Sometimes it really is so much simpler than we can even imagine. You sit there, pissed off at the shittiness of life, try new habits and practices only to fail.
You imagine it must be you, and you’re right but for the wrong reason.
I didn’t invent this, and neither did the author who wrote the best selling book on it, but if you can understand and embrace this– your life will change immediately.
Identity is everything.
It’s ONLY this. This is the reason you move backwards or forwards, form good or bad habits, succeed or fail… identity is the gps for the human mind, and for your entire life.
You might think its corny, but that story you tell yourself plays out every single day. In fact, our stories become our lives.
If I say to myself, “I’m a writer” and I keep identifying with being a writer, I begin to act as a writer. What happens? I end up writing daily, practicing my craft, conducting myself as a writer.
Had I said, I need to write or I want to write– maybe I do, maybe I don’t.
If I say to myself, “I’m a fighter, I train and care for my body the way a fighter would, and never miss a muay thai class because fighters don’t.
I’ve always formed new habits easily, but until recently only realized why.
I make them apart of my identity immediately. You keep saying you need to get healthy, and like that you never will. You don’t need to “get healthy”, that’s temporary. You need to become a healthy person.
So make it your identity. “I am that type of person who takes care of their health.”
If you think this is hokey- mystical crap, I can assure you it’s science.
Something happens to us when we make things personal. We become our habits, when they become our identity.
Your brain likes to hold onto the shitty version of you because you’ve trained it to. Saying, “that isn’t for me, or that just isn’t me” is TOXIC.
If you want to level up, grow, and gain a better life– it needs to become you, you need to become more.
How?
Simple. What do you want out of life? I want to be an entrepreneur who runs a successful advertising business, podcast, and newsletter.
Okay, great. So who is this person and what do they believe and practice daily- to achieve this life?
They are a student of human nature, welcome all challenges and adversity because they love it, and always put themselves in discomfort.
I’m the type of person who’s always putting myself out there, attacking my fears, and learning.
Try it, the only thing you’ll lose is misery.
#FoolAround
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