go try shit.

#StayFoolish

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No one can really see themselves.

Sure, you see your insides (the places you frequent) but most people don’t see how ridiculous they act.

We’re all the same booger-launching, fit-throwing, tantrum-fueled children we were to our parents growing up.

The difference is, as an adult, you’ve gained a sense of style and can dress up your bullshit.

You over-rationalize and explain away your shitty behavior. We say we learn from our mistakes and we only acted a certain way because the situation hit too close to home and we were having an “off” day, but all that’s bull.

The truth is, most don’t ever learn from their mistakes and most people NEVER change.

They just keep getting older, on the inside they’re that same 5 year old and the out- decaying. Til we die we do this.

My fear is this right here.

It’s being stuck in my ways, acting like a 4-year old. And not to generalize, but most people will have this fate. When you go to the local Costco and you see some old man shouting at the clerk because his prunes are marked up by $2, know that this phenomena is behind it all.

On their death beds– what you’ll hear from them: I coulda done so much more, I should of LIVED.

What sets us apart from all other life on this planet is largely our imagination. This muscle- improperly used will cause you to suffer, but if you embrace it- you can free yourself right now.

Pretend you have one year to live, now LIVE.

LIVE without holding back and holding on, just be. Whatever you’re worried about, it won’t matter a year from now, so it shouldn’t matter now. In the face of death, we gain clarity. The fact is, the only certainity in life is you will die.

So is this how you want to live?

#StayFoolish

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Welcome Back Fool.

Have you ended your search yet? You know that little thing you do where you come up with all the ways it won’t work?

Over-thinking is poison.

I’m actually starting to believe there is little worse than this so-called “decision optimization” process.

Being “dumb” has not only worked out for me every single time, but it’s by far the greatest tool I’ve got to get ahead in life.

And let me clarify, by dumb, I mean unthinking, bold, just-do-it, worry-later… LET IT GO.

Basically, move like a child (without your childhood beliefs).

We’re too smart for our own good. That’s why you doubt yourself- because you found all the ways it can go wrong.

Critics don’t create shit.

As we get older and we hold onto our old people beliefs, whichever suit the generation we just came from, we lose touch with our ability to produce.

Protect your dumbness, ya dumb mothaf**ka.

Protect it at all costs.

How do we imagine that somehow at a certain age, we now have the world figured out? You’re the same idiot who once thought a fat white man broke into your house at night, ate your cookies, and left behind deposits… “gifts you wanted because he watched you cheat on your math test.”

I’m a fool.

I refuse to wait til I’m ready, think of all the possibilities, worry about if I’ll make it, instead I’ll just act. If I fail, I literally don’t care. There’s no such thing as failure, there’s life and death. That’s it. And when I die, it definitely won’t matter, so it doesn’t matter now.

Wanna create something in your life?

A business, art, any new venture… dumb yourself down.

Then start.

#StayFoolish

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What’s up Fool,

Ever heard the saying, “sink or swim?”

I know how to swim but I can’t stop myself from falling over-board… and that’s an entirely different problem.

I never was afraid of water, not the lakes, oceans, or any would-be intimidating body of blue.

I guess I’m that ignorant. That said, while I don’t mind going for the casual dive, I’ve been trying to navigate my life and build something that will last.

Don’t wish for the storms to stop, be a better sailor.

All of us have these areas in our lives that cause the majority of our problems- our blind spots.

For myself, the struggle has always been an emotional tidal wave. When I’m clear-thinking, chilling in that crystal geyser, I’m able to enjoy the moment, experience more, and make better decisions. I’m level, and so building is easy.

But something happens and it happens frequently. I get these wild swings and when they come, I’m thrown over-board. I then see everything in all-or-nothing, get paranoid, become possessed by erratic feelings and have some urge to escape my own life and leave it all behind.

While this might not sound that bad, it’s painful. Truthfully, I’ve been able to navigate better by not making any decisions while I’m in this phase, but the fact that I regularly go through these tropical storms is exhausting.

The storm never stops.

When I was younger, I imagined the cause was my overall lack of direction and that when I found my calling/passion/career all the WAVES would level out, and I wouldn’t be in the water, but on some island sippin’ coconut margi’s.

Well, I’m happy with my life. I have a career I enjoy, that I find fulfilling and challenging, but the exact storms from my youth remain.

I don’t know if there’s a better way, but here’s how I’m sailing.

I don’t believe my mind. When these storms come, I know they don’t last long, so my only job is to ride it out. I don’t make any decisions here, and I try not to be around people because sometimes they get the worst of me during these times.

By far the biggest help is DISTANCE.

I’m learning to distance myself from myself. I don’t take myself too seriously.

When I’m in this emotional state, I write. I laugh. I do whatever I can to get actual clarity.

See, I’ll never stop having the storms and I realize that now, but I don’t have to lose my composure. I can look at them and recognize them for what they are, just temporary climate change, that I can ride out and get right back on course to what I was doing.

Whatever your weather, don’t give in.

It might be apart of your wiring, but you don’t have to lose.

Stay Strong, Stay Active, Stay Playful.

#StayFoolish

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What’s hatnin’ Fool,

I don’t know where you’re at in your journey but I wanted to share some accidental, yet effective methods, that led to my scaling rock bottom and landing on top.

First, if you’re depressed, low, emotionally bankrupt- put the dreams and goals on hold. Beta version of you has no business making plans for alpha.

And as a side note, there is so much to be gained from floating around, so quit worrying about your dumbass timeline. I know, “but it sucks, it’s painful, I’m having dark thoughts…” what they don’t tell you is it’s necessary to get to where you need to go. If it wasn’t you wouldn’t being going through it.

Second, explore (yourself). It doesn’t matter if its journaling, talking to a therapist (that one aunt who always listens), or long walks on the beach wearing all white, looking like you’re about to drop the next #1 pop song.

You need to get in touch with your uniqueness.

For the first time in my life I’m starting to see career success. I’ve wanted this since my filling-the-diaper years, but didn’t know how to get here.

And no, I didn’t know exactly what the hell I wanted to be when I grew up, but I was unwaveringly focused to reach peak success (being worshiped for being me).

Anyway, that luckily never happened and because of that, I reached De-enlightenment. What’s that? It’s when you’re artificially depressed but spiritually hopeful.

The best thing I did was let go. I’m saying this like it all happened so fast but it took about 6 years.

That’s 6 years of superficial pursuits, ego-stroking delusions, and lots of failure.

After I let go of the idea of what I thought I wanted, I came back to the real world. I opened myself to other things, by just trying them.

And that casual playful approach led me here.

If you’re going to get out and live the good life, first you need to allow yourself to figure out who you are. Not who you want to be, but who you are beneath all your social conditioning. When you have that, success is a byproduct.

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Hey Fool,

If you’re having a miserable time you haven’t been playing with what you’ve got.

Yesterday, while I was driving home listening to sad nostalgic music because F**k it- I wanna feel something, it hit me.

Not literally, I ducked that pigeon and heroically quick at that. But figuratively, I had a realization.

The best time of my life was the age of foolishness.

I wasn’t coming up with bullshit reasons of why I couldn’t have a good time, enjoy myself, or do all the things I wanted to.

All I was focused on was playing with what I had, the life I had.

If you NEED to be with others to enjoy a certain activity, it ain’t it Jack.

Hows that quote go, youth is wasted on the young? I think we convince ourselves that distractions are the “play” when in reality, that’s why you’re empty inside. #EdgarAllanPOET

If you need to run towards frenzy you’re not living, you’re escaping.

I thought because I’m extroverted, time-wasting with motherf**kers I could barely tolerate was the only way for me to be alive. I’d hate them and hate myself for being around them, but it was a temporary way to numb the pain and I didn’t want to be alone. Luckily, I was wrong. Those retiring low energy unambitious 20-somethings are not apart of my life.

Don’t blame others for your unhappiness and don’t get pissed off at them because you’re using them for something they’re not (your toys).

Why haven’t you been playing? Whatever you think is stopping you, it isn’t. I’m sure of that. It’s actually so simple, you almost have stupid to understand it.

The thing you do for yourself, on the side, that little activity that kinda does it for you- that’s it. That’s where you need to start.

If you don’t have it, play towards it.

#StayFoolish

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