Why does it take us so long to come to basic realizations?
Having a breakthrough is awesome, but not enough. No one ever talks about the relapse afterwards. Unlike the movies, the person who finally “makes it” is still who they were before. So yeah, you achieved your goal, but your struggles won’t just disappear.
It took me an embarrassingly long time to just do basic things. I knew skills were the answer, but I was too comfortable believing in the dream.
I wanted that all-or-nothing life. That life where my career is everything, I compete, and what I do is so closely tied to who I am that I desire nothing but to continue to play the game.
And unlike those rare individuals (Steve Jobs, Michael Jordan, etc.) I never found it.
Because I never had an all-consuming obsession to begin with, which was baffling to me, who has an unbelievably obsessive personality.
So this post is for the non-Steve Jobs individuals. The rest of us.
How do we make life good?
And in comes identity. If you’re struggling in quick-sand and have a hard time moving anywhere, you need to change your image.
Everything, literally everything in your life, can be traced back to how you see and define yourself.
And if you’re stuck, the first hard step is figuring out which direction you want to move in. I knew I wanted to be self-employed and have the time and freedom to, basically do whatever I want.
Knowing this led me to considering skills I could do from anywhere.
And that led to my current career.
I didn’t pick this from a burning passion, just a core value. The hard part became staying the course.
To not throw it all away like I always have, I had to redefine myself.
I can’t see myself as this magical and special individual who has a far greater fate than anyone on this planet- because that belief always left me broke, unemployed, and depressed.
I had to let that go, and create a more functional identity.
Like being a learner, entrepreneurial, the person who embraces changes and challenges for the sake of personal evolution.
When I chose to become my best, life reflected it.
You need to stand for something more than yourself. WHO do you want to become?
Your life will follow.
#StayFoolish
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