Hey Fool.
A lot of us forget how easily things can change.
For years I was stuck, unemployed, depressed, angry, and totally empty. I wanted my ambitions but didn’t want to negotiate with life at all, so it was all or nothing– which ended with nothing.
Looking back, I can’t understand why I did it.
But I think I know what starts it.
Withdrawing. We’ve all got our own reasons for pulling away– we feel pain, insecure, want to work on our issues, but the irony is by pulling away and withdrawing, we rot.
It’s when you don’t want to leave the house that you need to.
It’s when you don’t want to work, that you should.
Nothing good comes from isolation.
I have no regrets, because everything I did led me to where I am. That said, if I could change anything looking back– I’d never allow myself to withdraw and pull away. I’d always be working, moving, have hobbies, keep busy.
Some will tell you it’s good to take time, I disagree.
The more you’re there, the harder it becomes to leave.
I became so stuck, feeling so worthless and full of self hate that the only way I could save myself was moving to another state, and doing so when in that mindset was incredibly hard.
I don’t know if I could have done it had I not had my friend with me.
Momentum is real.
That move ended up pulling me right out and gave me a clean slate.
If you’re feeling stuck, hopeless, unsure of yourself– don’t be picky. Don’t “use” this time to find the perfect career, calling, or whatever. It doesn’t work like that.
You don’t have the skills, so looking will just amount to depressing around– till years pass you by and you wonder how the hell you got to where you are.
Work.
Take any job. Momentum is key. If you don’t like it, you can switch, but jobs give you skills and confidence– by overcoming challenges.
Right now, you need to earn an income, get busy, and build yourself up… THIS does not happen through reading or staying at home.
It just doesn’t.
You can reinvent yourself at any moment. The instant I moved, my life changed. The instant we got in that car and started driving, I pulled myself out.
If you want to get out, you don’t need a diagnosis or pills and prescriptions, you need to move.
Depression is disconnection.
Until you have a career, social group, and your own shelter– you shouldn’t be diagnosing.
You haven’t met all your human needs yet.
Focus on movement, and I promise you– it’ll all change for the better.
#FoolForward
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