It’s hard to give good advice here, since most people don’t have a solid support network.
So regardless of how you do it, the advice is this: Don’t get swept up by your own tendencies. The reason I bring up a support network or friends, is because I regularly use them as an easy cheat code to balance my mind.
EVERY SINGLE ONE OF US has blind spots– areas in life where we become aggressive, completely irrational, paranoid, and all around unreasonable.
For whatever reason, this is our own distorted desert– we just aren’t clear when we wonder here.
You see this throughout the pandemic with BOTH sides.
There are those that think the virus is the end of the world and those that think it’s a completely fake disease.
To both of these extreme ends, these feelings and beliefs are real.
This is what I’m talking about. Before I had friends with opposite weaknesses from my own, a little isolation made for a nice paranoid scheming session. If left alone long enough, my critical thinking skills would eat themselves– and I’d start making wild connections that really had nothing to do with anything.
If I didn’t have my journals I wouldn’t believe I did this…. but looking back it’s eye-opening.
And it always makes me wonder what other areas in my life am I so completely delusional in? This isn’t about you being right or wrong– it’s about not suffering from a wildly untamed mind.
See, it’s a double-sided coin.
Through empathy we can experience deep connection with others and the world, but through delusion– we will experience disconnection, dissatisfaction, and the ultimate isolation.
One of my close friends is very clear thinking. He values and practices rationality and ruthless objectivity– and thus, I completely trust him. So when I feel myself participating in my paranoid parade– I meet up with him and we talk about it.
Seeing and hearing rationality is contagious, and I’ve found it to be the ultimate vaccine to my overactive imagination.
Almost instantly, I return to the land of the practical where things make sense.
This is your battle, this is everyones battle. When you get to know someone, you’ll see their dark spots and this is a very real struggle in human nature.
For some, it has to do with their relationships, others it has to do with control or lack of it, but nonetheless we all have them.
Figure out a way to crawl out of these spirals when you get in them.
This will help you level up and it’ll end your constant suffering.
#FoolsGold
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