Tag: personal development

Sit on your hands

Published February 7, 2023 by V

Sometimes the best move to make, is no move at all.

We get restless, then we mess with shit.

Messing with shit is how you lose…

…sometimes you win too, but not mostly.

The unfortunate part behind this phenomena is the things we mess with are usually the things that are working fine and probably didn’t need to be touched.

The truth is, it’s not what you lack that’s holding you back— it’s something you have or do, a habit you haven’t kicked.

Take mine— boredom.

I prematurely jump ships, abandon islands, etc. all because I need to find something that doesn’t exist.

Whatever you’re looking for, ask yourself is it from a place of weakness or strength? Would you take this action if you were strong, successful, the person you wanted to be, etc.?

-Fool

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The New World Order: Guilt is for society, I play how I want

Published February 17, 2022 by V

You don’t have to love everything you do, I’ll concede to that.

But when it comes to your business– it should be toddler like when you reject the broccoli train forcefully invading your lips.

It’s going to be hard and the only way to sustain your efforts is to enjoy the process itself.

Which is why I don’t have guilt.

I try things out, don’t like them– then cut them out and never think about them ever again.

Others will shame you. Try to tell you it’s wrong, and stick longer, but why? Just because it takes you less time to figure out you don’t like it, doesn’t mean you might have fallen in love tomorrow had you stuck it out.

In reality, you’re at an advantage.

At least you won’t be stuck rat racing and tail chasing for 50 years to suddenly have a surprise crash followed by a fun identity crisis.

The game is a simple one and if we didn’t complicate ourselves and how important we think everything is, it’d be easy too.

We have to do things we don’t love, cool. I get that. So, take a job that at least covers some of your values– i.e. the company culture matches your personality. Now, it’ll be easier to have better days.

On the side, whatever you choose to build, that’s treated different.

YOU HAVE TO LOVE IT.

From exploring and taking on different clients, throughout my side hustling, I’ve learned so much about what I don’t want– and that informs what I do.

This is the key.

Try things, and move on fast when you realize you don’t like them.

With movement, you’ll land on your thing.

P.S. Oh, and remember nothing lasts and nothing matters. Find yourself stuck in a rut? Do something scary (I went skydiving) that you kinda want to do.

#FOOLFWD

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You only see what you think about…

Published December 31, 2021 by V

Get out of your head and into your bed… with that stallion.

The real challenge of the human experience is understanding that you exist in your mind, and vacating the premises is the only way to reach your dreams.

You don’t see reality, and who cares because no one does. The only reason this matters and why you need to change –is that dream life.

If you haven’t totally given up on yourself, somewhere in that hard cranium of yours, there is a faint aroma. It’s hard to notice at first, but if you plug your nose and refresh the scentblind, you’ll catch wiff of it.

Your dreams.

You used to have those, but now every adult you know says “I don’t dream anymore.” A bunch of pathetic pickles in the jar of mediocrity.

Anyway, to live those old or new dreams of a fulfilling life full of adventure and awesomeness is actually easy.

It’s a two stepper.

First, realize everything you see and experience is your old conditioning. Socialization, culture, parents, you see whats in you_ not what actually is (that underscore is my artistry not a typo, u grammar nazi). You have to know this in order to catch yourself doing it, and then leave it behind.

Second, attitude booster shot.

You have to approach the world like a child, playful and to some extent, uncaring.

Judgement is a restricting emotion, it stops you from connecting— and connecting is how you unlock your version of neverland.

It’s so easy even I’ve been able to do it. What makes it hard is not falling back in your old moods, which you will. Imagine who you want to be, how you live and what experiences you want to have.

No matter how hard it is, live as that person.

The world will match you and give you the life that individual needs.

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Cigarette Smoking Drama Students

Published November 5, 2021 by V

You know the type. Social outcasts, everything is “Lame, dude” and their version of excitement is blasting hard metal while laying flat, poured over a meadow.

Each of us has this. Even if you weren’t this person in high school– it’s in you.

We’re in love with our inner goth.

I’ve been learning about personality types recently, and how to overcome oneself. The way they teach this is your brain has different muscles responsible for different things.

Some muscles are overdeveloped, while others are nearly nonexistent. Your overdeveloped muscles are the problem. The reason you keep having the same recurring life obstacles is because you don’t address this inner imbalance— the inner goth.

Your go-to way of living is using that over-developed muscle. Think of that as your “inner popular kid” or jock.

Given a choice between jock or goth, most without thinking will jocko every time. Problem is, gotho is what leads to building.

If for example, you’re some ultra extrovert, always out and about, hanging, eventually you have to pull back and be alone… at least some of the time. Otherwise when will you build?

Or maybe you’re this curious person. Always taking in new information, well if you want to use any of that– you’ll have to sit down and organize the thing some time.

Our mind CAN shift between different modes, but most of us refuse. We’d rather keep doing jocko and because of that, we get stuck.

Now you’re binge-watching motivation videos all day, and addicted to “getting better” but you’re not actually doing shit.

Improvement isn’t a book or video. It’s goth. It’s taking that weak muscle of the brain and feeding it.

If you find yourself having any inner conflict or you’re stuck in life. Incongruence is likely the problem– who have you been neglecting?

Jocko or gotho? Either way, everyone has to be able to play.

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Identity > Habits: Want lasting change? Then change.

Published July 7, 2021 by V

Sometimes it really is so much simpler than we can even imagine. You sit there, pissed off at the shittiness of life, try new habits and practices only to fail.

You imagine it must be you, and you’re right but for the wrong reason.

I didn’t invent this, and neither did the author who wrote the best selling book on it, but if you can understand and embrace this– your life will change immediately.

Identity is everything.

It’s ONLY this. This is the reason you move backwards or forwards, form good or bad habits, succeed or fail… identity is the gps for the human mind, and for your entire life.

You might think its corny, but that story you tell yourself plays out every single day. In fact, our stories become our lives.

If I say to myself, “I’m a writer” and I keep identifying with being a writer, I begin to act as a writer. What happens? I end up writing daily, practicing my craft, conducting myself as a writer.

Had I said, I need to write or I want to write– maybe I do, maybe I don’t.

If I say to myself, “I’m a fighter, I train and care for my body the way a fighter would, and never miss a muay thai class because fighters don’t.

I’ve always formed new habits easily, but until recently only realized why.

I make them apart of my identity immediately. You keep saying you need to get healthy, and like that you never will. You don’t need to “get healthy”, that’s temporary. You need to become a healthy person.

So make it your identity. “I am that type of person who takes care of their health.”

If you think this is hokey- mystical crap, I can assure you it’s science.

Something happens to us when we make things personal. We become our habits, when they become our identity.

Your brain likes to hold onto the shitty version of you because you’ve trained it to. Saying, “that isn’t for me, or that just isn’t me” is TOXIC.

If you want to level up, grow, and gain a better life– it needs to become you, you need to become more.

How?

Simple. What do you want out of life? I want to be an entrepreneur who runs a successful advertising business, podcast, and newsletter.

Okay, great. So who is this person and what do they believe and practice daily- to achieve this life?

They are a student of human nature, welcome all challenges and adversity because they love it, and always put themselves in discomfort.

I’m the type of person who’s always putting myself out there, attacking my fears, and learning.

Try it, the only thing you’ll lose is misery.

#FoolAround

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The Game of Momentum: Why your goals should be smaller

Published July 2, 2021 by V

It only takes a little to change a lot.

Looking at my life, it’s weird to see that the biggest life altering results came from incredibly small adjustments. Starting a blog led to a new career as a copywriter, training in muay thai led to a new social life, confidence, passion, and improved focus. Listening to one 30 minute video on keeping a positive mindset each morning– would lead to me performing better in my role and embracing life’s challenges.

I used to “All-or-Nothing” my life… and that’s why nothing always happened.

Life is the sum total of these little moments. It’s a game of momentum.

If you crave change, start as SMALL as possible. Instead of wondering what you’ll do? Where you’ll go, or what’s the next BIG thing for you… ask yourself, what tiny thing can I do today to move in that direction?

And JUST do that, don’t concern yourself with anything else. If you don’t know the answer or what you need to do– JUST PICK. You don’t have to love it, just be interested enough to learn.

Want to lose weight? Don’t even focus on training, cut out snacks or walk for an extra 5 minutes.

Want to find a new career? Hold off on quitting entirely, and find a small and easy hobby you can do in your free time.

The answer is always small… that’s why we initially miss it. You’re looking for lightning to strike, for what? All you need is a tiny baby step towards something… you don’t even have to know what it is. That’s the best part about this law.

When I started my blog, it wasn’t this site by the way– I had no intention of becoming a writer, I didn’t have a clue where it would lead.

I did it just to stick to something, and it had HUGE results.

That’s all any of us need to do. We just need small things incorporated into our daily lives and without fail, they will change.

If you’re stuck, lost, or unsure of yourself, before you deem yourself hopeless– ADD one small thing (something new) to your daily ritual for 30 days.

See where it leads, infallibly so, it will lead you somewhere…

#FoolAround

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Why The Wokes Are Broke

Published June 1, 2021 by V

I went through all of it.

All that content that’s flooding the internet today, from tik tok to youtube, I was on that before it was a thing.

I needed answers and I guess those “spiritual explantations” felt easier to digest than the practical advice of introspecting and facing your weaknesses.

Today, you’re no longer on the hook for anything… if you don’t want to be.

If this life sucks, they say “but reincarnation, it’s just one cycle… also Atlantis, equality, spiritually manifesting your creations.”

Name one successful person who talks like this? There isn’t one.

The woker, the weaker.

Sorry. You can hate it all you want, but I only got ahead when I left “manifestation station” and became ultra practical.

The people who succeed in life chose to take full ownership. They choose to make the most of this life and honestly, that feels far better than any dumb belief that the universe loves you and suffering is a karmic debt to be paid.

What in the actual f**k is happening to us?

Whether those ideas are true or not, you’re here on planet earth. Don’t you want to play the game? Or are you really content sitting on the sidelines talking about “this looks bad, luckily, healing crystals on the ready.”

Look, totally your prerogative.

I’m only talking to the ambitious individuals who want to make something of themselves while they’re here.

As I age, I’m far less spiritual– but far more capable.

I spend my time being a practical learner. I’m learning SKILLS. Most recently, I’ve started managing my finances, investing, and building up my business and life has never felt better.

Not because “it’s my time, destiny has chosen me”…. shut the f**k up.

Because you are the people and the ideas you surround yourself with. Input equals output.

I see that now. Watch tik tok all day- and join the anti-establishment wokes. If that’s what you want, have at it.

In my opinion, it’s a supreme waste of the limited time we’ve been given here on earth. So, I’ll spend my time around individuals I’m inspired to be like.

I want to rise to the level of excellence, and there’s actually more than enough to go around.

Do what you want, spend life how you want. But don’t blame anyone except yourself when you woke away your dreams.

#FoolForward

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CopyCat

Published May 7, 2021 by V

It took me a while to fully understand this, but now it’s clear. The reason you don’t have what you want is envy.

Maybe you’re aware of it, maybe not- but a lot of what we think we want for ourselves comes from seeing others have it.

The quickest way for me to return to ignorance, feel unhappy, and act recklessly is going on instagram. Seeing early-to mid 20 year olds never have to work a job and do insane things makes me feel like I’m wasting my life where I am.

It gives me the strongest urge to throw everything away, and go chase that.

I’ve struggled with this for a long time, because by nature, I’m grandiose.

BUT then, I pull back. I step away, delete the apps, and read the things that helped me get ahead in the first place.

I remind myself that the only progress I’ve ever made in life came from being practical and building my skills.

I’m not an influencer, and when I’m not fantasizing about living that Hollywood life, I already know I never wanted to be that person.

You get ahead, DOING you.

There isn’t another way. You have to follow your internal compass, know yourself fully- strengths and weaknesses, and develop skills you have an inclination for.

I got results doing this. I always have to remind myself this, because the urge to chase FAME and FORTUNE never disappears.

If I compare myself to these “stars of the youth” I easily fall short. But when I compare myself to who I was yesterday, goddammn I’m proud.

Because when I hit rock bottom, I did something about it. I never quit on myself. That was the ONE trait that got me unstuck.

The only thing you need is growth.

The willingness to burn in uncertainty. To stare at your faults and just say, “fuck it- it sucks, but I can get better.”

It’s corny, but that’s how you live a better life.

#StayFoolish

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