Your reading glasses are on your head… stop looking for them.
When you hear someone say they’re taking a break, leaving, starting anew, all of it with the goal of “finding themselves”, what the hell does that even mean?
A better question, how the phuck did you lose yourself?
What these soul-explorers are looking for is their values. Confidence, self-awareness, fulfillment, it comes through embodying the values you’re born to. And you were born to them.
Mistake #1 is you think you can just pick and choose.
You incarnated into this world as an already thing– a thing with a unique combination of natural inclinations and desires so why the hell would you cheat on that?
Let me make it easier, when you look to someone else and copy their path– you’re deciding to leave your mission and story to go be a background character in theirs.
You won’t be an actor if you don’t have any lines, and extras never do.
How does this happen anyway? Socialization baby. Growing up, they wash the individuality out of us because if we stand out, we die (figuratively, could be literally… depends on the country).
Once you DO make it out of the prerequisites of modern family, you have to return to who you are—- but damn it’s been a while. So comes the “finding yourself” age crisis.
This used to happen mid life, but if social media is good for anything- it’s revealing thoughts of a generation, and we’re losing ourselves younger these days.
So, do what you hate or do something for the wrong reasons– and be/stay a side character.
When you’re watching a movie, you don’t even notice the extras. They don’t have any lines, they exist just for context, to make the setting more believable. DON’T be an extra.
THIS IS YOUR MOVIE.
You’re free to play any way you want. I know, we all have responsibilities– but one of them is uncovering what you’re meant to do, and living that out. Actually this is TOP responsibility.
Here’s a challenge if you’re up for not sinking in sadness.
For the next 30 days (dated and in a notebook) write letters to yourself.
Every day, write down and answer:
- what bothers me most?
- what makes time go by faster?
- whats fun?
- what burns me out?
You can find yourself without going anywhere, in fact, theres no where to go. Uncover you, then play the movie as you were meant to.
—Fool Out
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