Tag: growth

You only see what you think about…

Published December 31, 2021 by V

Get out of your head and into your bed… with that stallion.

The real challenge of the human experience is understanding that you exist in your mind, and vacating the premises is the only way to reach your dreams.

You don’t see reality, and who cares because no one does. The only reason this matters and why you need to change –is that dream life.

If you haven’t totally given up on yourself, somewhere in that hard cranium of yours, there is a faint aroma. It’s hard to notice at first, but if you plug your nose and refresh the scentblind, you’ll catch wiff of it.

Your dreams.

You used to have those, but now every adult you know says “I don’t dream anymore.” A bunch of pathetic pickles in the jar of mediocrity.

Anyway, to live those old or new dreams of a fulfilling life full of adventure and awesomeness is actually easy.

It’s a two stepper.

First, realize everything you see and experience is your old conditioning. Socialization, culture, parents, you see whats in you_ not what actually is (that underscore is my artistry not a typo, u grammar nazi). You have to know this in order to catch yourself doing it, and then leave it behind.

Second, attitude booster shot.

You have to approach the world like a child, playful and to some extent, uncaring.

Judgement is a restricting emotion, it stops you from connecting— and connecting is how you unlock your version of neverland.

It’s so easy even I’ve been able to do it. What makes it hard is not falling back in your old moods, which you will. Imagine who you want to be, how you live and what experiences you want to have.

No matter how hard it is, live as that person.

The world will match you and give you the life that individual needs.

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Identity > Habits: Want lasting change? Then change.

Published July 7, 2021 by V

Sometimes it really is so much simpler than we can even imagine. You sit there, pissed off at the shittiness of life, try new habits and practices only to fail.

You imagine it must be you, and you’re right but for the wrong reason.

I didn’t invent this, and neither did the author who wrote the best selling book on it, but if you can understand and embrace this– your life will change immediately.

Identity is everything.

It’s ONLY this. This is the reason you move backwards or forwards, form good or bad habits, succeed or fail… identity is the gps for the human mind, and for your entire life.

You might think its corny, but that story you tell yourself plays out every single day. In fact, our stories become our lives.

If I say to myself, “I’m a writer” and I keep identifying with being a writer, I begin to act as a writer. What happens? I end up writing daily, practicing my craft, conducting myself as a writer.

Had I said, I need to write or I want to write– maybe I do, maybe I don’t.

If I say to myself, “I’m a fighter, I train and care for my body the way a fighter would, and never miss a muay thai class because fighters don’t.

I’ve always formed new habits easily, but until recently only realized why.

I make them apart of my identity immediately. You keep saying you need to get healthy, and like that you never will. You don’t need to “get healthy”, that’s temporary. You need to become a healthy person.

So make it your identity. “I am that type of person who takes care of their health.”

If you think this is hokey- mystical crap, I can assure you it’s science.

Something happens to us when we make things personal. We become our habits, when they become our identity.

Your brain likes to hold onto the shitty version of you because you’ve trained it to. Saying, “that isn’t for me, or that just isn’t me” is TOXIC.

If you want to level up, grow, and gain a better life– it needs to become you, you need to become more.

How?

Simple. What do you want out of life? I want to be an entrepreneur who runs a successful advertising business, podcast, and newsletter.

Okay, great. So who is this person and what do they believe and practice daily- to achieve this life?

They are a student of human nature, welcome all challenges and adversity because they love it, and always put themselves in discomfort.

I’m the type of person who’s always putting myself out there, attacking my fears, and learning.

Try it, the only thing you’ll lose is misery.

#FoolAround

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Licking Wounds: Listen to what you’re saying…

Published July 4, 2021 by V

It feels like it was another lifetime ago, but I once had a professor who said we all reeked of who we were.

For a long time, I didn’t see this but now having my thoughts documented throughout the years… that, and a little more self awareness– it’s obvious.

What I’ve noticed is your tongue naturally moves towards your wounds. During a conversation, assuming the two parties are close, both will start to talk about what’s on their mind.

AND IT NEVER CHANGES.

You are what you are. Since my toddler-trodding days, as a child who didn’t know shit about anything– even then, the only thing I ever cared about was my passion and purpose.

And today? Yup. In blogs, journals, and conversations– the thing I’m working out while I speak– my f**king passion, help me understand UNIVERSE!!!

It’s always the same. It’s the same for me, you, and every human being on the planet. We lick our wounds too.

The key to you understanding yourself on the deepest level, and upgrading yourself and your life, is this: Pay attention to what you keep talking about.

For some it’ll be relationships, for others things, but everyone does it.

To finally be able to see and hear yourself is a superpower. In doing so, you can cut the self-improvement crap, and immediately work on what’s actually bothering you.

What’s my obsession with purpose, calling, and passion?

I lacked meaning. I wanted something to dedicate my life to. When I realized this, I made progress.

For you it’ll likely be totally different.

No need to read about it or wonder, as you talk to people throughout the day… as soon as you end that day- reflect.

Where did my tongue go?

Do this, and gain the thing you’re looking for.

#FoolAround

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Why The Wokes Are Broke

Published June 1, 2021 by V

I went through all of it.

All that content that’s flooding the internet today, from tik tok to youtube, I was on that before it was a thing.

I needed answers and I guess those “spiritual explantations” felt easier to digest than the practical advice of introspecting and facing your weaknesses.

Today, you’re no longer on the hook for anything… if you don’t want to be.

If this life sucks, they say “but reincarnation, it’s just one cycle… also Atlantis, equality, spiritually manifesting your creations.”

Name one successful person who talks like this? There isn’t one.

The woker, the weaker.

Sorry. You can hate it all you want, but I only got ahead when I left “manifestation station” and became ultra practical.

The people who succeed in life chose to take full ownership. They choose to make the most of this life and honestly, that feels far better than any dumb belief that the universe loves you and suffering is a karmic debt to be paid.

What in the actual f**k is happening to us?

Whether those ideas are true or not, you’re here on planet earth. Don’t you want to play the game? Or are you really content sitting on the sidelines talking about “this looks bad, luckily, healing crystals on the ready.”

Look, totally your prerogative.

I’m only talking to the ambitious individuals who want to make something of themselves while they’re here.

As I age, I’m far less spiritual– but far more capable.

I spend my time being a practical learner. I’m learning SKILLS. Most recently, I’ve started managing my finances, investing, and building up my business and life has never felt better.

Not because “it’s my time, destiny has chosen me”…. shut the f**k up.

Because you are the people and the ideas you surround yourself with. Input equals output.

I see that now. Watch tik tok all day- and join the anti-establishment wokes. If that’s what you want, have at it.

In my opinion, it’s a supreme waste of the limited time we’ve been given here on earth. So, I’ll spend my time around individuals I’m inspired to be like.

I want to rise to the level of excellence, and there’s actually more than enough to go around.

Do what you want, spend life how you want. But don’t blame anyone except yourself when you woke away your dreams.

#FoolForward

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CopyCat

Published May 7, 2021 by V

It took me a while to fully understand this, but now it’s clear. The reason you don’t have what you want is envy.

Maybe you’re aware of it, maybe not- but a lot of what we think we want for ourselves comes from seeing others have it.

The quickest way for me to return to ignorance, feel unhappy, and act recklessly is going on instagram. Seeing early-to mid 20 year olds never have to work a job and do insane things makes me feel like I’m wasting my life where I am.

It gives me the strongest urge to throw everything away, and go chase that.

I’ve struggled with this for a long time, because by nature, I’m grandiose.

BUT then, I pull back. I step away, delete the apps, and read the things that helped me get ahead in the first place.

I remind myself that the only progress I’ve ever made in life came from being practical and building my skills.

I’m not an influencer, and when I’m not fantasizing about living that Hollywood life, I already know I never wanted to be that person.

You get ahead, DOING you.

There isn’t another way. You have to follow your internal compass, know yourself fully- strengths and weaknesses, and develop skills you have an inclination for.

I got results doing this. I always have to remind myself this, because the urge to chase FAME and FORTUNE never disappears.

If I compare myself to these “stars of the youth” I easily fall short. But when I compare myself to who I was yesterday, goddammn I’m proud.

Because when I hit rock bottom, I did something about it. I never quit on myself. That was the ONE trait that got me unstuck.

The only thing you need is growth.

The willingness to burn in uncertainty. To stare at your faults and just say, “fuck it- it sucks, but I can get better.”

It’s corny, but that’s how you live a better life.

#StayFoolish

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Eyes Wide Open Shut

Published April 14, 2021 by V

Attitude is everything.

With the right mindset you can promote yourself, have any career you want, go and do whatever you want, and be who you actually admire.

Stepping into a playful mindset is all it takes to live a fulfilling life.

And this is somehow the hardest thing for all of us to do.

Why?

It takes letting go.

It’s almost stupid how easy it is. If you decided, for today, you’d let go of all the dumb things that rob you of joy and you just lived in the moment, you’d see exactly what I’m talking about.

Resilience is an attitude. Resourcefulness is an attitude. Success is an attitude.

That’s what they don’t teach us. Everyone is capable, but you won’t reach your goals hating yourself and the world. Drop the edgy and open your eyes.

The only thing you can control is how you show up, but lucky for you, it’s all that matters.

#StayFoolish

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