Tag: self development

2yrs of High School… For Life

Published September 29, 2021 by V

During my junior year, I had a history teacher I really admired. He was strict, didn’t believe in multiple choice tests or group work and his class was a hard one.

Right when the school year began –most teachers assigned taking home a syllabus, he assigned a 7 page paper due that week.

The average score on his test was a 70% and that’s after 4 hours of study.

Students dropped his class like flies.

I wanted to– but my mom convinced me otherwise.

Sure enough, that one teacher and his one class changed everything for me. It was hard, took dedication– but throughout the school year I improved.

My only goal became to get an A in his class, but by learning how to learn for his assignments– success spread over to other areas.

That year I had a 4.0 GPA. Even math (a usual struggle) became easy. I felt good about myself, not because I enjoyed studying or doing all that work– but because I could trust myself to take on difficulty and work.

So naturally, when recruits from a high school/college program came looking for students– I signed up.

And so, I found myself in college for my senior year of high school.

A little different this year, having remnants of my newfound ability to learn but unchecked needs for popularity, I went all out.

Here, I played.

I was popular, had my groups, took massive risks… and rather than study– I created.

If there was any chapter throughout my entire childhood that was awesome and worth reliving– it was this one, no question. That year I was Rockstar, and not a single day felt like work.

The combination of these 2 years is how I intend to live the rest of my life.

There are things that demand dedication, and it’s medicinal to do so. For me, this is muay thai. As my junior year shows, just one area of total dedication will positively infect all other aspects of your life.

That creation period from senior year– that’s what I want from my career. I want to constantly play and innovate, come up with fun projects and build with my team.

These 2 years are all I ever needed to understand what creates fulfillment.

Now I finally do.

Total commitment to the present. Total submission to your path.

No fantasizing, no wishing for a different life.

BE here, now, and fully.

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F**k Best Self… Play as your favorite

Published September 28, 2021 by V

The other day I went for a morning hike with my sister. Usually nothing comes from those other than shooting the shit, but during the final countdown, out of nowhere she sends me peak wisdom.

A meme.

Which, while typical for her– this one had a ton of truth to it. In fact, long after the hike I couldn’t help but think about it.

In this internet-existence– we’re pounded over the head with corn-quotes like: “Be your best self.”

The problem?

Best could imply anything. It could mean an unbalanced, ultra-disciplined you. It could mean a daily cold shower regiment, never so much as eye-ing sweet foods, and sleeplessly rising before the sun– in honor of the productivity gods.

Some of us are obsessive, and when left on our own could drive ourselves mad with efficiency.

Me.

I naturally do this, but as of late have eased up off the gas.

Because my best self sucks.

My favorite self on the other hand, that’s a different story.

Let’s not forget, whatever our goals and relationships and pursuits in life– it’s all for a good life. We do what we do, and how we do it, in the hopes of living a fulfilled life. But with so many self-proclaimed and unqualified teachers– it’s easy to start picking up the wrong tools.

So, to add some clarity and as the meme eloquently put it, “grace”, think about how your favorite self shows up.

For me, it’s play, fluidity, and a go-for-it attitude.

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Before You Change Channels, Watch

Published September 27, 2021 by V

Before you jump from thing to thing or decide on what to pursue, get more familiar with your movie.

Watch yourself.

What does this person really desire? Where do they spend their free time? What motivates them?

Watch yourself like a character in a movie, it’s important you get distance.

No judgement.

Just pure curiosity.

This is how you start building the important foundation– and craft the new identity.

I don’t believe we need to change channels, but a lot of us need to bring out our characters to the surface. And what’s this look like?

An awesome life– packed with awesome experiences.

The truth is– you don’t need to change a thing, you just need to go for it. We lose our venturesome spirits, we lose our boldness, we age into convention.

Fuck the conventional mind.

There’s so much opportunity– all you need to do is step out and play.

Act like you have nothing to lose, did you forget you’re dying? There is nothing off limits. Your life is your life.

Play Publicly and people will join you.

I’m not interested in living low-key. I’m going to show it all.

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The Cycle of Success: Let Go, Upgrade, then Advance

Published September 26, 2021 by V

Remember when you wanted this?

Everything you have right now, this journey you are on– this used to be all of it.

Your process worked.

It took a ridiculous amount of trail and error, self-improving, starting and stopping different habits, introspecting, learning who you are, chasing the wrong goals, but all that led to the path.

If you want to make it– if you’re looking for a successful life, start where you are.

The key difference looking back that would have saved me tons of time and got me on this very same path, only sooner– is this: Build where you are, and do what you’re like.

Do you know why you don’t start?

You haven’t submitted.

It’s not about dedication or commitment, it’s about submitting to the idea that there is nothing else. That this path is the only path.

It’s about intentionally blocking out all other options and making the most of your journey.

What this looks like is– you look at what traits you have, things you do everyday, and consider both your strengths and weaknesses.

My path is me.

It’s a reflection of who I am to the core– that’s partly why I got out.

Want success?

First, submit.

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Practicing Social Dis-comfortably

Published September 24, 2021 by V

A lot of people prescribe action as the end-all be-all to whatever symptoms of pain and discomfort they might have.

But if you’re naturally impulsive, I’d pause on that.

A skill I’ve been practicing over the course of the last year is sitting with my discomfort.

You don’t always have to act– sometimes it’s better not to. Actually, when you’re agitated and tired, you should probably just step away from whatever thing you’re deciding and SLEEP ON IT.

That’s been a game changer for me.

We could all benefit hugely if we stopped taking our feelings as facts– they’re not facts, but data. If you feel agitated, there is a reason but it’s likely not the one you’ll land on.

Restless? You could be doing more– figure out how.

Agitated? Did you sleep, cross your own values, what are you missing?

There is always a reason we feel the way we do, rather than diagnosing it as you hate your life– figure out what specifically causes that feeling.

Sometimes sitting with it is all you need to address it.

I’ve always struggled with all or nothing thinking– if I felt a certain way, it meant my life was that way.

But that’s crap.

Life is actually pretty simple.

Define what’s important, and figure out how to start adding that into your day to day.

#Smallsteps

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Your World is a Mirror

Published September 23, 2021 by V

The genre of our lives comes from the mood of our minds.

Matrix-y? Maybe.

But the truth is, the universe is indifferent. Whatever it is you’re seeing and experiencing, that’s not reality.

That’s your mood reflected back to you.

You know those fortune cookies? Your attitude determines your altitude, well… as lame as they are– it’s true.

You won’t do anything in life if you hate it.

Everything we have and everything we are will come from how we approach the world.

I was always ambitious, and yet for years nothing happened. Because deep down, I resisted my own life. I had a craving to retreat, to pull away, to disappear and be alone. That conflicted with my desires to achieve.

Inner conflict usually results in no movement.

I didn’t entirely resolve this either, but I started moving forward when I figured out how to fake it.

You don’t have to lie to the world, you just have to trick your mind.

You have to choose to be lighter, not take things so seriously, and free yourself up to new experiences.

We’re all writers, our lives are our scripts and we’re the main characters.

But we live as if someone wrote us a shitty script that we’re stuck with?

What can’t be edited?

Nothing.

If you don’t like where you are, how you’re living, or what you continually seem to struggle with– rewrite your script.

Life bends to our will.

That’s the secret.

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Get Out of Your Bad Neighborhood

Published September 21, 2021 by V

Don’t announce your moves if you’re easily persuaded…

In my experience, when we’re hurtin’ for a break it isn’t from our lives but from ourselves. It’s not that you hate yourself, it’s just exhausting to always deal with the same shit.

And all of us do.

Our problems remain unchanged year after year, because we do.

We think it’s us, it’s just who we are, we’ve always been this way…. we think our mind (our neighborhood) is immutable.

Moving out is hard.

It’ll demand discomfort, and it’ll make you feel dishonest, like a fraud– which will cause you to stay attached to your unhappy self.

How is it that with all the imaginary powers human beings possess, their identity can’t be updated?

I don’t believe that.

When we were children, we were all fluid. We could joke, laugh at ourselves, and update values as required.

We need to go back to that.

We need to return to the creative mind, which we gradually lost for the conventional one.

Why does any of this matter?

Living a fulfilling life comes from identity? Having a successful career? That too. Everything– every single thing you could ever want starts here.

And this is changeable, and can be rebuilt at any moment.

Let’s get excited about building ourselves…

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The Master Key To Success Is 2nd Hand Wisdom

Published September 20, 2021 by V

I’d be willing to bet the most important thing to your success is clarity– your ability to see things as they really are.

Reality is neutral, but the human mind isn’t and we see reflections of our own thoughts and feelings in the world.

Our experiences become our reality.

And this is how the human being gets caught in their own web.

We live these matrix lives, where day in and day out it’s pretty much more of the same.

We face the same kinds of problems, conflicts, and even come up with the same kinds of solutions. We never think anything new, and if you really look– you’ll see your life is just you re-running the same program in different environments.

You might wonder why does it even matter?

Well, If you love your life it doesn’t. But if you desire for more and at that, actual achievement… it matters a lot.

There is a way to change this, but it’s hard and requires outside help.

I don’t mean your goo-roo.

You need help from future you… but not the successful one, the failure.

You need to get outside of yourself, see yourself, and then make adjustments and plans from that vantage point.

A few years back, I met someone a lot like me. At the time I didn’t see it, but they might as well have been me– aged to 40.

He had my same personality type, and with that, same life obstacles.

While he was incredibly witty and capable, he never built anything. He was always jumping from thing to thing, had all these ideas he never finished, and even though he knew how to laugh at the world– there was an underlying intensity you could feel.

I of course, saw no similarity.

But he did.

And he was smart enough to tell me you’ll want to create systems to stop you from jumping around– basically, know your weaknesses and act accordingly.

I didn’t listen.

So, I started to make his mistakes.

I did that for a few years, until finally I saw it. I could see that my mind did this.

And this is where success began. I could actually see myself aging into him, and to avoid that because I do want a fulfilling and successful life– I’m sticking. His problem is he never stays the course, he has too many ideas and acts on all of them all the time.

His problem, is potentially mine.

In your head you can’t see yourself.

Seeing him, my problem becomes real.

The reality is my mind is overactive and always imagines better paths– but these paths CAN’T cause you to leave your current one.

Looking at his life, I’ve seen how this all ends. It ends with wasted potential.

So, thanks to his second hand wisdom, I’m sticking to my lane. Everything else is just interesting, but not an option.

Learn from future you by meeting them.

The ability to see the world through a neutral lens is EVERYTHING.

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Un-stucking yourself? Any Direction will do…

Published September 19, 2021 by V

Behold a little fortune cookie quote from probably a bumper sticker:

“Movement cures all.”

I’ve noticed this concept applies to every aspect of my life, and will save you potentially thousands from would-be self help goo-roo books.

First, let’s understand the problem.

Why do we get stuck?

Here’s a solid explanation from google: We can be trapped in a situation just by a way of thinking. This leaves us unable to see another way, move (literally or metaphorically), or change. And, it usually leads to repeating the same situation or thinking, over and over again.

Short answer: thinking.

No one’s ever thought themselves into their goals…. or into living a full life.

I’ve tried it, can confirm it doesn’t work.

Something that’s trained into us unnaturally is hesitation. That’s not part of our primal nature, but after our graduating obedience training k-12, we become hypothetical dreamers, and literal lames.

Your task is to revert to your ignorance.

That childlike innocence that is excited about the world and then from there, MOVE.

MOVE anywhere. Do things, try things, experiment.

The reason you suck at the game of life is because you’re afraid. This game was meant to be played with ignorant boldness.

TURN OFF THAT INNER MONOLOGUE and turn on the play.

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What Everybody Ought to Know About Self Improvement

Published September 18, 2021 by V

The sheer volume of online personality tests available is insane.

There’s a test for everything.

From the bullshit “spirit animal” buzzfeed quizzes to self-soothing myers briggs “science” … we’re a generation looking for improvement.

Unfortunately, that’s not what results from these tests (pun intended).

Instead, we end up trying to over-identify with something stupid and then we become these weird mascots of some obvious archetype…. and now you’re not a whole ass person.

We start the rabbit hole in search of self betterment, but get lost in “proud of who I am.”

It’s cheap.

The problem with self improvement is this– definition. See, most of these tests shouldn’t exist. We forget what it is we’re trying to improve and when something like a good ol’ internet assessment tells us, “actually you’re not lazy–you’re an intellectual,” you end up defending being a loser.

In this sense, self improvement isn’t real.

After braces, we have a better smile– but those are still our teeth. Genetically, you have f**ked up teeth, but the braces kept them in line.

Don’t look for self-improvement, look to build systems (having things in place that maximize your character and make you your best version).

That’s what we all get wrong.

We don’t need better personalities or to change who we are.

We need better attitudes and systems to guide our behavior. That’s the only reason it’s important to know yourself– but this knowledge can’t be “tested online.”

This is you writing or being with yourself, and gradually getting to know yourself. What environments do you thrive in? Where do you suck?

Typing your date wouldn’t help you know them on any meaningful level.

It’s the same with yourself.

Don’t go cheap, go deep.

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Father Time’s a Track Star…

Published September 17, 2021 by V

If you delay, he’ll pass you.

Father Time always makes his rounds, and racing untrained runners is his specialty.

Look, I’ll admit that while I made pretty good progress this year– I’m no where near my goals…. and it’s time to switch pace.

I think the reason a lot of us are so hung up on what we want is we overthink it. We’re not sure is it right for us, should we pursue certain goals, etc.

But in truth, you don’t choose what you want–you’re born to it.

Your desires reveal who you really are and assuming you don’t wish ill of anyone, this is a good thing. It makes this entire process simple.

What lasts is you– your hopes and dreams that remain unimpacted by time and wisdom, that’s your task to bring to life.

When I was young, I thought I wanted to be a movie star– I grew up and realized I was right. But it wasn’t acting, or celebrity-ing around hunted by paparazzi.

For me, it was just having a fun life, living my own movie.

And that’s what I’m on now.

There’s no reason not to love life.

There’s no reason to take any of this too seriously.

It’s a game.

We know that, because we know how it ends.

We know it’s temporary.

And while we’re not racing against other individuals, there is a runner who’s always making his rounds.

Don’t stagnate, because he doesn’t.

Just keep move.

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Fake Interest To Take Interest

Published September 16, 2021 by V

Look, we all want engaging and fulfilling lives.

No one wants an existence of passionless routines.

But the level of fulfillment you’ll get doesn’t come from you matching to the right environment, it comes from you submitting totally to your current one.

It’s the weirdest and strangest law of nature.

Somehow, as a human being, you can role play your way into a new life.

The truth is, this VR world doesn’t have any rules for how you choose to approach the game and yet most people do it the same— they’re background characters in their own stories.

Imagine choosing to dominate instead, choosing to shine, choosing to go all out.

It’ll feel weird and unsafe to put yourself out there at the forefront because we’re raised not to do this.

You’ll have to fake it, but the advantages are endless. More opportunities, abundance, you’ll learn more skills, be more connected with others, and literally create a life of excitement from nothing but your own will.

Your childlike approach is the key, and I’m getting good at this myself.

FAKE IT.

Remember how you did that as a kid. We could pretend to be superheroes and just play.

If this was all a game– is this who you’d want to play as?

You are the person you imagine in your mind, your task is to bring that out. Do that, and you’ll create the life you dream of.

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Life’s Antidote: What Got You Results?

Published September 15, 2021 by V

Sometimes we two-step and fall back on our way forward.

I often fall into my default ways, but quickly catch myself with this reminder.

My big-thinking, my wishes and dreams– they feel good to live in, but only momentarily. Not only is this not real, but it’s robbed me of anything meaningful.

I’m talking about dreams.

The dreams you have but never act on.

Some say keep those alive, feed the fire– I say extinguish it. If you’re not already acting on them in some way, they are likely delusions…. then again, only you can know what’s real.

I don’t have all the answers, but it’s ultra-clear and plain-as-day-obvious that ONE cocktail-mix is responsible for all my progress in my life.

And that is:

Practicality + Commitment.

The practicality is the ability to see reality. We think we can– we can’t.

Not fully.

This is a skill that must be developed.

The clearer you can see reality, the more successful you’ll become. And the second part is commitment.

You dreamers might relate to this.

Before I had my thing (core skills and practices I could commit to), all I did was dream. I’d imagine traveling to new places, living a wild life of adventure, and doing it all. My life was some action movie, and me the hero.

Think of it this way: We’re made to commit. Babies are born as raw potential, but we only “become” something (self-actualize) through choosing a path and sticking to it.

Ironic.

Turns out, submission is true freedom.

The craving for my movie would get so strong, oftentimes It’d possess me and I’d move.

Then, finding myself in a new state and alone– clarity would follow. Here: I wasn’t adventurous or happy, rather miserable and pissed off. I couldn’t understand why I needed to come here. Why did I not see what I actually had?

It was like as soon as you sobered up from the call, you found that all you did was isolate yourself in a foreign land. Worse of all, now you lost all your progress and have to start over.

Which is why with this post I want to remind you: MIND WHAT WORKED.

What got you ahead in life?

Where did your progress come from?

It likely wasn’t jumping around, or doing something all or nothing. Change is incremental.

When we stagnate, we dream. That’s our default. But instead of doing something potentially regrettable, start where you are. Add small tweaks, the future is in the moment.

There is no where else to go, just lean in.

Life is here, if you engage– it’ll find you.

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Why aren’t you good?

Published September 14, 2021 by V

Do you have your reasons always ready?

We put off happiness because we still need (fill in the blank).

The irony is everything good in my life came from when I didn’t need anything. When I desired nothing to be different.

But we’re desire machines… and no one can desire nothing– well, no one I know.

It’s obvious for me that I can’t do what others do, neither can you. We may look at individuals we like and enjoy spending time with, and we open ourselves to their influence. We do this in hopes of absorbing some of that calmer energy.

But it doesn’t work like that.

The only things that last, are the things you earned.

Character is something intentional.

If you’re not guud, it’s because you need a better character.

This post is a reminder to myself: F**K ALL THE ADVICE. Life is too short, the only thing that should be top of the mind is who do you want to play this game as?

What kind of experiences do you want to have?

Define your life.

Everything follows your character. Just change yourself– and your life will follow.

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Do what you can’t not.

Published September 13, 2021 by V

A lot of pursuits are overrated.

I wasted more time than I care to admit on “idea validation.”

If wisdom is learning from others, the biggest takeaway for me has been this: whatever idea you’re on– run it.

Start.

Just dew it– swiftly, unsurely, naively.

It’s almost better if you don’t love it completely because then you’ll be practical.

A lot of us make the mistake of idea romanticizing. We wile away years wondering– is this idea the one tho? Does it fit who I am? Will it fulfill me?

Funny thing is, not only is that unproductive– but current you can’t answer that question. That’s not for you to answer. Leave future concerns, for your future self.

Nothing always leads nowhere.

Research feels like you’re doing something– but what results from it? Usually a headache, from staring at a computer screen all day… and still no actions taken.

The quickest way to start a business, find a passion, etc.- Is to do what you can’t not do. There are things you’ll do no matter what, they’re just apart of who you are and those are the things that will help you succeed.

Weird thing about a lot of us. When we’re starting out, we leave the things we’re good at, and our unique advantages, to then go start at ground zero.

Don’t do that.

Instead, take what you do automatically and leverage it.

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Success is Self-Esteem and You have None

Published September 12, 2021 by V

Yesterday I took this values exercise.

The exercise doesn’t ask you what you love and value, or what you think is important to you.

Instead, it asks how you spend your time and energy. What you do most days? What habits you regularly repeat?

And then looking at the cause behind those actions– we’ll find your values.

There were some recurring answers, and those values are much stronger than others. But the real point of this is to see if you’re living out what you admire.

Our Self-Concept is what determines our levels of success– I think therefore I am. Yeah, might sound corny… but stays true nonetheless.

Well, if you value constantly developing yourself, owning your time, growth, and health but you’re around turds who don’t– there will be residue throughout your being, and it’ll grow into anger towards those not like you.

The reason you take things personal is you see it as an attack on you.

People not like you undermine you of your values, which to an extent is true. If you value openness in communication but the other person values getting along– you’ll end up hating them, because to keep you around they think small talk is worth it. But you’ll never be close them, because you despise falseness, small talk, and idiots who can’t communicate.

I say all this to say, you NEED to become yourself to succeed and the only way to do that is to LIVE your values on your terms 100% EVERY SINGLE DAY.

There’s no half-sies.

Success is Self Esteem.

Which comes from identifying and living your values.

Stop keeping deadbeats around you. This is your movie, be selfish, you’re the main character after all.

Or would you like to disappear into the background of your own story?

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Internet + Insight = Freedom

Published September 11, 2021 by V

Knowledge will change you faster than a scolding parent– thing is, when we see a better way it’s almost impossible to go back.

Imagine being born in the best time ever– we’ve got infants making money, low-barriers to entry for most fields, access to nearly anyone on the planet, and all the information made public— imagine with all this, you still have old school goals.

That was me.

I had outdated desires.

But I did get lucky.

With my journey taking me through marketing, my mind was finally opened to the world I actually live in, and now I’m going modern.

If you’re stuck, it’s because you’re attached to a specific way/path. Let it go.

It’s crazy how much better life is when we redefine what it is we’re after. I used to dream about specific ways of succeeding– and that made me rigid, and unsuccessful.

When I opened myself up and let go of my own ideas, I found a better way, one that suited me far more.

If I’ve gained any wisdom from my small success so far, it’s this: Progress follows Playfulness and playfulness is being open.

A lot of us find ourselves angry for not knowing what we want, not having what we think we should– or being someplace we thought we desired.

That’s a pathetic attitude.

Realize right now, if you’re reading this– you’ve already got what you need. It isn’t a tool thing, it’s a mind thing. Let go of your idea of how things “should be.”

That’ll be what frees you to succeed.

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Toddler Fury: Where Do You Have It In You?

Published September 10, 2021 by V

When I was at my lowest-self-esteem, I reached out to legitimate mbti practitioners. Long story short, if you understand how your brain is wired, you can begin to see your blind spots and finally get better of them.

So, they typed me.

Of course, I didn’t agree with it at the time. I thought I was more magical, special, and some deviant… a unique exception to the rule. Why? Because I didn’t identify with my struggle– most of us don’t.

Despite the fact that I was doing exactly what she said I’d do.

I just thought the reason mattered– sure, maybe other EXXPs jump around because of their uncontrollable curiosity but not me. No, I’m looking for my unique purpose in life… and that’s different #Puke.

Anyways, point is they were right. And after having more of the same, I grew sick and tired and then finally wiser.

That led me to starting something and sticking which pulled me out, but that’s not the point of this story.

The point here is that was just step 1.

You can now move onto problem number 2.

Toddler fury over inanimate objects perfect timing.

Yesterday, my car alarm starts going off. I spring to action immediately to answer the cry for help, and make sure no particular intruder set off the bat signal. I’m standing there shooting my car with the clicker, but no response……

… I try what every capable American would. I keep pushing the button, harder, now I’m trying different combinations– Lock, unlock, alarm.

Still nothing.

The alarm goes silent from it’s annoying cry, but I can’t get into my car.

The clicker died, despite the battery being changed a year ago.

So my car, which is supposedly not alive, has decided to switch sides and lock me out. Rage.

Instant rage.

I could tell you what happens afterwards and how I drove to two different shops to get the clicker replaced, one had the tool for the job but no battery, the other had batteries and no tool — but I’ll spare you the details.

The day ended it with me discovering, it’s not the battery at all.

And on a more personal level, I still have a lot of work to do.

No human being can TOP the anger that comes from these seemingly unalive objects getting me.

How am I working on this?

By recognizing this will forever be a thing, and on these days I will stay true to the character I want to have.

Instead of driving around like a lunatic, I’ll go straight home. Stay enjoying the night and deal with it next day.

Put yourself first next time.

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Letting Go of Everything… Except the One Thing

Published September 9, 2021 by V

It’s true.

Desire is suffering.

The more we want, the more our minds focus on our current state of lack– and we start to feel restless and angry from being in a state of “not having.”

Putting yourself in a state of play will invigorate your life– but it’s not enough. There’s a lot of things we can change, and just by changing our attitudes, life definitely gets better.

But the things we can’t change is core desires.

You weren’t wrong for wanting, you were just doing it wrong.

In my youth, I knew I wanted freedom but it was undefined. I had no clue what that meant– and I pursued it in an idiotic fashion…

…Today, I have the end in mind. It isn’t just freedom, it’s living life on my terms. Knowing this, I don’t waste time pursuing things that won’t lead to it.

You can only have one desire at a time.

That’s the issue for most of us, we’re not able to point to a single thing and say confidently: That is what I’m after.

Happiness is letting go.

That’s true, but we have to have our one thing– we need the guiding light.

And that brings me to where I am today. Purpose.

It isn’t spiritual. It isn’t abstract.

It’s what allows us to explore while being directed, to play while moving forward.

Define your end goal, have it clear enough to know when you get it but broad enough for it to evolve with you.

This is what makes life rich.

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Feeding Your Wolves

Published September 7, 2021 by V

Inside me there are two wolves.

One hungers for a life of discipline, mastery, and total submission to my craft. The other craves adrenaline, adventure, and to live out my own movie life.

These wolves are radically different by nature, don’t belong to the same pack but equally need to be fed.

It used to be one or the other. I’d choose one and “free” the other– hoping it’d disappear and join another pack….. They don’t.

You won’t starve one off either, just make them hungrier… and harder to control.

You’re born to these wolves, they’re apart of you. You don’t get to pick and choose or trade with other packs, because like it or not, they are what drives you.

Feed your wolves.

Find what they hunger for and feed them both. Make the mistake of favoring one, and you’ll find yourself at the mercy of the other.

Your becoming is a result of leading your pack, they have to work together. The only way to do that, is design a life where both wolves can co-exist and be satisfied.

Want that movie life? Star as the main character– be bold, stand out, take new risks every single day. As for mastery, commit yourself to a few disciplines. It isn’t one or the other, there is no right way or wrong way. It’s actually simple…

…What do they hunger for?

Feed them.

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